Fall Forward to Prosperity

Dream ideas are so fragile. They are quiet, powerful packages containing unlimited opportunity.

A single opportunity, the smallest thought…

The decision you make about what to do with the thought, can take you closer to your goal or leave you drifting from it.

The idea pops into your head and can change your life, or it can be discarded, or rejected in a fraction of a second.

Each moment you exist is a moment of choice.

The next time an idea pops into your head, care for it like a newborn.

Protect it. Nourish it.

Don’t reject it just because it doesn’t become an adult in a day.

Enjoy the dream of what it could become.

Honor it.

An idea is God’s way of bringing you solutions to your problems. At times they seem absurd, but they wouldn’t be there if they weren’t possible (and likely intended) for YOU.

Don’t worry so much about making mistakes that you remain paralyzed.

When making a decision, do as I learned from Paul Martinelli:

Ask if it is in line with your purpose, and ask if it will get you closer to your goal.

If the answer is yes to both, then go for it.

Don’t be afraid of falling, because everyone will fall sometimes.

The question is, are you falling forward or backward?

Fall forward, and keep on keeping on.

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Tender Mercies – a call for stories!

Photo credit: Vanessa Kay, Vanessa Kay Photography

I had a wonderful conversation with one of my readers (Vanessa), whom I’ve never met. It started about six months ago when she contacted me, expressing an interest in joining the Mindset Mastery program. She has given me permission to share our conversation.

She wrote:

Hi Leslie, unfortunately I don’t have [the price of the program] in my combined bank accounts…and I still haven’t paid my rent or utilities yet for August…so clearly I need this program, lol. But I totally believe it’s just what I need. I’ve read all of your e-books and have listened to every single podcast….and I have had some really amazing miracles already. 

From there, she began telling me about the tender mercies she’s experienced. Her gratitude and acknowledgment to God for his day to day support has inspired me. It’s created a desire in me to request and gather similar stories from others (like you!) who are practicing the principles of rare faith, and who recognize little blessings, even when the big things are not yet achieved. The more we see God’s hand in our life and acknowledge it, the more blessed I believe we will be.

She related:

I have some pretty amazing and truly unbelievable things happen in the last year and a half, including:

  • Being given a $10,000 horse that was a star of a huge touring show (Cavalia) and who now brings in my most consistent income each month
  • Having a mere acquaintance actually give me her minivan when I had no car that would fit my family or reliable transportation so I could work
  • Getting my really talented daughter onto a gymnastics team that cost $360/month where she won 1st all-around at every single competition but one – for free (well bartering) and now having her coached privately 3 days a week by a coach who has coached Olympians for free
  • Getting my husband’s son, who his mom said he could never live here full time to come live with us – and wiping out $13k in arrears overnight.
  • Making it to Utah to sing in the tabernacle with my daughter – one of the highlights of my parenting life – with only $30 in my account

That’s just a few of the stories – there are others that are not so huge and unbelievable as well – that I’m working on that illustrate the same principles you have written about in Jackrabbit Factor, Hidden Treasures and Portal to Genius. The problem is finding the time to get it all done – and that’s my biggest concern about attempting the Mastery program – although clearly I need it and I feel like it might be the answer I’m looking for.

You see, while I have been able to manifest some really amazing blessings (and I feel like I’ve had inspiration on some really great ideas), I’m clearly missing a key point somewhere. For example, it’s now the 13th of the month and I have yet to pay my rent (I don’t even have a portion of what I need yet), my utilities are all in danger of being shut off at any moment, and my husband has maybe a day left of medicine that keeps him functional. And my new van just broke down this week on the freeway on my way to my dream job and it looks like it might be the transmission died, which I have no way of paying for. And this is pretty typical for me at this point in the month.

Yet somehow I make it through every month.

I hope you don’t mind if I give you a little background on me. I’m sure you’re super busy, so don’t feel like you have to read all of this, but I feel like it might help to give you some context!

It’s interesting because I have listened to every single podcast and read every blog post, but I especially enjoyed the one where you shared more about yourself from a gospel perspective (I think maybe the perfectionism and prosperity one? or maybe the one on stay at home moms actually) and I feel like I can relate to you on nearly every level. From trying sooo hard to be perfect in keeping every single commandment as I grew up, to wanting more than anything to get married and have a family and be a stay at home mom and have that and making my home a wonderful place being my highest goal. I really never dreamed of having a career or making money. In fact, money in my eyes, was a necessary evil and certainly not to be sought after. Because before seeking for riches we should seek after the kingdom of God right? I even started out my married live driving a beat up old VW bug with no heating or AC and parts just broken off and prayed at our wedding reception that we’d have enough cash in the cards to get us home.

After 14 years of a very difficult marriage that ended with a court-ordered 5-year restraining order and little to no financial support for myself and my kids, I found myself in the difficult position of being a single mom and trying to fulfill the roles of both provider and mother. Throughout my marriage, I had made staying home with my kids a priority, even when pressured to bring in income and put my husband through school. I did this by taking a job managing apartments and starting a photography business that I could work on mostly while my kids were sleeping or at school.

It was very much a struggle to keep my family going in the high-cost area I live (Newport Beach, CA), but somehow I barely managed to make ends meet living on the barest of necessities for a couple of years until I connected with an old high school friend (we had never dated, however) who ended up learning about the gospel, taking the missionary discussions and was baptized. Six months later we began dating and a year later we were married. He had a good job making almost $90k and I was so thrilled to finally be able to really focus on my kids and family and home and not on spending every moment worrying about where our next meal would come from. I still did a few photography jobs here and there for some extra income, but I stopped marketing and focused on my kids. Our little family was so happy and harmonious.

But less than a year later my husband began getting very tired and dizzy. Long story short, he began getting sicker and sicker and doctors could not figure out why. Within a few months he could no longer last even an hour or two at work and his doctor put him on temporary disability. That went on for a year as he continued to get worse and worse. I started trying to ramp up my business again, and fortunately, he was still bringing in 40% of his previous income via short-term disability insurance, but that ended almost 18 months ago. Since then it’s been just me, only as his income left the picture our expenses have skyrocketed. AFter 2.5 years of so many tests it was figured out my husband has Lyme disease and multiple other infections and a pretty much non-existent immune system (so many infections including mycoplasma pneumonia, h. pylori, epstein-barr, multiple parasites among other issues).

We paid for COBRA as long as we could but it was an extra couple thousand a month. We finally qualified for medi-cal based on my income, but this insurance covers almost nothing of what he needs. The only doctor that understands his issues doesn’t take that insurance and charged $500-$900/visit, then his medications and supplements are another $1000/month. So basically, every month I need to come up with about $7000 just to pay for bare necessities (housing, food, utilities, gas and car maintenance, my business expenses and medical expenses). The biggest issue for me however, even more than money, is time. Eric at this time needs nearly a full time caregiver to prepare him food on a specialized diet (no gluten, dairy or sugar), feed him, help him get to the bathroom, help with personal care, getting to doctor appointments, etc. He’s pretty much bedridden 90% of the time. He does have his good days once in a while when he’s able to do more to take care of himself, but pretty much all of the responsibility of running our household of 4 kids, 2 dogs, 2 cats and 2 horses (my steadiest income at this point is leasing them out) – paying the bills (when they can even be paid!), shopping, cleaning, cooking, running kids around, helping with homework, getting to sports and choir – as well as trying to earn enough income to keep everyone going is all on my shoulders. So I have a lot of nights where I’m only sleeping 3-4 hours because I work best when the kids are all asleep!

I don’t want to sound like I’m having a pity party here though, because I am constantly buoyed up by amazing people and wonderful miracles that happen monthly around here. I have an amazing landlord who has been so patient and kind – he could have kicked us out of our home many months ago. I began last year writing in a gratitude journal at least weekly (sometimes daily), and as I look back I can see so many tender mercies and blessings that have happened to sustain me and my family. I even started an IG account just to document for my family the many ways we’ve been blessed. Whereas I used to absolutely panic every month that I had no way to pay the bills that come pouring in, I can now just see that the law or polarity or rhythm is in effect and if I just keep my thoughts positive and my vibration high, things will work out, even though I have no idea how at this moment in time.

…I’m super interested [in the Mastery Program] because I feel like I’m missing some key puzzle piece here possibly, and I know for certain that applying the principles I have learned thus far have had really amazing results. 

…I hope you’re having a great month and you’re truly an inspiration to so many. And I’m so grateful for all of the resources you have so generously provided for free – I have taken advantage of all of them! And they have helped me sooo much! And I’m sure they’ve helped thousands and thousands of others have a more prosperous life. So thank you!

She has suffered an unbelievable run of unfortunate events, but did you notice her attitude? Did you see how she noticed and called attention to all of the things going WELL? I’m convinced that this is why she could also say: “Somehow I make it through every month.”

This is going to be the first in a series of articles about Vanessa, and Tender Mercies. Stay tuned for more coming soon…

What about you?

So, maybe you’re not a millionaire. Maybe you haven’t yet realized that big vision for your life. Maybe your relationships aren’t what you want them to be. Maybe you’re still waiting for that breakthrough that never seems to come. Maybe you struggle with your health, or maybe you’re caring for someone else who is. But even so…

Have you seen God’s hand in your life, sustaining you from day to day?

I want to hear about it. Submit your stories here!

#RareFaithTenderMercies

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LBW 12: Hitting Your Target

In this short radio clip, I talk about the core principles from the Jackrabbit Factor during the Wayne and Jane Show on Canada’s EZ Rock out of Kootenay, British Columbia. I talk about scrutinizing each word in a goal statement, what we can learn from Ebay shopping, how not to lose weight, why the ten thousand dollar goal didn’t quite make it, and what you can do to enlist your subconscious mind for more effective and accurate goal achievement this year.

Resources mentioned on the audio:
www.jackrabbitfactor.com

TRANSCRIPT:

WAYNE: I read this great book called The Jackrabbit Factor. It’s now one of my favorites and a whole bunch of people’s favorites, because it just made it to the bestseller list on Barnes and Noble.com. That’s quite an achievement. The author of this is Leslie Householder, a best-selling author, speaker, coach, and she is joining us on the line from her home down in Arizona. Good morning.

LESLIE: Good morning.

WAYNE: Thanks for being here.

LESLIE: Thank you.

WAYNE: I am just so pumped up about this book! Why? Why is it changing lives?

LESLIE: Well, what did you get out of it, Wayne?

WAYNE: What did I get out of it? I got focused again. I got a taste of what it was that I wanted, and got away from the pity party.

LESLIE: You know the book is all about figuring out how to get what you want and it’s amazing stuff because really, it’s so simple. I attended nearly a hundred seminars on success and success principles and they all were fabulous and they got me a little closer. But something just clicked, and when it did I knew that I needed to help other readers make that mental shift. Because once you make that shift, it comes so easy. It’s so simple. It’s so simple, but we make it so hard.

WAYNE: Why? Why do we make it hard?

LESLIE: Because we don’t think it should be easy?

WAYNE: Maybe that’s it. Because it seems so complicated.

LESLIE: It really is not that complicated. In fact, we’re applying the principles all the time. We’re just doing it to get stuff we don’t want.

WAYNE: I think what really impressed me is that you wrote the book because you wanted to stay home with your family.

LESLIE: Yeah.

WAYNE: Six children?

LESLIE: Uh-huh

WAYNE: Six children. You wanted to be home. Jane, you have one and you’re a little tired.

JANE: Well yeah, that’s amazing to me. And you were able to write a book as well with six kids.

LESLIE: It was crazy, crazy times, yeah.

JANE: But now are you able to now? Are you finding that this has given you the opportunity now to stay home with them?

LESLIE: We found the way for me to stay home with them years ago, and I’m writing the book to tell how we did it. So, I’m not writing the book so I can stay home. I’m staying home already, because of what we had learned. And the book is to help others to be able to do the same, or whatever it is they want. If they’re a mother, or even a father that wants to come home from work. What would that be like?

WAYNE: Wouldn’t that be nice? And it’s not about wealth. It’s not about money.

LESLIE: No, it’s more just about what it is that you want. If you want the front row parking spot at the grocery store because you’re in a hurry, you can have it.

WAYNE: Tell us the story about that.

LESLIE: About that?

WAYNE: Yes. Tell us the story about that. I thought this was fascinating because I hear people talk about how to use this stuff and it’s all about money and wealth. And what I really liked about Leslie and the book is it’s not about that. So, you were using the principle, and how did you use it?

LESLIE: How many times have I used it? I’ll tell you the first time I used it without even realizing it.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: This is what was amazing is, we had been going to seminars for, at the time, about seven years. And we were using our grocery money to get there. And I was just in a depression because I wanted to be able to pay bills and keep our promises that we’d made to people, and you know it was really grinding on me that we were having such a hard time with that. I slipped into a depression, where I decided that I was just going to go to bed, and I didn’t care if I ever got up. The kids were going to find their own food. And I just went to bed and I closed my eyes and I said ‘you know all these seminars have been telling me to picture what I want. Imagine myself living the dream life’ and I thought ‘fine, I will.’

So, I slipped into this escape mentality where I decided to live my dream life in my head. A year later we were living what I had dreamed up in my brain that day, and I didn’t really put a connection together on to how that actually occurred, and how that had happened. It took another two years or so of seminars that helped me understand that what I had done that day was the very key to changing my life.

WAYNE: In other words, about thinking about what you want, and dreaming about it, visualizing it.

LESLIE: Visualizing it and experiencing it. Let me explain. I know you hear about that all the time. I want you to picture this. Imagine you’re online and you’re trying to make a purchase on eBay or whatever.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: What’s the first thing you got to do? When you go there shopping, what’s the first thing you’re going to do?

WAYNE: Find what you’re looking for?

LESLIE: Well, you have to decide what you want, right?

WAYNE: Yes.

LESLIE: Right, so you’ve decided what you want, and then you look for it. And you may use their little search bar. You enter the request of what you’re looking for, and this is just the way life operates. We’re doing this all the time. Like I said, we’re living the life that we have asked for. I know that there’s people out there screaming, “No, I’m not. I never asked to do this. This is not what I wanted.” A little bit, subconsciously, we are completely comfortable with life as it is. And if on a conscious level we don’t like it, we need to make some shifts in our mentality. So, what we would do is; you decide what you want, just like in life.

I knew how I wanted to live. At the time we weren’t even in a home of our own. I wanted a home of my own. I wanted a yard for the kids. So, I made that decision. I decided what I want.

The next thing you’re going to do, is, you’re going to write it down. Now people don’t understand the magic behind this. That’s why only about 3% of the population will actually do it. But if a person decides that they will follow this, it will work for them. They decide what you want. You write it down, and you need to write it down in the proper way. If you write it down wrong, you won’t get what you want. For example, if you’re trying to lose weight, don’t set a goal for losing weight. Because your subconscious mind is, the part of your mind that helps you accomplish your goal, it puts you in a state of being that helps you attract what you need to accomplish your goal. And if you set a goal to lose weight, what do you do Wayne when you lose something? What do you try to do?

WAYNE: You try to find it.

LESLIE: You try to find it, and your subconscious mind has been programmed your entire life to look for what you’ve lost. So, don’t try to lose weight.

WAYNE: Okay, are you picking on me for trying to lose weight? Is that what this is all about? How did you know?

LESLIE: No, this is something everybody deals with at one time or another. And the other thing is when you think of weight, your mind automatically associates that with heaviness, or weights and measures, so if you set a goal to lose weight you’re programming your mind to help you find heaviness, and you’re fighting yourself trying to accomplish your goals.

JANE: I’ve been doing this for years, yeah.

LESLIE: And another thing. If you want to set a goal, and when you write a goal down like “I will have $10,000 in my bank account in a month”, well, the problem with that is if you set a goal, say you write it down today, and you want you have $10,000 in the bank by the end of October, and you write “on this date October 31st, 2005, I will have $10,000 in the bank”, well come October 31st, 2005, you will not have $10,000 in the bank, because you chose to write the word will have. So, it presupposes that it will always be in your future!

WAYNE: Oh, so what do you write instead?

LESLIE: So, instead you say, “October 31st, 2005, I am so happy and grateful now that I have $10,000 in the bank.”

JANE: Hmmm, he is writing this down as we speak, Leslie!

WAYNE: She’s right!

LESLIE: It is amazing stuff! It really is. And you have to be very careful how you write it, and scrutinize each word in your goal. I have friend, her name is Camille. She wrote a goal down stating on a certain date she would have $10,000 in her hand, and she did everything right. You have to decide what you want. You write it down, you imagine it as though it’s already happened, because the key, and this is the key; and I know we don’t have time for me to convince you why this works, and that’s what the book is for. But the key is to feel it as though it has already happened. You have to feel it, and experience it like it’s happened. Now she did this. And on that day, and she’d forgotten about it – you don’t have to be “round-the-clock” focused on your goal. You do it, and like I said, if you’re online, and you decide what you want, you submit your request. So, you make the purchase, and you hit “Send”. What’s the next thing that the computer typically does after you’ve submitted your order?

WAYNE: It gives you some kind of a confirmation.

LESLIE: Yes, confirmation. Okay that’s key. Once you have that confirmation you know that the item is on its way.

WAYNE: Right.

LESLIE: Yeah, well in setting a goal, once you feel it as though it’s already happened, that is the confirmation that it’s on its way.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: Okay. So, now the cool thing about that is, once you’ve done that, you know it’s on its way, and it’s just a matter of time, and you’re already in a state of mind that will lead you to the right people, the right circumstances, whatever it is that you need in order to accomplish that. It’s already in the works! Getting back to my friend, Camille. She set the goal, but on that day she had forgotten about it.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: And on that day, she was in the bank, and she was depositing a check. And something about the date caught her eye, so she turned over the check, and she realized it was $10,000 in her hand, on that date. But it was made out to her father and it was for her father’s account. So, the more specific you are, about your goal, you’ll get what you asked for.

WAYNE: Where can people get the book?

LESLIE: Go to www.JackRabbitFactor.com

WAYNE: All right. This is a life-changing book! I really appreciate you writing it and I appreciate your time today.

LESLIE: Thanks, Wayne.

WAYNE: Thank you very much. Leslie Householder on the phone. Her website again; www.JackRabbitFactor.com. We’ll have that on our website. Are you imagining now?

JANE: I am!

WAYNE: Visualizing?

JANE: Uh-huh.

WAYNE: And feeling?

JANE: Yes, I have $10,000 in my hand right now as we speak!

ANNOUNCER: This has been a Little Bit of Wisdom with Leslie Householder. Listen to her podcast and download her books free at www.aRareKindofFaith.com

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