LBW 12: Hitting Your Target

In this short radio clip, I talk about the core principles from the Jackrabbit Factor during the Wayne and Jane Show on Canada’s EZ Rock out of Kootenay, British Columbia. I talk about scrutinizing each word in a goal statement, what we can learn from Ebay shopping, how not to lose weight, why the ten thousand dollar goal didn’t quite make it, and what you can do to enlist your subconscious mind for more effective and accurate goal achievement this year.

Resources mentioned on the audio:
www.jackrabbitfactor.com

TRANSCRIPT:

WAYNE: I read this great book called The Jackrabbit Factor. It’s now one of my favorites and a whole bunch of people’s favorites, because it just made it to the bestseller list on Barnes and Noble.com. That’s quite an achievement. The author of this is Leslie Householder, a best-selling author, speaker, coach, and she is joining us on the line from her home down in Arizona. Good morning.

LESLIE: Good morning.

WAYNE: Thanks for being here.

LESLIE: Thank you.

WAYNE: I am just so pumped up about this book! Why? Why is it changing lives?

LESLIE: Well, what did you get out of it, Wayne?

WAYNE: What did I get out of it? I got focused again. I got a taste of what it was that I wanted, and got away from the pity party.

LESLIE: You know the book is all about figuring out how to get what you want and it’s amazing stuff because really, it’s so simple. I attended nearly a hundred seminars on success and success principles and they all were fabulous and they got me a little closer. But something just clicked, and when it did I knew that I needed to help other readers make that mental shift. Because once you make that shift, it comes so easy. It’s so simple. It’s so simple, but we make it so hard.

WAYNE: Why? Why do we make it hard?

LESLIE: Because we don’t think it should be easy?

WAYNE: Maybe that’s it. Because it seems so complicated.

LESLIE: It really is not that complicated. In fact, we’re applying the principles all the time. We’re just doing it to get stuff we don’t want.

WAYNE: I think what really impressed me is that you wrote the book because you wanted to stay home with your family.

LESLIE: Yeah.

WAYNE: Six children?

LESLIE: Uh-huh

WAYNE: Six children. You wanted to be home. Jane, you have one and you’re a little tired.

JANE: Well yeah, that’s amazing to me. And you were able to write a book as well with six kids.

LESLIE: It was crazy, crazy times, yeah.

JANE: But now are you able to now? Are you finding that this has given you the opportunity now to stay home with them?

LESLIE: We found the way for me to stay home with them years ago, and I’m writing the book to tell how we did it. So, I’m not writing the book so I can stay home. I’m staying home already, because of what we had learned. And the book is to help others to be able to do the same, or whatever it is they want. If they’re a mother, or even a father that wants to come home from work. What would that be like?

WAYNE: Wouldn’t that be nice? And it’s not about wealth. It’s not about money.

LESLIE: No, it’s more just about what it is that you want. If you want the front row parking spot at the grocery store because you’re in a hurry, you can have it.

WAYNE: Tell us the story about that.

LESLIE: About that?

WAYNE: Yes. Tell us the story about that. I thought this was fascinating because I hear people talk about how to use this stuff and it’s all about money and wealth. And what I really liked about Leslie and the book is it’s not about that. So, you were using the principle, and how did you use it?

LESLIE: How many times have I used it? I’ll tell you the first time I used it without even realizing it.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: This is what was amazing is, we had been going to seminars for, at the time, about seven years. And we were using our grocery money to get there. And I was just in a depression because I wanted to be able to pay bills and keep our promises that we’d made to people, and you know it was really grinding on me that we were having such a hard time with that. I slipped into a depression, where I decided that I was just going to go to bed, and I didn’t care if I ever got up. The kids were going to find their own food. And I just went to bed and I closed my eyes and I said ‘you know all these seminars have been telling me to picture what I want. Imagine myself living the dream life’ and I thought ‘fine, I will.’

So, I slipped into this escape mentality where I decided to live my dream life in my head. A year later we were living what I had dreamed up in my brain that day, and I didn’t really put a connection together on to how that actually occurred, and how that had happened. It took another two years or so of seminars that helped me understand that what I had done that day was the very key to changing my life.

WAYNE: In other words, about thinking about what you want, and dreaming about it, visualizing it.

LESLIE: Visualizing it and experiencing it. Let me explain. I know you hear about that all the time. I want you to picture this. Imagine you’re online and you’re trying to make a purchase on eBay or whatever.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: What’s the first thing you got to do? When you go there shopping, what’s the first thing you’re going to do?

WAYNE: Find what you’re looking for?

LESLIE: Well, you have to decide what you want, right?

WAYNE: Yes.

LESLIE: Right, so you’ve decided what you want, and then you look for it. And you may use their little search bar. You enter the request of what you’re looking for, and this is just the way life operates. We’re doing this all the time. Like I said, we’re living the life that we have asked for. I know that there’s people out there screaming, “No, I’m not. I never asked to do this. This is not what I wanted.” A little bit, subconsciously, we are completely comfortable with life as it is. And if on a conscious level we don’t like it, we need to make some shifts in our mentality. So, what we would do is; you decide what you want, just like in life.

I knew how I wanted to live. At the time we weren’t even in a home of our own. I wanted a home of my own. I wanted a yard for the kids. So, I made that decision. I decided what I want.

The next thing you’re going to do, is, you’re going to write it down. Now people don’t understand the magic behind this. That’s why only about 3% of the population will actually do it. But if a person decides that they will follow this, it will work for them. They decide what you want. You write it down, and you need to write it down in the proper way. If you write it down wrong, you won’t get what you want. For example, if you’re trying to lose weight, don’t set a goal for losing weight. Because your subconscious mind is, the part of your mind that helps you accomplish your goal, it puts you in a state of being that helps you attract what you need to accomplish your goal. And if you set a goal to lose weight, what do you do Wayne when you lose something? What do you try to do?

WAYNE: You try to find it.

LESLIE: You try to find it, and your subconscious mind has been programmed your entire life to look for what you’ve lost. So, don’t try to lose weight.

WAYNE: Okay, are you picking on me for trying to lose weight? Is that what this is all about? How did you know?

LESLIE: No, this is something everybody deals with at one time or another. And the other thing is when you think of weight, your mind automatically associates that with heaviness, or weights and measures, so if you set a goal to lose weight you’re programming your mind to help you find heaviness, and you’re fighting yourself trying to accomplish your goals.

JANE: I’ve been doing this for years, yeah.

LESLIE: And another thing. If you want to set a goal, and when you write a goal down like “I will have $10,000 in my bank account in a month”, well, the problem with that is if you set a goal, say you write it down today, and you want you have $10,000 in the bank by the end of October, and you write “on this date October 31st, 2005, I will have $10,000 in the bank”, well come October 31st, 2005, you will not have $10,000 in the bank, because you chose to write the word will have. So, it presupposes that it will always be in your future!

WAYNE: Oh, so what do you write instead?

LESLIE: So, instead you say, “October 31st, 2005, I am so happy and grateful now that I have $10,000 in the bank.”

JANE: Hmmm, he is writing this down as we speak, Leslie!

WAYNE: She’s right!

LESLIE: It is amazing stuff! It really is. And you have to be very careful how you write it, and scrutinize each word in your goal. I have friend, her name is Camille. She wrote a goal down stating on a certain date she would have $10,000 in her hand, and she did everything right. You have to decide what you want. You write it down, you imagine it as though it’s already happened, because the key, and this is the key; and I know we don’t have time for me to convince you why this works, and that’s what the book is for. But the key is to feel it as though it has already happened. You have to feel it, and experience it like it’s happened. Now she did this. And on that day, and she’d forgotten about it – you don’t have to be “round-the-clock” focused on your goal. You do it, and like I said, if you’re online, and you decide what you want, you submit your request. So, you make the purchase, and you hit “Send”. What’s the next thing that the computer typically does after you’ve submitted your order?

WAYNE: It gives you some kind of a confirmation.

LESLIE: Yes, confirmation. Okay that’s key. Once you have that confirmation you know that the item is on its way.

WAYNE: Right.

LESLIE: Yeah, well in setting a goal, once you feel it as though it’s already happened, that is the confirmation that it’s on its way.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: Okay. So, now the cool thing about that is, once you’ve done that, you know it’s on its way, and it’s just a matter of time, and you’re already in a state of mind that will lead you to the right people, the right circumstances, whatever it is that you need in order to accomplish that. It’s already in the works! Getting back to my friend, Camille. She set the goal, but on that day she had forgotten about it.

WAYNE: Okay.

LESLIE: And on that day, she was in the bank, and she was depositing a check. And something about the date caught her eye, so she turned over the check, and she realized it was $10,000 in her hand, on that date. But it was made out to her father and it was for her father’s account. So, the more specific you are, about your goal, you’ll get what you asked for.

WAYNE: Where can people get the book?

LESLIE: Go to www.JackRabbitFactor.com

WAYNE: All right. This is a life-changing book! I really appreciate you writing it and I appreciate your time today.

LESLIE: Thanks, Wayne.

WAYNE: Thank you very much. Leslie Householder on the phone. Her website again; www.JackRabbitFactor.com. We’ll have that on our website. Are you imagining now?

JANE: I am!

WAYNE: Visualizing?

JANE: Uh-huh.

WAYNE: And feeling?

JANE: Yes, I have $10,000 in my hand right now as we speak!

ANNOUNCER: This has been a Little Bit of Wisdom with Leslie Householder. Listen to her podcast and download her books free at www.aRareKindofFaith.com

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LBW 11: Cents out of Setbacks – Short

In this audio, I talk with my Portal to Genius co-author (Garrett B. Gunderson) about Making Cents out of Setbacks, and the 3 levels of life lessons that can be gleaned from each hardship.

Related podcast:
ararekindoffaith.com/making-cents-out-of-setbacks

TRANSCRIPT:

Garrett B. Gunderson: Ok. And now I’m going to bring on Leslie Householder, the author (and I’m the co-author) … the author to Portal to Genius and the author of Jackrabbit Factor. We’ve spoken together on stage a few times, and I don’t know if everyone in the room got value, but I was totally entertained and engaged. And when Leslie says something, I’ve told my wife before—my wife gets it so there must be something about how you convey the message that people really understand, Leslie. And we’re going to be talking about how to make cents, c-e-n-t-s, out of setbacks. Which I think is a perfect topic. Why don’t you give us an idea what you mean by that, Leslie?

Leslie Householder: Well, it’s just such an opportunity whenever you have a setback. The cool thing about it is that setbacks are universal to everybody. Everybody faces challenges. Everybody faces setbacks in their goals, in their business, in their relationships. Everything. And what I’ve learned, because I’ve had probably a lion’s share of setbacks in my own life, is that they are not for nothing. That they have a point to them, and that if you start to respond to them in a better way than what’s normal, than what’s reactionary, that you can turn everything that looks like a setback into a benefit and you can profit from your losses.

You know, I’ve had one of my mentors teach me that the person who seems to be the most unfortunate is actually the luckiest person around because they have the most to gain from that experience. So I’m just going to share some things I’ve learned over the years, trying to apply the principles that help you bounce back from setbacks and come out on top better than ever.

And you’re going to find out that every successful person who is noteworthy, exemplary, people look up to, or have had a significant amount of success have all applied these certain ideas or principles, whether they know they have or not. There are always at least three levels of wisdom that can be gleaned from each setback. The initial lesson is pretty obvious. But then there’s a deeper lesson, and then beyond that there’s a universal truth that can be discovered from it.

And my mind has just been blown as I’ve started to open up and be curious enough about those three levels that the kind of information that I’ve gained from my setbacks has just absolutely changed my life and changed the lives of so many people I know that have taken these principles to heart and started looking at their setbacks in a whole new way. And if you’re feeling like, “Man, it’s just been so hard to climb out on top of these challenges,” you’re a prime candidate for some amazing, amazing breakthroughs. In fact, my husband and I, when we started to realize these principles, when something horrible would happen—a major trauma in our life or whatever—once we get over the initial shock of it, we’re able to look at each other and say, “Whoa,” and get a big grin on our face and say, “You know what this means.” Because the bigger the challenge the greater the opportunity. So if things are just a little bit, you know, kind of inconvenient that’s too bad for you. The bigger the better.

Garrett B. Gunderson: If you think back to a decade ago, what seems like a problem today would have been devastating back then. What seems like a problem isn’t even on your radar today because of the threshold, yeah, because the perspective because the process you have of knowing how to turn that into a positive scenario or outcome because of the lessons.

Leslie Householder: And so much of that comes because of just surrounding yourself with the right people. You’re going to be surrounded with ideas and solutions and things and you’re going to see things differently just by being there.

Garrett B. Gunderson: I always love having you around and having you sharing your wisdom; and there’s something about the way that you say it. There’s something about the feminine energy that just gives people a whole different world and ears to hear. And I love the topic of hey if you have setbacks, you have frustration, do it. You’ve got some ingredients, so this is the deal: You’re either going to learn the lesson now or it’s going to get stronger in the future so I recommend to learn the lesson now. Make the small investment today for the bigger output rather than have it become something that is such a massive problem that it becomes hard to do it though.

Leslie Householder: And, also, the principles are universal. It becomes a part of your arsenal on how you’re going to handle the next one because I guarantee you if you’re not in a setback now you will have one. That’s one of life’s guarantees. Like I said, there’s a reason for them and it’s for your good. So it’s just a really great idea to make sure you know how to brace yourself, how to handle it, and how to respond to it to turn it to your profit. To make the most out of it. To learn the lesson once and for all so that you don’t have to repeat it again and learn it in a harder, tougher setback because that’s what it comes down to. Either learn it and move on to the next best thing and reach a higher level of awareness and success or you endure the setback. You get through it but you don’t really come out the person that it was supposed to shape you to be and so along comes another setback that’s going to try again to get you to reach that new consciousness and so I’ll help you figure it out the first time so you can move on.

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LBW 10: Goal Achievement Like Using a Phone

In this short audio, I compare the application of the laws of success to a young child trying to use the telephone.

Related article: Are you Making it Harder than it Needs to Be?

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TRANSCRIPT:

Goal achievement is like making a phone call: If you dial the numbers right, it works. Children who have never used a phone before will probably have trouble making it work right for a while, just as we can have trouble making the laws of success work to achieve our goals. It takes practice. We’re going to have set backs as we try to figure these things out.

When a goal doesn’t happen the way you expected, it’s so easy to get discouraged. Believe me.  I’ve been there. I’ve lived that. I live it still, but I have learned that the laws of success are laws that you can depend on, and when things don’t work out quite the way you expected them to—according to the laws of success as you know them—then it’s time to learn something a little bit more about them. Ask the hard questions. Where did I go wrong? What more do I need to know? In what way am I making this harder than it has to be? For me this question, answer, new attempt process happened hundreds of times before I actually saw it really work even just once. I know hundreds of ways that the laws of success don’t work. Each failed attempt showed me something else that I needed to tweak about my approach.

Think about it. The first time a kindergartener tries to use the telephone chances are good that he or she will dial the number wrong. When that happens wouldn’t it be foolish to say that the phone doesn’t work? The phone works fine. The user just needs to be extra careful to dial all the right numbers, in the right order with no extra numbers inserted along the way.

And the laws of success work fine too. You’ve just got to be careful to dial all the right numbers, in the right order, and not insert any extra ones along the way. When you do it right, it unfailingly works the way it should. And the good news is that when you see it work once you gain confidence and eventually realize that it can work for you every time. In fact, it can become second nature, just like using the phone. Then after experiencing some success maybe you even discover that it can be even easier than that, like discovering the redial button or programming numbers into it with a one-touch.

But I do have some bad news. The one element that does not go away, no matter how slick you are or how smart you get, is the test to exercise faith when all appearances indicate impending disaster. Yes, no matter how good you get at the process and no matter how much you make you’ll always get plenty of opportunity to exercise faith, to make sacrifices, and to stretch yourself out of the comfort zone to accomplish the next goal. You just get to a point where you learn to accept the difficult nature of the process. The knowledge I share here does not advert the challenges. It just gives you the power to overcome them when they show up, the power to achieve the goal in spite of difficulty, the power to have peace of mind through the process. There’s value in that.

And yes, you can have your victory. You can have the money you need. You can find the job or succeeding business. You can have the freedom you seek. Just try again and learn from your mistakes.

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LBW 09: It’s a Language Thing

Learning to apply success principles is like learning a whole new language. At first, everyone makes mistakes. You “ask” for one thing, but what you get is often something you never intended at all. Learn to become fluent in God’s language of faith.

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The audio above was derived from the following article:

The Language of Faith

TRANSCRIPT:

Not only is goal setting is like dialing a phone number, but it is also like a whole new language. At first, you’re bound to make some mistakes using any language. That’s normal. In terms of setting goals, It’s happened to me, too. Sometimes when I thought that I was communicating my desires and a goal statement very clearly, they turned into circumstances that I never intended at all. Now this gets a little ridiculous.

You know what? That’s okay! It’s all part of the learning process. Let me help you put it all into perspective: Imagine going to a Spanish speaking country with nothing more than a basic understanding of the Spanish language and an English/Spanish translation handbook. (By “basic” I mean how much I know: words like “burrito,” “enchilada,” “hola,” “uno, dos, tres…” “Taco Bell,” …You get the idea.)

So you arrive in the foreign country and climb into a taxicab. You open your book and intend to tell the driver, “I want to go someplace quiet and beautiful where I can feel the Spirit of God.” So word by word, you search your translation book and say, “Deseo ir en alguna parte tranquilidad y hermoso donde puedo sentir el alcohol del dios.”

You spoke clearly and confidently, knowing that you said just what the book told you to say.

What you didn’t know was that the driver (who is a native of the country) hears, “Desire to go beautiful tranquility somewhere and where I can feel the alcohol of the God.”

Now let me ask you, where do you think he will take you?? When you end up at a saloon instead of a botanical garden or church, you might look at your Spanish book and throw it away saying, “This language doesn’t work!!!”

Now, have you met anyone who has discovered the language of prosperity through “The Secret” or other books / tools, made an attempt to use it, and then threw it all away because “it” didn’t work? Maybe you’ve even thought about throwing it all away.

Realize this: the language of faith and prosperity is just that: it’s a language… of the Spirit. It takes time to develop fluency. It takes practice to understand the cause and effect of thinking, feeling, and acting in this new and certain way.

When things don’t go the way you expect them to go, accept the results and simply learn from them. Take the lessons that are available in every challenge, every setback, every experience and let them work in you, so you can get closer to your goal more accurately the next time.

Don’t throw away the principles that you know deep down are true, even if the results you get aren’t what you expected them to be. When you end up at a saloon instead of a beautiful botanical garden, it wasn’t because the “book” or “language” didn’t work; the language actually works perfectly. You simply missed one critical word, substituting the word for “Holy Spirit” with the Spanish word for “spirits” (alcohol). The words we choose as we set goals will also make a critical difference in the final outcome.

Let me give you an example. For a long time I had a goal statement that said, “Money comes to me frequently and easily from multiple sources in increasing quantities on a continual basis. People want my products; God helps his children through me.”

After about a year of using this statement as an affirmation, I realized that the part, “People want my products” is exactly what I was getting: thousands of people who wanted my products. But the goal stated that way doesn’t exactly translate into revenue. That’s when I changed my statement to more accurately reflect my true desire: “People BUY my products; God helps his children through me.”

See the difference? One word can make a big difference. It’s a language thing.

We communicate our desires and receive what we ask for. “Ask and ye shall receive” is a true principle. But this language of faith that we are trying to learn comes from a foreign culture, a way of life that perhaps we remember from somewhere long ago, but has been temporarily forgotten in this mortal realm. Furthermore, it is important to remember that in God’s culture, or “way of life,” when someone asks Him for increased faith, He doesn’t necessarily deliver faith, but opportunities to exercise faith.

When we ask for financial freedom, He doesn’t give us piles of money but opportunities to develop multiple streams of income. When we ask for strength, we are given challenging experiences where we can develop the very strength we asked for. (The movie “Evan Almighty” illustrates this point beautifully – it is a movie I highly recommend.)

You know, the bottom line is this: The more fluent we become in God’s language of faith, the more peacefully we will grow toward accomplishing all we truly desire.

ANNOUNCER: This has been a Little Bit of Wisdom with Leslie Householder. Listen to her podcast and download her books free at www.aRareKindofFaith.com.

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