#1: Trusting Your Instinct

In this podcast, I reveal:

  • How to enlist, recognize, and trust your gut instinct.
  • How to stake your claim, and why putting it in writing is critical.
  • How to do seemingly impossible things if you have the right perspective.
  • How to get the timing and direction right for your next step.
  • How take the right action with confidence.
  • How to get sight of your goal again if it vanishes out of view.

I also explain why being good at ‘doing what I was told’ had become a handicap, and why my ‘genius’ was underdeveloped. Discover why ‘doing what winners do’ does NOT guarantee you’ll win, too. This program will help you understand and implement the important principles governing your ‘inner voice’ so you will more naturally be able to enlist it, recognize it for what it is, and trust it to take you where you want to go.

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welcome to the rare faith podcast where
the solution to every problem is only an
idea away and where the same activity
with just a little more awareness always
yield better results award-winning
best-selling author Leslie householder
bring some of her best information to
this inspiring series of life-changing
episodes that you won’t want to miss
show notes for this episode can be found
at a rare kind of faith calm
so what I’d like to do now is introduce
our speaker today Leslie are you with us
I am fantastic
I always like to check that out so
there’s no silence after I introduce the
speaker
Leslie householder is internationally
recognized she’s an award-winning two
time bestselling author she also is one
of the contributing authors to several
of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books
she’s married to a gentleman named
Trevon householder together they have
seven children I’m showing you what a
busy person this is and yet she has time
to be the founder and president of
thoughtful life and that’s a company
dedicated to helping families achieve
prosperity and look at her goals here
through success principles education and
training it’s my pleasure to introduce
Leslie householder thanks Kevin it’s
it’s a privilege to be here and you know
I’m listening to you give this bio on me
and I’m thinking oh my gosh how does she
do all that and and that’s kind of what
I’m going to talk to you about today is
recognizing that you can do seemingly
impossible things if you’ve just got the
right perspective you know I think back
to when my husband I got married we’d
determined that you know I wanted to be
home with the kids he wanted me to be
home with the kids it was a match and
that was our objective and so when we
started having children the first one
was on its way and and we were not
financially prepared for me to stay home
but we were committed to the to the goal
and so we just took the leap I quit work
and we knew that somehow it would work
out because we were operating on faith
and you know after about a year of this
we were up to our armpits in debt and my
husband lost his job and I was forced
back to work and it kind of hit me you
know beside the head and I suddenly
started questioning some of the
principles that I was relying on to help
us achieve our goals and we started
attending seminars trying to figure out
what was it that we were missing that we
couldn’t prosper the way we wanted to
and we were we were trying to think
outside of the box I mean every seminar
that we ever went to really helped us
get a piece you know I think about like
a combination lock the kind where a
certain number of tumblers have to fall
into place and each time we attended a
seminar and heard a speaker we got a
piece
and it fell into place but it didn’t
open the lock and and it got to a point
where after about 7 years of this and
more than 100 seminars I started to
think you know what maybe I
this is nuts I can’t justify spending
grocery money on seminars anymore this
is going to be the last one and
gratefully that’s the one the final
tumbler fell into place and you know
within just a few months our income
tripled and it was a long process to
come to that point and I realized it is
so much more simple than I ever allowed
it to be all those years and so I’m
hoping that today I can share something
with you that can can bring some
simplicity to success principles so that
whatever it is you do you can do it more
effectively and with more peace of mind
and with less stress and accomplish more
than you ever thought was possible now I
just want to share a quick story with
you someone that I know was driving with
a friend his name was John I don’t know
what his friend’s name was but if they
were driving John’s friend turned to him
and said hey John aren’t you going to
put on your seatbelt and John kind of
chuckled he says why are we going to get
in a crash and the other gentleman said
well no but you realize seatbelts save
lives and John responded he says
seatbelts don’t save lives and the
friend was just incredulous that he
would say that and so he goes well John
of course they do seatbelts save lives
you have no idea I was with my family
were rides down the road some told me to
turn around and make sure everybody was
belted up so I did and if we turned the
corner there was a head-on collision and
we all survived because of those
seatbelts and John shook his head and he
says now the seatbelts didn’t save your
life whatever told you to put them on
saved your life and that struck me that
really impacted me because I realized
that in in all of my efforts in all of
our efforts to to try to break out of
the bondage that we felt like we were in
there is an element of timing and
direction to the things you do and the
timing is everything
wouldn’t you agree that I mean you might
be in the right direction but you might
have the wrong timing don’t you think
that timing has any effect on your
results if you’re in the real estate
market for example timing is everything
and so what is it that helps you know
what to do when you know and that’s the
same thing with whatever your chosen
profession is it’s not just on the macro
in terms of trends you know
I mean right now there’s trends in
certain directions and you can hop on
those bandwagon but it’s also true in
the micro in other words the timing of
what to do when throughout your day you
have a stack of business cards and
you’re trying to generate some revenue
for your business how do you know if
it’s the right time to call that person
on that business card how do you know if
it would be better to put that business
card down and call it later all of these
things there’s so much that we don’t
know there’s so many variables involved
it’s critical that you recognize the
need to rely on the hidden genius that
we all have access to to help you get it
right now I look back and through my
schooling I did okay I did I did well in
my schooling I got good grades and
everything but math eventually I did
good and math and then had to teach it
because I realized that it’s not so
simple for everybody and how much better
it would be to learn it from someone who
struggled with it kind of turns into my
theme for my life when I come through
something that was extremely challenging
for me I just can’t help but teach it
and that’s why I do what I do now but
coming through the system I got really
good at doing what I was told I was the
teacher’s pet I would sit there they
would tell me to do something I was
paying attention I’d do it most the time
you know I was a kid too then I went to
college and got through college and was
doing the best I could doing what I was
told my grades weren’t fantastic because
I was also starting family and and busy
busy busy but what I realized in the
long run is that doing well at being
told what to do became my handicap
because once we got out of the system
once I got out of the system that told
me okay do this do that do this do that
I realized that I was left to my own
genius and I realized that it was
severely underdeveloped and so you know
I’m kind of out on the end of this
system that tells me what to do and
getting good grades and getting good
scores and and doing well and coming to
a place where the next most natural
place to live that way would be in a job
being told what to do and doing well at
it and going for promotions and raises
and things like that but when we had
decided that we were going to raise a
family and I left that world all of a
sudden I had all kinds of decisions to
make on my own without being told what
to do
and that’s why we started going to do
seminar so what I recognized was that we
began to look to experts to tell us what
to do we looked for the book that said
here is what you do step by step and you
will succeed we would hear things like
do what the winners do and you will win
– you’d hear do what I did and you can
have what I have and so we were
following this we were buying into this
and we were doing what we were told as
best we could and I’d like to just kind
of give you an example at one point we
were building a business and trying to
generate revenue through it and we were
told by the experts that if we would
just show 150 presentations we would be
earning at the time $2,000 a month which
was like it was going to almost double
our income at the time and this was not
in the 1950s so we created a chart of
150 squares and we put a little yellow
smiley face sticker on each one of those
squares
every time we showed a presentation
because we knew that nobody had ever
shown 150 presentations and not made
$2,000 a month so we thought great all
we have to do is fill in this chart well
we got to the end of the chart and we
were not making $2,000 we were probably
the first ones to come along to fail at
that system and we we didn’t know what
was wrong what was wrong with us what
was so wrong with us that we couldn’t do
what everyone else was doing and
achieved the same results and so what we
realized I’m going to kind of skip ahead
to the lesson learned in that was that
we had set the goal to show 150
presentations we achieved their goal we
achieved their goal problem was we
hadn’t really identified the proper goal
the goal in the right way those who were
actually making the money that we wanted
by doing 150 presentations were people
who had set their goal on the results on
why they were doing 150 presentations
and so we achieved our goal and we
didn’t get the results we thought
because we weren’t focused on the
results and so what we realized is that
during that whole process we were
actually attracting people into our
lives who were kind enough to let us
show them a presentation while on the
other hand people who had set their goal
with
intention on the right outcome were
attracting people who wanted what they
had to offer you see the difference and
how how subtle the difference is and so
as we were going along and I was
realizing that we’re not getting the
results we want and this was this was
getting really old really fast and
without recognizing these step-by-step
instructions on what to do being
effective for us I kind of fell back on
principles I relied on the principles
that had always served me well
throughout my life be good serve others
be honest do what is right
it sees these instructions on how to
live well and be happy and I thought
well if I just do that then then things
will work out financially too but in in
truth things got worth worse financially
and it took me a while to realize that
there are laws that are connected to the
results you’re looking for but the one
that says have good relationships isn’t
necessarily the same principle or
universal law that you have to abide by
in order to get the financial success
and so I started looking for the
principles that I could rely on to help
us thrive financially to now and it came
down to this instinct principle I’d like
you to picture something I want you to
picture that you are in a field and you
spot a wolf or a dog out in the field
chasing a rabbit can you get a visual
image of that on the on the screen of
your mind you see it jumping this way
barking thrashing darting it’s very
erratic looking but but it’s chasing a
rabbit now picture this if you couldn’t
see the rabbit what would you think of
the dog
well you’d naturally think that it must
be crazy
now take it one step further suppose it
it stumbles out onto the path in front
of you with the rabbit in its mouth and
you suddenly realize oh I get it I see
why it was acting so crazy
it was chasing a rabbit I think I want
to rabbit I’m going to go out into the
field and I’m going to do exactly what
that dog did so that it will produce a
rabbit for me so I’m going to walk out
into the field you’re going to jump this
way bark that way thrash around dark
around and do exactly step by step with
that dog did number one
will that produce a rabbit of course not
the activity never produces the rabbit
you have to realize that the dog did
what it did because it saw its rabbit
and number two not only is it not going
to produce a rabbit but if there are
rabbits nearby it’s going to keep them
very very far away from you right
because you’re just being erratic and
crazy and scaring things and so it’s the
difference between taking step-by-step
advice and instinctively knowing what
you should do now let me just tell you
something about instinct most of the
time when you’ve activated your instinct
to help you achieve a goal most of the
time you will not know what’s happening
and so where that where the title of
this piece is enlisting identifying and
trusting your instinct for success I
haven’t told you yet how to enlist it
I’ll get to that but identifying I just
want you to know right up front you’re
not going to know what’s happening you
just have to trust that it is you have
to trust that it is and so let me give
you another example when I was a
teenager and my friends we wanted to
take some other friends out for for
dinner and we were going to make a fun
game out of this what we did is my
friend and I Michelle would sit in the
car with a tape recorder if you remember
what that is depending on how old you
are and we would say okay we’re backing
out of the driveway we’re turning left
we’re driving 25 miles an hour we’re
slowing down because there’s a traffic
jam we’re turning right right now and we
would describe step by step our actions
to get to the location of the dinner and
then later that evening when it was time
to go to the dinner we gave the tape
recorder to the people who had not been
involved in this and said and we’d sit
in the backseat would say there
play the tape and take us to dinner and
so they turned on the tape and they
would try to follow exactly what we had
done in the exact timing we had done it
in the right direction that we had done
it and it became absolutely laughable
because at some point along the way
traffic wasn’t quite what it had been or
they had gone a little too fast or a
little too slow and they would get out
of sync with what we had experienced
when we had done it and it would get
them confused they would get frustrated
they’d have to stop the tape recorder
they’d have to back up they’d have to
turn it back on where they knew they
were in the right place at the right
time and it was it was a fiasco trying
get to the location now I know this is
elementary but if we had told them where
we were going how easy would it have
been for them to figure it out you know
if we had said okay we’re going to this
particular restaurant at this particular
place in town it would not have mattered
where they were when they started what
kind of traffic was in the way what kind
of obstacles they faced even if they had
come to a dead-end
stop they would have known what to do
they wouldn’t have needed someone to
tell them what to do and that’s what
this instinct thing is all about and so
let me tell you how to how to enlist it
how to turn it on in your life because
I’ll tell you right now it’s on for you
it’s on for you and it’s already helping
you get to a certain destination the
question is what is that destination and
is it what you want now if I were to ask
you what is your goal what are you
trying to achieve where are you trying
to go and if your answer isn’t already
on the tip of your tongue then what you
have put in place is an instinct that is
helping you get somewhere vague and then
you wonder why life isn’t turning out
the way you hoped so instinct is
enlisted number one by having an image
in your mind now I want you to think
back you may or may not remember this
but when you were a baby and you were
given this tool for your mind this body
and you’re laying there on the floor on
the blanket and you see that fist waving
around up in front of you and you your
neurons are firing and you’re trying to
make it do something and it’s just not
going right and with practice eventually
you can get that fist into your mouth
and you you achieved the goal and then
pretty soon you start seeing those toes
down there and you you spend all day
long trying to get that hand to grab
that foot and finally you grab the foot
you’ve achieved that goal and you did it
and then pretty soon you’re trying to
get those toes into your mouth and this
is this is what you’re doing all day
long you’re practicing how to use this
tool of your mind the body and
eventually we get we grow up we realize
you know I don’t need to rely on mom to
hand me a bottle
I don’t need to even rely on her to make
me a sandwich eventually I start doing
that on my own
eventually I start doing all kinds of
things on my own but then we get to a
point in our life where we’re grown up
and we think we’ve figured it all out we
think we know everything that this body
we were given at birth that we we
figured out everything it can do well
what we find out is that probably a very
small percentage of the population maybe
I’m going to guess 3% just because of
some statistics I’ve heard around goal
setting about 3% of the population I’m
estimating have discovered that there is
something else that this tool of the
mind can do our body and that is help us
achieve our goals in a better way than
forcing things and running around and
doing crazy things trying to make things
happen and what that is is that you can
initiate this instinct factor by putting
a picture on the screen of your mind of
the outcome you’re trying to achieve
I equate this with a time when my friend
and I we had gotten off the subway in
New York and we decided that we wanted
to go visit the World Trade Centers at
the time we got off the subway and we
looked around trying to figure out which
way was up and as we looked on the
skyline we could see the World Trade
Centers ah there it is that’s where
we’re going let’s go and because we
weren’t familiar with Manhattan we
thought well as long as we can see it
it’s close enough to walk to and if
you’ve ever been to New York just
because you can see it doesn’t mean it’s
close I mean I think you can be clear
into another state and see the World
Trade Centers so we started walking and
after quite some time we were feeling
kind of tired and and sometimes we would
we would lose sight of it but we would
know that just because we lost sight of
it in the moment doesn’t mean it wasn’t
there and this was of course back before
they came down but the principle still
applies that we knew they were there and
we knew that if we kept walking if we
kept walking they’d come back into view
and this is one principle that people
who set goals and achieve them have
discovered that sometimes you can’t
really see the goal on the screen of
your mind like you could when you set
out to achieve it
that’s okay because if you remember that
it was there at one time you keep
walking you keep walking you keep moving
forward you keep doing what you can do
today and eventually they’ll come back
into view and you can put them on the
screen of your mind any time you choose
but it’s the belief that it’s still
achievable that comes and goes sometimes
and we have to operate on faith and keep
moving our feet anyway now here’s how to
initiate the instinct you make a
decision on what it is you want you set
the intention you put it in writing
present tense and I know you’ve heard
that before
you don’t just toss it in the direction
of the goal like wishing but it’s like
staking your claim if if you have a
target imagine a target a bull’s eye and
imagine you have an arrow you’re not
going to take your bow and pull it back
and shoot out and give it your best shot
you’re not even going to toss it in the
direction but mentally you’re going to
walk to that goal you’re going to take
that arrow and you’re going to plant it
with all your force into the center of
the bullseye and it’s like you have a
string to the end of that arrow and
you’re going to walk back to where it
mentally walked back to where you are in
reality and you’re going to just reel
yourself in you’re going to wrap that
string up you’re going to make a ball of
yarn out of it and as you get that
wrapped up because it’s like your
timeline you’re going to get closer to
the decision that you made way back when
in your mind now by the way you stake
your claim that way the way you make the
intention real is to put it in writing
you put it in writing now a lot of you
aren’t going to do this just because I’m
saying I know because for seven years I
heard people in these seminars tell me
picture what you want dream big write it
down
picture what you want dream big write it
down and you know what I was thinking
the whole time
yeah yeah I get that but what am I
supposed to do yeah yeah yeah yeah okay
I get it but what am I supposed to do
because I was looking for someone to
tell me what to do because I was very
good at being obedient but you see what
a disaster that is when someone tells
you what they did but it’s not the same
thing that you’re going to do yeah okay
so their steps that they’ve written in
their books and whatnot and I’ve written
books that have steps in it and those
are very
well what you will probably do on your
way to success but the timing is
everything I can tell you that there
have been people who have called me to
propose an idea that could have meant
some kind of revenue to them if I had
said yes to their opportunity but they
called me at the wrong time it was at
the dinner hour I had children climbing
all over me I had you know I just didn’t
have time to think and so where they
hear about hero rejection the next
person that comes along calls me at the
right time because something told them
in that moment call Leslie and they
acted on it and so when a thought comes
to your mind on your way to a goal that
says do this do that you’re not going to
recognize it probably as a voice that
says do this it’s time to do this oh
there’s my instinct talking no it’s just
going to be a thought and you’re
probably accustomed to dismissing it
saying okay I’ll do that later yeah
that’s a good idea I’ll write that down
but when you get used to paying
attention to where’d that come from that
kind of came out of nowhere I think I’ll
try it
doesn’t mean that the person you’re
about ready to call is necessarily going
to get you the result that you have in
mind but the experience is going to lead
you one step closer to your goal maybe
that is the person but if it isn’t it’s
not because it didn’t work but it’s
because you got good at paying attention
taking action and doing what your
instinct told you to do in that moment
it may lead you to the next person it
may start a conversation that says you
know what funny you should mention that
because I know so-and-so over here who
died and it leads you to the answers to
the solutions that you’ve been looking
for
so make a decision what you’re trying to
achieve and you’re not trying to achieve
150 presentations you’re trying to
achieve something probably about your
lifestyle that you’d like better
something about your family life
something about your financial freedom
something about how much choice you’ve
given yourself you realize that every
choice we make either opens us up to
more choices or it reduces our number of
choices and we always want to make
choices that open us up to more choices
in the future that’s what freedom is
that’s what getting out of bondage looks
like and so you set the intention you
see it on the screen of your mind and I
tell you that because this
Oddie that you were given at birth has a
faculty that steers you to the solution
to every problem that you could ever
face if you will first put it on the
screen of your mind the outcome that
you’re trying to achieve now let me give
you a real-life example of how this can
work alright so remember at one time I
had a bank fee or something that I
didn’t think was appropriate or or maybe
it was at a time when I over drafted the
account and I got this see and I
realized that I could make a phone call
I’ve put the money in to replace it
because the mistake had been fixed
whatever and I call up the bank and I
know that the person on the other line
has the ability to reverse that charge I
know that now whether or not they’re
going to do that that’s their choice
so how can I prepare myself to get the
outcome that I want all right I can call
them up and in in fury and fear that oh
my gosh they’re going to you know
they’re just going to have it there
they’re going to be having a bad day
they’re going to say no I just know it
alright I’m just going to call them
because I know I should this little
instinct thing is saying call to try to
reverse this and all right I’m going to
listen I’m going to pick up the phone
I’m calling the bank and the person who
answers the phone says hello this is the
day and you say yeah you know there’s
this I made this mistake there’s a C I’m
wondering if you could reverse it all
the while picturing the train wreck
you’re trying to avoid all the while on
the screen of your mind is a picture of
this person being mean to you and
denying your request all right so what
you’re going to get is someone who feels
your resistance feels you’re upset and
subconsciously it’s going to reflect
that back to you and probably deny your
request now on the other hand same
situation you take a minute you close
your eyes you picture the experience the
way you want it to be maybe maybe you’re
not picturing necessarily what they’re
saying to you but picture yourself
hanging up the phone with a smile on
your face saying ah I am so grateful
that worked out for me you picture the
outcome picture the outcome picturing
the outcome is the difference between
seeing the lifestyle and see
the hundred and fifty stickers on the
chart
do you see the difference the one is the
means and the other is the end and so
instead you you picture hanging up the
phone being grateful that it worked out
for you the way you wanted it to but now
when you dialed the number
something’s going to work out for you
that the person on the other line who is
the grumpy one that day is going to be
called out to to handle something else
and the other person the nice one is
going to be there to answer the phone
for you
or the one who’s having a bad day may
answer the phone and when it’s not going
the way you think you’d like it to go
you’re instinctively instinctively going
to know to ask for a supervisor you know
it would it be okay if I talk to your
supervisors or someone else I can speak
with the way you respond to people and
the choices you make and the actions you
take are going to be determined by the
images that you’ve placed on the screen
of your mind and allowed yourself to
feel how that would feel if there is so
much power not just in putting it on the
pick on the screen of your mind but
allowing yourself to feel it as though
it really is happening and that’s what
changes the energy that you’re bringing
to the phonecall that’s what changes
your energy it’s like tuning a radio to
a different broadcast if you’re looking
for solutions to a problem and the
solutions you’re coming up with are only
perpetuating the problem which is
bondage then by changing the image on
the screen of your mind and allowing
yourself to feel it how do you do that
ask yourself what would it feel like if
write that down what would it feel like
if and when you can answer that question
you’re feeling it what would it feel
like if this happened the way I wanted
it to and what that’s doing is it’s
putting you on a different frequency to
pick up on a different broadcast of
solutions and word choices and behaviors
that are going to help people around you
react more favorably in your direction
so in summary let’s look at this your
instinct is always being activated it’s
already there it’s helping you right now
achieve goals that you may not realize
you’ve set and what would those be those
are images that are on the screen of
your mind and that you’re emotionally
involved with all the time if you’re
always picturing the
first case scenario and emotionally
involved with that through fear then
your instinct is helping you get there
now your instinct people call it you
know part of this is related to your
subconscious mind your subconscious mind
is designed to keep you safe it’s the
part of you that keeps your heart
beating through the night and all day
long and so the screen of your mind is
your tool that you’ve been given at
birth to help you steer your life and by
picturing what you want and feeling it
you’re enlisting that trust that it’s
working for you keep the positive images
on your mind deal with your setbacks and
your hardships unemotionally so that
your emotion can be reserved especially
for where you want to go and that will
keep you on the path so with that thank
you for listening and we’ll turn the
time right back to Kevin Leslie that was
fantastic thank you so much I learned
things I took notes I hope everybody did
you know I’ve been working on goal
setting but setting goals with a result
in mind such a small difference from
what I’ve been doing but it’s huge in
the outcome that’s going to change my
life I appreciate that I also loved
identifying your goal and lifting and
trusting your instinct thank you for
joining us this morning have a terrific
weekend bye bye this concludes today’s
episode of the rare faith podcast you’ve
been listening to Leslie householder
author of the jackrabbit factor portal
to genius and hidden treasures heavens
astonishing help with your money matters
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Leslie is the award-winning, best selling author of The Jackrabbit Factor: Why You Can, Hidden Treasures: Heaven's Astonishing Help With Your Money Matters, and Portal to Genius (all FREE downloads!). She aims to help you crush every challenge, achieve every goal, and vanquish every monster under your bed. Above all, Leslie is a dedicated wife and mother of seven children.
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