Day Dreaming vs. Staking Your Claim

My husband and I have been working on a longer-term goal for several years now. Whenever the vision of its accomplishment begins to fade, we have a conversation to check in on whether or not the goal is still important to us, and whether or not we need to refocus our efforts. We talk about how it will look when it is accomplished. We talk about how it will feel to be living what we’ve envisioned. We talk about how old the children will be at that time, and what they will likely be doing at that stage of their lives.

This recently happened. I had been feeling like we were drifting away from the path that leads to its accomplishment, so I took some extra time to envision it again, add some extra detail, and once again feel the feelings I expect to feel when it is achieved. I brought it up during our date night, and we worked on gaining some clarity on the picture in our heads.

I’ve learned that we don’t even have to be physically closer to its achievement; this exercise alone helps me feel on track and increases my belief that unseen things are happening to line up the resources and ideas we will need to see it through.

With a shift in mental focus, you can feel successful right now. And the longer you keep your mind in that place, the more energy you feel, and the more brilliant your ideas become. You become a genius in your problem-solving activities.

Dave Ramsey talks about having “gazelle intensity” – where you are locked on to ONE objective, and where you let NOTHING distract you from your focus on achieving it. I’ve had this kind of goal-achievement intensity before, and I know it works. It can be exhausting, but at the same time really energizing. I’ve had success with it often enough, that part of me feels like my goals cannot be achieved without it.

(Although, I know that’s not necessarily true, because I’ve also achieved some amazing goals by only having a brief but meaningful moment seeing and feeling it done, and then relaxing and living each day peacefully, working toward the goal at a healthy, sustainable speed.)

But since the goal my husband and I have been working on is already five years old, and since the visible progress is not very impressive, I found myself feeling like maybe this one won’t happen without gazelle intensity. So with a renewed determination to move the needle on this goal, I initiated one of those “checking in” conversations. By the end of the evening, we felt more on track, and ready to focus like a gazelle.

A few days later, he started talking about wanting a certain truck. He told me all about the size and style he wanted, and several ways that he imagined being able to make it happen. But I wasn’t inspired; instead I was troubled, because… hadn’t we just decided to be laser-focused on the other goal?

That his attention could seem to be so easily diverted to a completely different goal bothered me. He didn’t mention how he saw the truck purchase fitting in with the original goal, or in what order he planned to act on them both. It sounded like the first goal had just been forgotten. It kind of sent me into a depression for several days until we finally had a chance to talk about it. What came out of that talk was a brand new epiphany, which I felt might be helpful to someone else:

Even though he sounded like he was getting ready to make it happen in the next couple months, in reality, he was just trying it on for size, imagining “what if”, and allowing himself to feel it as if it was already done. He was exploring the possibility and seeing how it would feel, but he wasn’t 100% decided.

Well, he was doing such a good job of “acting as though” that he had me convinced that its purchase was next on his to-do list. He assured me he wasn’t going to let it to throw us off our other goals, and his assurance helped me feel much better.

That’s when I realized there are at least TWO kinds of dream-building. The first I will simply call “Day Dreaming”, because I think this is what most people do, most often. It is researching, shopping, imagining, trying the idea on, checking to see how it would feel if it actually happened. Not necessarily with a firm, resolved intention to MAKE it happen, but with a less-committed imagining to simply explore the possibilities.

The other kind is what I call “Staking Your Claim”. It’s the step you take AFTER exploring the possibilities (trying them on, checking to see how they would feel it they actually happened), and then DECIDING what you intend to accomplish, or what NEEDS to happen. It’s the QUALITY DECISION that sets the intention in stone. It’s mentally taking the arrow, walking up to the target, thrusting it firmly into the bulls eye, attaching a string to the end of the arrow, returning back to your current position, and then physically rolling up the string (taking the best actions you can think of) until it has literally pulled you to the goal.

When you’ve Staked Your Claim and start moving your feet, you might head off in the wrong direction, but it’s okay, because no matter what you do or where you go, the string will tug you in the RIGHT direction until you’ve reached the bulls eye. You will INSTINCTIVELY know what to do, and you’ll know when you’re off course.

That’s the power of a Quality Decision. That’s the power of Staking Your Claim.

So when my husband and I realized there was a difference in these two kinds of dream-building exercises, he was able to assure me that, in his mind, our first goal is still a done deal. The claim has been staked, and we are making our way to that inevitable result. As for the truck, he was simply “Day Dreaming”.

Knowing this, and knowing that he is conscious of the difference, helped me feel assured that he hadn’t given up on the original goal. There will likely come a day when he’s ready to Stake His Claim on the truck, too, but for now, he’s just Day Dreaming, and he knows it.

Both mental exercises are important in the goal-achievement process. Day Dreaming helps you get detail, and with detail, it is easier to “feel” it. Just don’t confuse Day Dreaming with Staking Your Claim. They are not the same. While both play a part in the process, don’t fool yourself into believing that success is inevitable if all you’ve been doing is Day Dreaming.

There are two kinds of Dream Building. What’s the difference?

Day Dreaming: envisioning yourself experiencing the goal achieved. You might envision one thing one day, and something totally different the next day. Whenever you entertain a dream, all that you’d need to accomplish it begins to gather. But when you change your mind and decide that you don’t need to achieve it after all, everything needed to accomplish it begins to dissipate.

Staking Your Claim: envisioning yourself experiencing the goal achieved, and committing yourself to seeing it through, no matter what. It looks the same as Day Dreaming but there is an added level of determination and commitment. It comes with a decision to reject all thoughts of failure. It’s refusing to give attention to anything that threatens to take you off course.

Surprisingly, you CAN achieve a goal by Day Dreaming without resolved intention, without Staking Your Claim. As long as there is a picture in your mind, and a feeling as though it is real, it can be accomplished without resolved intention, so long as you don’t throw the idea away before it’s realized. Day Dreaming without Staking Your Claim only becomes fruitless if you keep changing your mind, or when you allow yourself to doubt too much.

If the thing you need is urgent and important, you can achieve it by simply pausing to see it done, and feeling what you expect to feel when it is. This moves your thoughts up to a higher-level where the solution to that problem is already being broadcast. Take action on that new idea, and you’ll achieve the goal. You don’t need to stop to decide if it was day-dreaming or stake-claiming, because it really doesn’t matter. Sometimes the urgency alone turns a regular daydream into a staking-your-claim moment because you already know exactly what you need, and the purpose of your visualization is to find the solution quick. Sometimes you demonstrate resolved intention simply by stopping your efforts long enough to “see it done”.

(This actually just happened to me this morning. I had been spending the last couple days trying to balance my checkbook in one of my accounts, and no matter how many times I ran the numbers and double-checked each transaction, I was still $25.77 off. I gave myself a horrendous headache trying to find the error, and I feel like I wasted a whole lot of time with no progress. There was obviously a bug in the program, because I only had 42 transactions selected, but the total at the top of the page said there were 44 transactions selected. Customer support was closed, so I nursed my headache and planned to call them in the morning. This morning I woke up to an email notification, that one of our Mindset Mastery program participants had two experiments that proved successful all in the same day. I was reminded of the power of visualization, so I stopped and pictured the reconcile page with a green checkmark and a big “ZERO” in the discrepancy field. I kind of chuckled, smiled, and thought, “Okay, here we go.” I went back to the screen and thought that maybe I should expand the search parameters. And bam – in less than 30 seconds I found two transactions from over 6 months ago that were throwing everything off. It never ceases to amaze me. I had given myself a headache for two days, but when I finally stopped to picture and feel success, I had it solved in thirty seconds.)

The reason I’m writing this post now is because it’s something I wish I had understood 25 years ago. We had been taught how important it was to Dream Build. To imagine better circumstances, to see ourselves in happier situations. But I never understood the point. I never understood what it was supposed to do for us. So we’d go to the home shows, and we’d test drive cars. We’d imagine family vacations, and rich, rewarding relationships. But all it did was make me hate my life all the more, because it was only a constant reminder of how things WEREN’T. We were only Day Dreaming. We would imagine things, but didn’t know how to protect those dream-seeds. We envisioned, and then got frustrated. We pictured what we wanted, and then got angry that it wasn’t true. We planted seeds, and constantly pulled them back out of the ground. Now, when I picture what I want, I know exactly what I’m doing and why. I know that I’m planting a seed, and I know exactly how to let it grow.

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I’d say that at least 90% of my mental exercises are Day Dreaming, and 10% or less are Staking A Claim. It can take time on some of the longer-term goals to figure out what you really want. It can take time to figure out whether the thing you want is good for you, or whether it will lead to pain. (There are enticements in this world that look attractive on the surface, but which can keep us from finding true joy, and fulfilling our true purpose. Seek for the things that will bring you the greatest joy, and which will last the longest. Trust me, seeking treasures in heaven can sometimes take just as much Rare Faith as it does to pay your bills when money is tight. The good news is that practicing Rare Faith in meeting your temporal needs can give you valuable experience and increased confidence to do God’s will in other areas of your life.)

So be honest with yourself:

When you imagine success achieved, are you only Day Dreaming, or are you Staking a Claim? If you haven’t experienced the results you want, maybe it’s time to step it up and bravely make that quality decision. It’s a scary thing to do; what if it doesn’t work? What if you fail? What if you put it all on the line and nothing happens? Scary indeed. But I promise, the principles are true. You don’t have to take my word for it, you can test it for yourself.

I’d like to help.

We put [it] to the test for one week. I [did as we were taught] for $2,000 dollars… I had just lost my job the week before and our current balance in the account was $100 dollars… We had no idea where $2,000 dollars could come from but felt if there was ever a test this would be it. …As soon as a despairing thought came in my mind like ‘How can you get another $1,000 dollars in just one day, I would [do as you taught]…’ On the last day of the test my wife called me … the test was a success because, the goal was achieved and ‘…God is never late’. Thanks again for helping me learn the missing piece. Chris Pierson”

“My wife and I found Leslie … in 2006 when our lives were shattered. We excitedly worked through the 12 week program and saw immediate changes in our lives. We repeated the second half of the course to solidify the teachings. We saw success in many areas of our lives as we applied the principles we learned. We made $100,000 in a network marketing business. I used these principles to discover my true passion and purpose in life and against incredible odds was hired in my dream job competing with more than a thousand other qualified applicants. We used these principles to find a beautiful home that we now live in. We continue to achieve our dreams and goals because we now know how. Success is predictable!” Ken and Debbie Carroll, Sandy, Utah.

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Music and the Law of Rhythm

 

“Musick has Charms to soothe a savage Breast, to soften Rocks, or bend a knotted Oak.” ~William Congreve, The Mourning Bride

Music moves.  It flows, lilts, rises in crescendo, and fades in decrescendo.  It moves quickly, then slows, then resumes it’s original tempo.  Behind all of this is a steady, constant, predictable beat–a rhythm.

Have you ever watched someone move to music, but not to the beat? Take a look:

I feel Mr. Holland’s frustration as his students just can’t seem to find the beat.

Just as there is a rhythm to music, there is rhythm found in the world around us: day turns to night, the tide rises and falls, the seasons change predictably as the year progresses, and the cycle repeats. Hearts beat, pendulums swing, light and sound is produced by waves, the moon changes with each phase of its cycle, the planets move through their orbits.

With these and countless other natural phenomena as the backdrop, our lives have a rhythm to them as well.  We live by and create patterns of living on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis–we wake each day and carry out specific tasks; we have activities that repeat on a daily, weekly or monthly basis.  It creates a predictable structure by which we can live our lives.

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Handling Economic Challenges Gracefully

This is one of my brain dumps. It’s not organized with literary brilliance, it’s a brain dump. But it’s important stuff, and I think it needs to be shared immediately. I’ll clean it up later. Maybe.

Here we go:

When facing a tough economic challenge, part of you might wonder what people will think if you have to make some drastic changes. It’s the classic “fear of failure”, and it’s time we address it in a new way:

When you’re hot on the trail of a rabbit (otherwise known as a “goal”), and feeling full of expectation and excitement about achieving it, and you know it’s just a matter of time, this post is NOT for you. Hang up now.

However, if you want to feel the exhilaration knowing you’re on the right track, but are having some trouble getting to that point, then keep reading. I think you’ll find some valuable insight here.

When things get tough, shifting your focus from chasing a dream to just trying to hang on to what you have can create some challenges. To stay on track for the best outcome in the long-term, you need to stop and check in on your primary motivator.

The desire to maintain a particular image with your peers is a dangerous motivator. It’s a trap that leads people in prosperous times to overextend themselves, and it’s a trap that leads people in tough times to take too long to cut their losses and adjust their plan.

“Adjust my plan?? But how is that demonstrating faith and tenacity??” you might wonder.

Note: The goal is in stone, but the plan is in sand, as it should be. When you face challenges, you must be willing to alter the plan.

When times are good, you can avoid this trap by being absolutely clear on your values and simply practice delayed gratification. Make sure you improve your lifestyle only for the purpose of helping you and your family accomplish your greatest potential, never for the purpose of impressing anyone.

When times are tough, reject any concern about what your neighbors might think if they see you cutting back in your lifestyle. There is a force of opposition that fills your mind with fear in order to keep you from doing the right thing for your family.

Think about it. Someone needs to take a stand for what’s right, even when it isn’t popular. And if you do the right thing, you’ll give others around you the courage to do the right thing as well. You may be the only person on your block to cut back on luxuries temporarily, but if it will help you be more free to obtain the true necessities for your family, then just do it.

“Cut back?? Isn’t that operating on a ‘lack mentality’?” you might wonder.

Let me explain. It is critical that you understand this:

The most important factor in your ultimate success is how you FEEL.

So, if you’re feeling fearful of the future, and having a hard time thinking “abundance” in spite of the circumstances, then one of the quickest ways to feel abundant is to TAKE CONTROL of the visible resources you already have at your disposal.

Be the master of your money.

Show yourself that you are still in charge, and that the money is not the master over you. If you cut back on expenses voluntarily before you have no other choice but to do so, then you are demonstrating mastery.

Ironically, there is a great feeling of ABUNDANCE that comes when you choose to pro-actively cut expenses temporarily.

Before our monthly income tripled in 2000, we prepared the soil by first coming to terms with our painful financial picture, and creating a long-term plan for climbing out. We cut back on our spending, and watched every penny very carefully, operating on a focused plan to roll our debt load down.

Although the picture was bleak, we felt rich, because we were doing something smart with our current resources. That feeling of taking control changed our vibration and led us to the opportunity that accelerated our income faster than we thought possible. Within just a few months, we paid off ALL of our debt except our home. This was something we originally thought would have taken 5 years or so on our debt pay down plan.

Did you catch that? Months, instead of years!

Until now, you may have only heard the part of our story that “our income tripled in about three months.” But we sat down several months before, and got serious about doing what we could to reduce our debts with the little resources we had. We got serious about improving our credit. We mapped out a month-to-month plan on how we would roll our debts, and refused to buy anything unnecessary until our finances were under control.

We felt rich, because we had taken control of a situation that had previously felt “out of control”. With that new feeling, we attracted the means to accomplish the goal very rapidly.

The means that showed up required that we go through a barrier of fear. But with our new understanding of the Terror Barrier, and how to get through it, we took the leap, and tripled our income. The Mindset Mastery Program will take you through that process, step by step. If something is telling you to take that leap of faith, have some courage and find out what our graduates have learned. You’re worth the investment. (More on Mindset Mastery Program here.)

Additional Tips to feel Abundant Now:

De-clutter your home. Unload things that you are not using, things that could be enjoyed and used by someone else right away. Let them go, cheerfully, and you’ll feel abundant again. Give them to charitable organizations who will recycle them.

Cut your losses. We’ve made our fair share of poor investments, and the first time we faced losing a lot of money, we used all of our mental toughness, all of the visualization, all of the prayer, hope and persistence we could muster to change the nature of the bad investment. We thought that when nothing changed, we were just not being faithful enough, and that God could certainly cause a miracle in our behalf to turn the bad investment into a good one if he wanted to.

But there was no rescue or change until we became really humble and began listening for, and looking for, other benefits from the experience. The investments actually ended up paying really well in terms of lessons learned, once we decided to stop trying to force them to pay well financially.

If you work to learn rather than work to earn, you will always be well compensated.

So, ultimately, we found the courage to stop the financial bleeding where it was, and through the experience we learned (for the first time) to remove all emotional attachment from financial investments. We determined to be grateful that we only lost about $150,000 in that experience, and discover that we could bounce back after a setback. We found out that setbacks didn’t have to be fatal.

We decided to be grateful that we didn’t learn the lesson on millions of dollars instead of only tens of thousands.

Remember: The tools of visualization are not to manipulate circumstances, but to plant seeds, and to allow the natural processes do what they need to do, to ultimately bring the vision about in the right time and place. Visualization changes YOU, not the circumstances. When YOU are changed, your circumstances will reflect it.

So, if your circumstances seem bleak, use visualization to create the life you expect to live on the other side of the hardship. Most people, who are gripped with fear in their present financial mess, have no visual image of what their life will be like in 10 years. Most are so consumed with visions of a financial train wreck in a few months, that they have not stopped to consider how they might put things back together afterwards, and build an abundant life in the longer run.

Zoom out. If you are gripped with fear, zoom out. The law of rhythm states that all of life’s conditions are cyclical. If you’re having a bad day, you can expect to have a good day soon. If you’re having a bad year, you can expect to have a good year soon. If it’s been a tough decade, then start creating the vision of what a decade of prosperity would feel like. The opportunity for the upturn is there for you, but it requires your hope and optimism to bring it about as soon as possible.

And here’s an important tip:

Don’t avoid thinking about the worst-case scenario.

“WHAT DID LESLIE JUST SAY???”

You heard me right: Don’t avoid thinking about the worst-case scenario. But before you pass judgement that I’ve totally flown off the deep end, consider it this way:

If pushing the fearful thoughts away has not been working for you, go ahead and go there.

Let me explain. If I told you, “do NOT think about an elephant,” then you could spend all day long pushing elephant images away. What you’re essentially doing is thinking about elephants non-stop.

So maybe you’re facing the loss of your home. Maybe you’ll lose everything. Maybe you’ll have to go bankrupt. Go ahead and create a contingency plan: what would you do to start over? What is your ultimate goal? What is the life you’re trying to build? Stop avoiding the images of hitting the bottom, because by pushing them away all day, you’re essentially giving them a whole lot of attention. Get it over with. Think them through and finish the exercise with the vision of bouncing back afterward. See yourself successful on the other side.

Did you know that most highly successful people have lost, or nearly lost, everything, at least once? Bob Proctor says he has nearly lost everything twice. The law of polarity states that as bad as things are, is how good things are (or can be – if you’ll allow it) on the other side. The harder the fall, the higher the potential bounce. So many people face the loss of everything, but we find out soon enough what a person is made of by how quickly they bounce back.

How quickly a person bounces back depends on how quickly he/she comes to peace with what is.

So go ahead and think through the worst-case scenario, and come to peace with it as soon as possible:

  1. Think about it unemotionally – with a mindset of fixing it, in case that’s where you go. Then,
  2. Create a plan for avoiding the worst-case scenario, and let yourself get really excited about the success!

Address both the bad and the good possibilities, but address the bad with composure, and address the good with excitement.

The conditions connected to the dominant emotion will have the greatest affect the final outcome. So go ahead and think it through, experience the fear if you must, create a contingency plan for recovery, and then pull yourself together. Then spend the rest of your time and energy going forward on the plan for only prosperity and success. End your exploratory session on an optimistic note, and feel good knowing that you’re going to be okay no matter what. This exercise helps you get back to being in the right vibration for success, which is a much better place to be than in constant conflict of trying to think prosperity when you’re feeling so much anxiety.

Get back to the basics. Focus on your family. Your family is yours in good times and in bad times. So focus on building and strengthening those relationships. If you’ve already come to peace with the worst-case scenario, then you’ll find it easier to let go of your stresses to enjoy the kids, and your spouse. Really, what do you have to lose? (You might say, “everything!” but whether you do or you don’t, you can grow stronger as a family through it, and not let it fracture the most important thing: your relationships.)

Taking time to put family first will increase your emotional and spiritual vibration and prepare you to make better decisions when you return to the grind.

Prepare for emergencies. Historically, when the economy has suffered, other calamities have piled on top of it to add stress to an already weakened people, such as war, or widespread illnesses. This is a time of testing. Keep your head on and follow your intuition. Have some extra food on hand, in case you have to stay in your home for extended periods of time. If you are prepared, you will more easily avoid falling into fear. Remember, a mind full of fear cannot simultaneously be full of faith. A mind and heart full of faith will be in tune to receive inspiration that can help avoid or overcome hardships.

Take inventory of lessons learned. If you’ve made some mistakes with your money, learn the lesson and move on. Yes, we are to think abundantly, but we are also to be wise stewards of the resources we’ve already been given. It is important to know that God can and will provide abundantly all that we need to accomplish all He wants us to do, but if we slip into an entitlement attitude, that we should always have all we want right now, and that it will never run out, no matter how careless we are with it, we have swung too far into an irresponsible, immature mindset that is no better than a teenager’s who lives with a rich and indulgent parent. God will not spoil us… so if we think abundantly without regard to the rest of his universal laws, we are setting ourselves up to be humbled.

Practice gratitude. You have all you need in this moment, so recognize it, acknowledge it, and express your gratitude for it. Even selfish teenagers get more favors from responsible parents when they show genuine gratitude.

“So is there, or is there not, abundance??”

There is abundance. There is only abundance. We can have all that we need to enjoy freedom, and reach our highest potential.

In fact, we already do. We have all we need right now to learn today’s lesson. We will have all we need tomorrow to learn tomorrow’s lesson. Remember to always work to learn, and you’ll live an abundant, fulfilling life.

The journey will have some bumps in the road, and for good reason. Stay faithful, trusting that there is good in all of it, and you’ll come out on top. It is only by faith that miracles are wrought, and yet sometimes we have to take a step back and get our feet solidly back on the ground before we’re ready to climb that next mountain. When you start approaching your challenges in the right way, you’ll feel the joy, and the soul-expansion, of choosing the right.

If you haven’t been feeling that for a while, take a deep breath and assess your situation, right where it is. Face the facts – know where you are. The GPS (global positioning system) will only accurately take you to where you want to go if you accurately identify your starting point. If you haven’t done that for a while, (i.e. pulling your bills together and identifying your income/expenses), then doing it now can actually feel GOOD, because it’s RIGHT. Doing the right thing will bring you peace of mind, which is the first step to being open for further instructions.

It’s not over… it’s a wonderful new beginning! Originally published Jan 22, 2009

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The Law of Cause and Effect: a Principle of Action

“Now ye may suppose that this is foolishness in me; but behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise.” (Alma 37:6)

The laws that we have discussed to this point are all principles of thought and mindset. The Law of Cause and Effect, however, is a principle of action. Specific actions yield specific results. If you want a specific result, then you had better know what the necessary action is in order to receive it. We often refer to these results as the consequences of our actions. These consequences are manifestations of the Law of Cause and Effect.

Things around us act in predictable ways. When that pattern is interrupted, there is a change in the pattern which brings a new result. We call the interruption the cause, and the new result the effect.

The Law of Cause and Effect is known throughout the world by many names. My first introduction to it was as the Law of the Harvest, or as ye sow, so shall ye reap (see Galatians 6:7)….

..,often we think that the action required will be significant. Monumental, even. Maybe that will be the case. But when mindset is right, the necessary effort is often much smaller than we might think.

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Who Pushed the Apple?

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As you learn more and more about this “Rare Faith” I talk about, you might be wondering if it’s based in science, or theology. I happen to think it’s got a solid foundation in both, and here’s why. Let me begin with a story:

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Two brothers sit beneath a tree after a long journey. One is a quantum physicist, the other a theologian. They are both hungry, and soon the wind blows and the tree sheds an armful of fruit.

The physicist says, “How remarkable it is that my thoughts can cause the wind to blow so that the tree would drop these apples.”

The theologian says, “How wonderful it is that God heard my prayer and blessed us with these apples!”

With confidence, the physicist explains, “But, my dear brother, the apples dropped because of natural law.”

With a knowing smile the theologian replies, “Ah, but the apples dropped at that time because God heard and answered my prayer.”

After bantering back and forth for a time, the two brothers parted ways and were brothers no more, and the Great Unseen Force of the Universe, (with all the names it bears) was sad and preserved the rest of the apples on the tree for creatures bearing softer, purer hearts.

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This rare kind of faith that I talk about (sometimes called the Law of Attraction—although a more complete discussion of rare faith includes at least 6 other laws) is an amazing phenomenon, and it has been known to stir up quite a controversy between people who want to know how it works with their belief in God, and those who prefer to explore it’s functions from completely academic or secular sources.

Let me just level the playing field here, so that brothers don’t have to part:

Truth Fits. Period.

If something is true, it will not contradict something else that is true. In the case of the falling apples, both explanations fit the experience, so each man may adhere to his own belief without necessarily negating the other. Nor is either one of them required to adopt the other man’s point of view.

They both have apples and should both be grateful. End of argument.

It reminds me of a story of several blind men who were brought to an elephant, having had no previous experience with one. They each described the elephant, and each had something very different to say. One man after reaching forward and feeling the animal’s side said, “An elephant is like a wall.” Another man holding the elephant’s leg said, “No, this is not like a wall at all, an elephant is like a pillar!” Another blind man who had grasped its tail exclaimed, “No, an elephant is like a rope!” One holding a tusk described it as a spear and the one holding its nose described it as a tree branch.

The men continued in a heated argument, each one absolutely certain that he was right and the others had to be wrong, until a wise man was able to explain that they were all right because the elephant did, in fact, have all of the features described.

Life is like the elephant. There are scientific ways to look at life and there are spiritual ways to look at the same life. We understand life best when we consider ALL possible aspects and see how they can fit together.

I’ve had readers tell me how grateful they are that they have found a place to learn about the law of attraction from a perspective that includes God. Other readers wish I’d do it more, while some wish I’d do it less.

With that in mind, imagine if we were on a field trip to the zoo and the elephant keeper was going to tell us about the elephant. Should we be offended if he neglects to call our attention to the abdomen? Should be be bent out of shape if he talks too much of its head and nose? If he says something about the insides of the elephant, (parts we can’t immediately see or prove) should we reject his whole presentation simply because he included something that required some faith to accept?

No, I think we’d just enjoy the presentation and graciously take the parts that provided answers to our own individual questions, leaving the rest without fuss or fanfare.

You’ll find people who teach the law of attraction in spiritual terms, and you’ll find others who describe it in more scientific terms. Both offer valuable insight that can help all of us improve the quality of our lives.

If religious or spiritual terms offend you, then simply substitute them with terms that fit your frame of reference. Call it Source Energy or Power or the Universe, or whatever keeps you from rejecting good information.

If the lack of spiritual or religious terms makes you nervous, then when you read material from those who use other terms, simply make appropriate substitutions as you go along and continue studying material that helps YOU gather all the useful information about how life works.

If you think about it, it’s simple. We’re all in this together, trying to build a happy life for our families, and we can really learn from one another by building on common ground. In this study of Rare Faith or the Law of Attraction, there is plenty of common ground to build upon.

Personally, I don’t see any contradiction. Together, both explanations have helped me understand life better. I believe God created the Universe and uses natural laws to deliver the goods.

It would be absurd to think that when an apple breaks from a tree, God needs to rush over and push it down. Fortunately, the law of gravity is already in place.

So I thank God for the goods. Others may thank the laws. In my opinion, both God and natural laws played a part, so I have no argument with the scientist.

When we live in harmony with the law of attraction, the “goods” of His creation will naturally find their way to us. By law they will, and we can depend on it. God understands all of the laws perfectly, and provides counsel in holy writings that supports the more secular descriptions of the phenomenon. I also believe he inspires scientists to discover truth about his creation to help us all improve our quality of life. Again, truth fits.

Quantum physics (and the commentaries in layman’s terms) have helped me understand how my thoughts can literally shape my circumstances. Theology has helped me understand who I am and why I’m here on this planet in the first place, and has kept me grounded so that I can use what I’ve learned with wisdom.

A person who has already discovered spiritual, eternal truths would be a fool to discard them upon their discovery of the laws that govern the physical world. And a person who only knows the physical world at its laws would be a fool to disregard the possible spiritual and eternal consequences of their pursuits.

The purpose of my business is to help families prosper through teaching the 7 Laws and how they work, laws that work whether or not a person believes they exist, and whether or not they believe in God.

Gravity pulls an apple to the ground whether or not you believe in the law, and whether or not you believe that a God created it.

When we understand and consciously live in harmony with the laws to build wealth, the prosperity comes just as dependably as the apple falling to the ground when it breaks from the tree.

That the results are dependable does not void the existence of God, nor does giving Him thanks for the resulting prosperity nullify the existence of the laws that delivered it.

For more on the laws that govern prosperity, read Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters. Originally published May 7, 2008

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Why Disappointment can be a Good Thing

“One of the greatest skills we can learn in life is how to deal effectively with disappointments, because after all, life is full of them. Learning the skill not only helps us turn things around, but it can also help us have total peace of mind (and even joy) in the meantime. As we learn to respond to disappointments in ways that are in harmony with the laws of success, we discover that there is always something wonderful to be gained from them.” ~ Leslie Householder

The Law of Polarity is all about opposites. Day/night, black/white, up/down, smile/frown.  One effective way to learn about something is through the use of opposites–we can understand more of what something is by understanding what it is NOT. We understand happiness because we understand sadness. We understand what is right because we understand what is wrong…

[It] assures us that even when things look bad–even very, very bad–there is the potential for good.  It doesn’t necessarily take away the natural sorrow we feel when bad things happen… But the pain is mitigated by the faith in something good coming from the bad situation.

There is room for both sadness and happiness in life. In fact, both are necessary. How could we understand happiness without experiencing the opposite?  People who strive to live without experiencing sadness or other negative feelings also limit their capacity for experiencing joy.

Parenting is the perfect example of the Law of Polarity.  Within this experience we find the greatest capacity for love, joy, and happiness, and also the greatest sorrow, frustration, and disappointment. The love a parent has for a child is transcendent, and the grief a parent experiences as a child struggles can be overwhelming.  But such great happiness does not come WITHOUT soul-wrenching experiences. The greater the heartache, the greater the joy that can come…

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Adversity and Unifying the Family

Back when all my kids still lived at home:

Journal Entry 2008:

Tonight was our weekly family night, an evening set aside to spend time with the kids and improve our family relationships through activities and instruction. However, more often than we’d like, it’s actually the only family argument to open and close with prayer (as songwriter Michael Mclean once lamented). Nevertheless, we persist. We trust that the habit alone serves as an adhesive to help our kids feel like they belong to something important as they grow and prepare to face the world on their own.

Tonight was contentious, probably because of me. Honestly, I didn’t feel like “playing.” I was in an emotional slump and my head ached (a Law of Rhythm thing methinks). But because it has long been established as a weekly tradition, my kids began asking me what we were going to be doing that evening. Trying to brush the topic aside until I could rest my headache away, my answer was simply, “I just don’t know yet.”

My 12 year-old Nathan begged me to take them to the park for dodge ball, a family favorite. My 15 year-old Jacob had too much homework so we compromised and played some in the back yard with him first. Then he was back to the books and the rest of us headed off to the park for some more serious battles.

I loosened up, forgot my headache. Eventually I got off the swing set with the baby and began playing dodge ball, too. Holding the baby helped; the family was gentle when tossing it in my direction, and I won at least one of the rounds. There was still the usual sibling-to-sibling bickering, but I believe everyone had plenty of fun.

Finally it was time to go home. We gathered to the van and Trevan (my husband) realized that the keys had been locked inside. Nathan suggested we call Jacob to drive them over. But our other set of keys had already disappeared months ago, and since we never needed the second set, we had never bothered with finding or replacing it.

Besides, Jacob isn’t old enough to drive.

Trevan suggested we say a prayer. We huddled together and he asked God to allow the door to somehow be unlocked so that we wouldn’t have to walk the mile home. Then he said,

“But if not, help us to enjoy the walk.”

The front passenger window was cracked about 2 1/2 inches. First we tried to see if any of the kids’ arms were skinny enough and long enough to reach the door lock.

No good.

Through the front window we could see, resting in front of a couple books on the dash, a mechanic’s wire claw (about two feet long, used for grabbing little things that get dropped inside an engine). I asked Trevan where the keys were and he said they were in the passenger cup holder in the center console. I asked if he thought that the wire grabber would be long enough to reach them, but it looked pretty short compared to the distance between the cracked window and the center console.

It was the only possible option at that point, so even though it was a long-shot remedy, we got to work trying to obtain that claw.

None of us could reach it through the narrow window crack. Kayli suggested we use one of the badminton rackets that we had brought with us. We first tried to use the racket to pull the lock up (to no avail – wrong angle). Then we tried to use it to bring the claw closer, but there was a thick “Jane Eyre” book on the dash blocking it.

The window opening was about 2.5 inches wide along the top, but only about 1.5 inches wide at the lower front gap (the part closest to the dash where the claw rested). Trevan force-pulled the window down to give me an additional 1/2 inch or so, and although I couldn’t reach the claw, I realized I could reach the fuzzy dash cover upon which the books and the claw sat. So I grabbed the cover and pulled it toward me until the claw was within reach.

Next we had to use the claw to reach the keys. But no matter who tried, the closest we could get to the cup holder with that claw was at best 4 inches. We were SO CLOSE! How can we have so much success getting this far only to have our efforts fail now?

There had to be a way.

Trevan discovered that if a person could be lifted higher than the van, their arm could get into the window opening a little better and reach a little farther. But there wasn’t anything to stand on except the wheel, two feet in front of where we needed to be.

After Trevan tried and then Nathan, I took a turn standing on the wheel, leaning 45 degrees onto Trevan and squeezing my arm into the narrow gap. Nathan supported me from behind so I wouldn’t fall backwards off of Trevan’s shoulder. Simultaneously, Trevan force-pulled the window down just enough for me to get my forearm in. Then, miraculously my elbow passed through. I managed to hook the keyring with the claw and began to pull them out. At one scary moment it felt like my arm might break before I had the chance to completely extract the claw and keys. Carefully maneuvering my arm and shoulder while leaning at that unnatural angle, I managed to pull them out.

After a round of “high-fives” we paused to give thanks, and then took a moment to help the kids see an important lesson in the experience:

Everything we needed was already there. We simply had to ask for help, and then get to work putting it all together in the right order.

The same is true in life. You already have all you need – the resources, the people, the brains – you just need to begin utilizing them in the right combination and in the right order. It can be hard, I know! It’s easy to feel blind to the solution. The good news is that as you make an attempt, every failure will lead you to think of the next idea, one after the other until you find the solution.

Just remember that it never helps to fret and fuss, moan and complain. Solutions are best (and sometimes ONLY) discovered by the person who is at peace, expectant, hopeful, and tenacious.

So ask God for what you need, and be willing to accept “no” for an answer (“but if not, help us to enjoy the walk.”) Then get to work finding the way to make your goal a reality. You might not yet have the keys you need to go where you want to go, but you do already have everything you need to begin the process of obtaining them.

And sometimes the solution only becomes apparent after a series of frustrating attempts. So keep trying!

If we had truly exhausted all possibilities without success, we would we have eventually tightened our shoelaces and started home on foot. I’m just glad we didn’t have to. In any case, I believe our family night was a success because we were unified for a common purpose (if only for 20-30 minutes), and it only happened because we first had adversity. (Law of Polarity)

And you know what? Solving the problem as a family turned out to be ten times more gratifying than the best game of dodgeball could ever be. Originally published April 8, 2008

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Understanding the Law of Vibration

“I’ll believe it when I see it.”

Have you ever heard this expression before? Or maybe, “Seeing is believing”? Our eyes are extremely useful tools for helping us to gather information, but there are plenty of things that affect us every day that we CANNOT see.

Like what, you ask?

Well, like vibrations.

Vibration is movement. Very often you can see something vibrate, like the string of an instrument while it is being played. If you look closely, you might see the string get kind of blurry from moving back and forth at a high rate of speed. But there is even more happening that you cannot see. The vibration of the string (which is visible) makes the air around it vibrate (which is invisible), which makes your eardrum vibrate (again, invisible), and your brain translates that vibration into sound. You can’t see it, but the whole reason you can hear is because of vibration.

Have you ever seen or heard of a theremin? It’s an instrument that uses vibration to make sound. Actually, ALL instruments use vibrations to make sound (that’s how sound works, remember?), but with a theremin, you don’t even touch the instrument. Instead, you use your hands to manipulate the vibrations, which changes the sound.

Watch a video of a theremin HERE

Amazing to watch, isn’t it? The explanation of how a theremin works is equally fascinating.

Video: How it works

But what does a theremin have to do with your thoughts?

A lot more than you might think.

All things vibrate. We know that all matter is made up of tiny particles so small that we cannot see them. These particles are called atoms, and atoms move constantly. So even if you are sitting completely still, because you are made of atoms, you are really moving–a lot!

Here is the interesting part: even non-tangible things vibrate. Something intangible, like a tone or a note, has a specific vibration or frequency.

Other intangible things, like thoughts and feelings, also have a specific vibration.

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They All Have Angels

Depression had gripped me throughout my second pregnancy. I was thrilled to be expecting another baby, but the hormones made it difficult for me to feel the happiness.

When the time came, labor was long and complicated. By the time my son came into the world, I was too exhausted to celebrate his arrival. For the next 24 hours I lay in bed rehearsing what I had just gone through, unable to do much else but shake my head in disbelief that any human being could have lived through such an ordeal. I had no words for how I felt.

I held him tenderly and remarked to my husband about his dark, almost purple complexion… which side of the family did that come from? He seemed especially tired to me, but the nurses weren’t concerned so I just tried to get some rest and regain my strength.

We were nearly ready to leave the hospital when the nurse came into the room. She had taken him for a routine task and was now coming back. I pretended to be asleep and then I heard her ask my husband “Is your wife sleeping?” He told her I was, and she said, “There’s a problem.”

I rolled over and sat up. She told us that he had turned blue and that he was being prepared for a helicopter transport to the Primary Children’s Hospital in Salt Lake City 45 minutes away. In an oxygen bubble he was doing well, but they needed to do some tests to figure out what was wrong.

We finished our packing, and caught up with my little boy before they whisked him away. We managed to find another Elder from our church in the hospital that assisted my husband in giving Nathan a blessing that he would grow to live a long life of service to God. I shed a tear but felt numb… I had missed my chance to emotionally connect with him.

After several tests it was determined that he had been born with a heart defect and needed surgery, for which he was scheduled just a few days later. We stayed in a nearby Ronald McDonald House and our life was put on hold. I sat with him and kept a tape recorder in his bed playing the music I had labored with. It was calming and had come to represent a sort of peace amidst the beeps and bustle of hospital chaos, first for me and now for him. We finally began to bond, as I tried to understand who he was and what he meant to me.

The day of surgery we took pictures and kissed him and then let them take him away. We sat in the waiting room for four hours, waiting for word. Then it came. All had gone well and there were no surprises; he would be stable enough to go home in a week or two. Relief settled over us.

My husband couldn’t be away from work any longer so he left me at the Ronald McDonald House and went home to get some rest before work the next day. I lay in bed at 10:00 pm, feeling guilty and beating myself up that I wasn’t by Nathan’s side helping him through his first night after surgery. What kind of a mother was I, that I could be so bitter after the delivery, and then to not be near him now? Oh, how I wanted to be.

But in all of the commotion, everyone including me had forgotten that I was recovering too. I should have been resting the past four days, and the fatigue had caught up with me and hit me hard. I stayed there crying, utterly exhausted physically and emotionally, scarcely able to move, let alone get back to the hospital to comfort my little Nathan. “Dear Father in Heaven, please let thine angels attend Nathan tonight, I just can’t go; I just can’t.” A warm, comforting feeling came over me and I knew my prayer had been heard. I relaxed and left Nathan in God’s hands for the night.

Nathan came home ten days later, with tubes taped to his face and an oxygen tank, which would be his constant companion for the next six months. At three months I took him in for a follow-up appointment with his cardiologist, who examined his thriving little body in amazement. I didn’t understand why she would be so astonished, until I overheard her quietly telling an intern, “Most of the kids with his defect don’t make it past 3 months.”

That isn’t anything I remember ever being told; I had only expected him to live “a long life of service to God.” What else hadn’t I been told? No matter. I knew there was a purpose and good in everything that had happened. If I had been able to bond before they had whisked him away, I doubt I could have coped with his emergency. If I had been able to be with him the first night after surgery, I would have missed the sweet feeling of having a prayer so surely answered.

Only two months later I was reading in the newest issue of the Ensign Magazine. It told a true story of another girl that had been treated at the very same hospital. I quote a few excerpts:

“Clayne…hurried from the intensive care unit to awaken Debbie, who was sleeping in the hospital’s parent room. ‘There are visitors,’ he told his wife. ‘I can’t see them, and I doubt that you can see them. But I can feel them.’

“For nearly an hour, Sherrie looked about the cubicle and described her visitors, all deceased family members. Exhausted, she then fell asleep.

“‘Daddy, all of the children here in the intensive care unit have angels helping them,’ Sherrie later told her father… ‘People from the other side helped,’ Sherrie recalls tearfully. ‘When I was really in pain, they would come and help me calm down. They told me that I would be okay and that I would make it through.’’’ (Michael R. Morris, “Sherrie’s shield of Faith,” Ensign, June 1995, 44)

With the initial challenges behind us, I truly enjoyed bonding with Nathan. He is a very special young man with a uniquely compassionate heart. I am even grateful for that difficult experience, because I know that when we pray, we are heard. And now I also understand that when the angels were taking care of Nathan that night, they were also taking care of me. Originally published December 23, 2008

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How to Create a Vacuum When You Don’t Have Control over the Vacuum

Here’s a conversation I had with one of my Mindset Mastery students that you might find interesting. She writes…

Dear Leslie, I am taking your Mindset Mastery Online Course, and I love it! I find I do best working in spurts, but right now, I have another issue.  I’ve been studying all of the laws, and the fact that “nature abhors a vacuum” has really resonated with me.  Even in the past, I’ve found myself getting rid of things so something better can replace them.

I’d love your advice on how to create a vacuum with my house, however.  My husband doesn’t read your material, or hold the same beliefs I do, but I still feel I can have that “rare kind of faith” in my life and have it positively affect me and others.  My husband doesn’t want to put the house on the market, even though I thought that would be the best way to create a vacuum for a new house.  I know putting it on the market can’t be the only way to manifest a new house–the house I truly desire–so, do you have any suggestions?  I’ve visualized the new house many times, and continue to do so and believe and get very excited about it, I’m just not sure where to go from here.  I’m even packing some things so they’ll be easier to move when the time comes.

Thank you so much for all you do–your advice and perspective have given me hope in places I had none.  I’m certain Heavenly Father guided my path so that I would find you.

My reply:

Sounds like you’re on the right track. You don’t need to create a vacuum every time you set a goal – that’s just one way of going about it, and in this case, I’d recommend you take the gentler approach to preserve the relationship. Use the vacuum law for goals and objectives that don’t threaten other family members’ sense of security. Use it for the more personal goals, at least until your husband is on board. You can still get into a house with the other principles (transmutation, vibration). Not all principles need to be utilized for every goal. Different goals and different situations will call for the application of different corresponding laws and principles. Hope this helps… 🙂 Leslie

It does help–thank you, Leslie!  Even as I sent the e-mail, it occurred to me that maybe it was easier for me to just “get rid of things,” and wait for something new to show up (because I had the “believing” part down) than to apply some of the other laws.  Your reply brings clarity and reassurance–thank you for taking the time to send it.

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