How to Pay for College without Going into Debt

You may or may not know this, but we now have FOUR children either in college, or heading to college soon, so how to pay for it is always in the forefront of our minds. We are teaching our kids to make it happen without student loans, believing there has to be creative ways to solve the problem, even if it takes a little longer to get through. The fact is, the idea of forking over tens (or hundreds) of thousands of dollars to universities (or having to borrow that much) makes ALL of our stomachs turn.

Paying for college can be overwhelming, especially when there really is no promise that the investment alone will guarantee your child’s successful future.

But last fall, I stumbled upon this free webinar training on how to secure scholarships for college.

We went from feeling stressed and uncertain to optimistic and encouraged. And, because the way we FEEL about our challenges has everything to do with how effective we will be at conquering them (#RareFaith!), this change of perspective was really good news for everyone in our family.

Since I first learned about the program, Jocelyn (the founder) and I have been talking about how this training could really help my readers, too.

She understands the struggle. She knew her parents couldn’t pay for college out of pocket because of the insane price tag (and she has a big family, too), so that’s when she set her mind to securing scholarships for college.

I don’t want to steal her thunder but her story is incredible. She was an average student – middle income level, with an average SAT score, and without saving the world with a million hours of community service.

Basically, she was a normal student, yet she still secured SIX FIGURES in scholarships!

And now, through The Scholarship System that she created from her experience, she has helped other families do the same.

So far, families that have worked with The Scholarship System have secured over $641,500 (and growing.)  

The Scholarship System’s strategy and wisdom works for pretty much any student.  It is possible to secure scholarships for college even if your child has a less-than-perfect GPA, isn’t an Einstein or a Tim Tebow and your family isn’t low income (she actually covers that in her free webinar training which you can learn more about here.)  And The Scholarship System shares exactly how it’s done, step-by-step.

On top of that, she gives a ton of helpful information, and it’s completely free. If you want to join the next one, you can learn more about the free webinar here.

NOTE: She does have a paid version as well, to which you get a massive discount if you attend the webinar. Regardless, don’t miss the free training. It is eye-opening and will definitely be worth your time!

All my best,

Leslie

P.S. I really loved Jocelyn’s free webinar, 6 Steps to Quickly Secure Scholarship for College (and avoid student loan debt). If you want to learn where to find legitimate scholarships quickly, you can join her free webinar here. My kids really enjoyed the webinar as well. There’s hope!!

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How to Rely on God for a Paycheck

This is nuts. It’s 1:00 am and I can barely keep my eyes open, but I know that if I just go to bed, I wouldn’t be able to fall asleep anyway. I have to get this out of my head. Having a message to convey is my curse and my blessing all wrapped up together.

Anyway, if I wait until the morning, there will be too many distractions.

So here’s my question to you:

How much money do you need to feel financially free and secure?

Is it a monthly cashflow? Is it a pile of “X” amount of dollars in the bank? What’s your number?

For years I operated from a standpoint of, “I will feel secure when we have $_______ coming in every month, residually.” Or, sometimes it was, “I know the work is done when we have $________ saved or invested.”

What I’ve noticed is that no matter what benchmark was set, once we achieved that number, I still didn’t feel financially safe and secure. I could see how quickly it could evaporate, or how easily we had grown into that income, and once again, felt a driving need to earn more.

Suppose One Million Dollars is your benchmark for success. Suppose you think that having $1M in the bank would allow you to do everything on your list that has been waiting for the day you could afford it. What if I could send you a check today for $1M. What would you do with it, right now?

I know you’re just reading along, but I really want you to stop and ponder that question:

What would you do TODAY with $1M?

If you don’t have a solid answer, then you are not prepared to receive $1M. If you feel like just putting it in the bank would solve everything, then you’re not prepared to receive it. If it’s so big that you can’t even wrap your brain around the concept of having $1M, then what difference would it make if it were $2M, or $400M? If you cannot conceptualize the difference between those figures and what that kind of money could do for you, then it’s time to start doing your research on the elements of your lifestyle that you’d like to enjoy one day.

Find out how much that cabin really costs, and whether that price includes granite or Formica, indoor or outdoor toilets, log or sheet rock. Get a feel for what the money can buy.

Suppose you were to leave your occupation to serve a humanitarian aid mission somewhere. How much money would you need each month, and how much does the plane ticket cost? Have you done enough research to know what’s a good deal and what isn’t?

If you have something in mind you’d like to do, have, or become, pretend like you already have the money and start shopping seriously for the things you’d need to purchase in order to have those dream experiences.

THEN (and here’s the cool part), release your concerns about the money, and focus on enjoying the experience as though it is happening now.

Picture it.

You don’t have to worry about the money part, because when you apply the principles of visualization to your dream-goals, things begin to line up for you to deliver the experience, sometimes without even requiring you to pay the regular price. Either opportunities line up that will provide you with the money you need, or circumstances will evolve in such a way that you will get to enjoy the benefit of your dream-goal through a barter, or a gift, or some other unexpected way.

It’s not your job to manage the creative process.

This is why I’ve always hesitated to encourage money goals, because honestly, for me, that’s not what pushes my buttons. Every time I set a money goal, it seems to put me into a state of being that repels the money. It must be some kind of subconscious program I have, I don’t know.

However, some people are really motivated and driven by money goals, but for me, they always seem to backfire. Well, I’ve decided that’s okay. I would rather that my driving force be the ultimate reason for wanting the money. I don’t want to have the money at the expense of all the other things that are more important to me than money, and that’s the risk we take when our goals are centered on a dollar figure.

So this begs the question: “What if I really do want a pile of money in the bank?”

Let me put it to you this way:

What is financial freedom, really?

What is financial security?

Isn’t it knowing that no matter what happens in the economy, or with your job, or whatever, your family’s needs will be met?

When our income tripled and we experienced what it was like to pay off credit cards, and buy the groceries we really wanted, and sign the kids up for all kinds of lessons, and fix all the broken things around the house… and ultimately move to the home that would really meet all of our wants and needs as a growing family, I thought I was experiencing financial freedom. I was able to do what I wanted, when I wanted to.

No question, it was an experience I hope everyone will enjoy.

However, we could not be content with life as it was, because Trevan was gone too much, and we always had to ask permission from his employer if we wanted to take some time off with the family. We would be concerned about the consequences he’d face at work if he had to stay home sick.

We were doing pretty well, but had so many opportunities come across our table for which he (we) simply did not have time to do our due diligence, and we could see it was potentially costing us as much as his annual salary to let the opportunities go. These were opportunities that could have replaced his annual income in just one or two transactions… and how much time would that have afforded him?

So it became clear a few years ago that he had to take the leap of faith. We believed that by letting go of his regular and dependable source of income, we’d begin to really soar financially. He’d have time to do due diligence on the amazing opportunities to invest in businesses, or real estate, or helping businesses find capital, etc.

We were convinced that by letting him finally be his own boss, and as we continued to live the principles of prosperity we had been studying, we’d finally get to start putting BIG piles of money in the bank. This is how we pictured creating peace of mind. In a small temporary way, we planned to make a ton of money and then simply take a little break. We had worked so hard for so long, we were liking the idea of taking it easy. Not retirement, of course, but easing up on our crazy life-pace that we had subjected ourselves to for as long as we could remember.

Well, just as in the story of the acorn, letting go of the tree was terrifying, although we knew in our hearts it was time. (In the case of the story, the tree represented his job). We wondered how long we could survive without the sustenance that the tree had always provided.

We envisioned the grandeur and prestige of being independent, full-time entrepreneurs. It sounded so glamorous, and we were proud of ourselves for taking the step in spite of our fears, especially in light of the Stickman Concept.

With a bit of cockiness, we approached our investments with confidence, knowing that everything works out for us, because we had enjoyed a superb track record since discovering the principles in 2000.

Well, God has a way with people like us.

Like the acorn, we took a hard fall, and had never before experienced such fear and confusion. We wondered how long we’d have to flounder before God would see fit to rescue us and send us the financial windfall we continued to chase through our various ventures.

We literally lived on the end of our resources, eking by, one day at a time. I couldn’t let myself wonder, “What happens when the money runs out next week, and there is no paycheck coming in?” I didn’t let myself even think about it. There were times where I had to consciously choose to relax and subject myself to peaceful music in order to combat the storm raging inside my mind.

Somehow, God continued to sustain us in various ways, week by week, against all odds. This lasted a few months and then turned into more than a year… and I finally began to think, “If He has kept us going this far, and we’re still alive, we have food to eat and a place to live, and our family is in tact, then why wouldn’t I believe He would continue to support us?”

So during the second year, we pressed forward full throttle toward our goals, allowing the little money we had to flow through us freely, trusting that nature would fill the vacuum we continued to create. Unlike year #1, during year #2 we operated with very little (if any) anxiety, and gained confidence that everything was going to continue to work out. By this time, we were at peace with whatever was going to happen, good or bad. We’d move our feet in the direction of our goals a little further each day, and until there was absolutely nothing left we could do, we’d keep on keeping on.

I settled in to that strange new way of life. Like the acorn, we realized that we could survive, even disconnected from the tree, and I began to release my fears of, “What if we have to move?” Or, “What if you have to go back to a job?”

Suddenly, I found myself relying on God the same way we had relied on the paycheck. I knew God was there, and was aware of us and our needs, and I also knew that He could only bless us according to our faithfulness, so we practiced being at peace in the storm. Can’t really practice without a storm, so here was our opportunity to practice.

Related: What would you do if you ran out of money?

So now, how much money do I need?

Honestly, it flows through us faster than you’d believe because of how much we continue to pump back into our business so that we can extend our reach to more families and bring more mothers home from work.

I’m like that acorn, and as much as we all think we want a pile of money, I have learned that financial freedom is not having ten years of money in my hands today.

The seed does not benefit from having ten years worth of nutrients and water dumped on it all at once.

Neither I nor the seed would be able to absorb it, and it would likely wash us both away into oblivion. No, in the bigger picture, the seed is better off receiving only as much as it needs, as it needs it.

Financial freedom is the financial peace of mind that comes from recognizing that your job does not pay you… it is God that pays you through your job. It is not your business that pays you, it is God that pays you through your business. Remove the delivery vehicle, and He can still deliver the resources you need to become all you have chosen to become. It will find you, so relax as you keep taking just one more step!

As you allow yourself to find peace in darkness and uncertainty, you discover that miracles here on earth have not ceased. You become the newest recipient.

The acorn only becomes a mighty oak after it lets go of the parent tree, and finds all the sustenance it needs from God through the elements within its immediate surroundings. It grows independent and becomes shelter and sustenance for other tiny seeds only just getting started.

You don’t need a bazillion dollars in the bank. The person who learns to rely on God for daily support is the person who is truly financially free… because no market crash, no bank failure, no thief nor law suit, can ever overshadow the peace of mind that comes from having discovered God’s willingness and power to give you just what you need when you need it.

I will point out, also, that only people who experience great financial hardships will likely ever discover this miracle I’m talking about. If you’ve got it rough, count yourself highly fortunate. The sooner you let go of your fears, the sooner you’ll experience true financial freedom.

Realize now that even if all of your fears came true, you could still bounce back bigger than ever.

And then once you finally feel, and daily live, with that freedom in your heart, it’s only a matter of time before it begins to manifest in your physical reality, too.

But by then, you’ll have a wise and proper perspective on money, and will put it to work, blessing the lives of others.

I look forward to hearing your story. Originally published September 3, 2008

To learn how to enjoy peace of mind in any economy, join me now in the Mindset Mastery Program.

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How to reach more customers

I strive to provide life-changing content at no charge, and for those who need extra help, I offer additional products and services. By focusing on what I can GIVE, over 50,000 people have requested my information; and many of them tell their friends about me. This has been an effective approach that keeps me busy helping a lot of people.

But today I want to share with you one of my BEST strategies for reaching more customers:

I participate in a gift giveaway event almost every year, which always brings me hundreds (sometimes thousands) of new subscribers in just a few weeks. And if you’re building an online business (specifically one that empowers people to improve their lives), I strongly suggest you consider doing it with me this year.

Having participated in this event every year for nearly 7 years, I have come to know and respect the event hosts (Carolyn and Joe), and they do a first-class job at bringing lots of targeted prospects to what I have to offer. If you have a product or service that empowers people, they can do the same for you.

Each event has a different theme. Sometimes it’s health and wellness, sometimes it takes a more general approach. This one is the 2nd Annual Empowered Living Gifts Giveaway event and it’s getting ready to launch in just a couple weeks.

(If you join this event for free – even if you’re not ready to participate 100% – you’ll be automatically notified of other events in the future.)

How does it work?

Basically, you provide a downloadable or digital gift (a sample of your product or service – an ebook is a great example), and then announce this gift giveaway event to your subscribers.

HUNDREDS of list owners are coming together to do the same thing. So as you let your subscribers know about the gifts they can choose from, the other list owners are doing the same for YOU.

This is a perfect example of building wealth on the CREATIVE plane, instead of the COMPETITIVE plane (as explained in my free ebook Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters – available at http://www.hiddentreasuresbook.com).

In other words, your free gift gets exposure to THOUSANDS of new potential subscribers in a matter of days, and if you deliver great information and they like what they receive from you, you have a new list of warm leads and potential customers with whom you can follow up.

Participation in this gift-giveaway event is FREE.

(But there IS an upgrade option, which I ALWAYS do. For me, at least, it always pays for itself pretty quickly.)

Sign up here

To Your List-building Success!

Leslie Householder

P.S. This event is free to join, but with 500 + gifts expected, I highly recommend you give serious thought to upgrading your account for 4x the list-building visibility and the opportunity to add multiple gifts – I always do.

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How to Survive the Downs

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Life is like a roller coaster. When things go downhill, throw your hands in the air and smile!

Have you ever met someone whose life seems to be falling apart and they’re happy anyway? Have you ever thought, “Wait a minute, you’re supposed to be miserable and depressed!”

It’s true. There are some who are simply in denial, and who hope that the problems will go away if they just ignore them. However, there are others who feel happy even when things are going down because they know a secret. They understand the 19 Rules of Prosperity.

These people can feel happy during a downturn because they know the ride never goes downhill forever. By law, it always turns upward again at the bottom – just like a roller coaster. They smile now because they’re focused on the longer term; and they’re already thinking about the joy and heights that life will take them to next.

Now, while we’re on this “roller coaster theme,” imagine you’ve saved for years to take your family to an exciting theme park on the other side of the country. You’ve pictured the laughter, the fun, the memories you plan to create: the joy of being together, the food, the free time; it’s all so very wonderful!

Now it’s finally time to take that trip. You enjoy a relaxing plane ride, settle in at the hotel, spend the night, and in the morning you have a full day to take in all of the theme park attractions. After entering the gate, you notice that just inside the entrance there are two roller coaster rides to choose from. The first one is called “Straight-Shot to Success” and goes like this:

“Straight Shot to Success”

You get on, and it pulls the line of cars all the way to the top of a twenty-story tower where ….

… it lets you off so you can climb down the stairs to do it again.

Look at the enthusiasm in this picture, just before unloading to climb down and repeat the experience all over again! (Wouldn’t it make for a pretty boring roller coaster ride? Yes. But isn’t that what we think we want out of life? A steady, predictable, safe and easy climb to success?) The thing is, if that’s what we got out of life, I think we’d feel pretty dissatisfied with the whole experience. Without the lows, the highs mean nothing.

So, let’s take a look at the second roller coaster ride called “Joy in the Journey,” which instead goes something like this:

“Joy in the Journey”

You get on, and it pulls you to the top of a big hill and then turns you loose into a series of ups and downs, loops and turns. Everyone is terrified and laughing, all at the same time.

Even when the people plummet at break-neck speeds straight toward the ground, they have a smile on their face.

Now, is that twisted, or what? Are they in denial?

No. They are genuinely enjoying themselves, because they know that the terror is temporary, that the danger is an illusion, and that it will come to an end. They know that they are in a controlled, safe environment that is simply giving them the appearance of danger. Deep down, they know everything is going to be okay in the long run.

Which rollercoaster ride do you think would have the longest waiting line? “Straight-Shot to Success,” or “Joy in the Journey?”

I choose the latter. Here’s what helps me endure the scary parts:

Believe it or not, like a roller coaster ride, Life itself is a safe environment, even with all its dangers.

Contrary to appearances, it truly is a safe place to be. From God’s vantage point, the things we fear are nothing to Him, including death itself.

Do you realize that the life you live is precisely the life you would have chosen all along? THIS is the life that brings you the greatest joy: the life with all the ups and aggravating downs. So be grateful for your downs, and as you allow your heart to swell with gratitude, you’re putting yourself into the right mindset to receive next the best “ups” that God has to offer.

The ups and downs we experience help us feel.

The change from up to down (or down to up) is precisely what makes it possible for us to recognize the difference from one emotion to the other. Like I said before, without the downs, the ups would be meaningless. The lows help us feel and appreciate the highs.

Bob Proctor says, “Most people tiptoe through life, trying to make it safely to death.” Do you see the irony in that? Instead, we should have courage and press on toward our dreams with full, fearless intention.

Fear not!

As Mark Twain said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

You have a choice of what to think about. So think on the expected highs that put a smile on your face, instead of worrying about the imagined train wreck at the bottom of the hill that hasn’t even happened yet.

It is only when your heart is at peace that it is truly prepared to receive inspired solutions to your problems.

So, if you’re headed in a downward direction, be at peace. The tracks are bent and will surely guide your roller coaster car up to the top again in time. It’s going to be thrilling! And in fact, according to the Law of Rhythm, you’re already on your way. Originally published Mar 12, 2008

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#18: Making Money from Home

We live in a society today where there are an unlimited number of ways to make money from home (pictured above is just one of those ways). This is my sister-in-law’s Etsy shop, which is really thriving! But no matter who you are, or what you do (or will someday do), if you’re a mom working from home, you face some unique challenges.

Class Description:

Women, especially moms, tend to struggle in business.

  • They get excited about a great idea, and then get hung up trying to figure out how to get their business off the ground.
  • They struggle with all the information that’s out there and trying to figure out what works, and what is just hype.
  • They struggle feeling like they need to have “permission” to invest in themselves and their dreams.
  • They struggle with finding the time they need to pursue their dream because they are so busy taking care of everyone else.

Does any of this sound familiar?  Well, this is typical of women who feel pulled to make a difference and build a business.

Then, how have some women been able to build a successful, fulfilling business AND have the freedom to be with their families?

Carol Lamoreaux wondered the same thing. So she decided to interview women who have built their dream business and chat with them to find out their secrets. In this podcast you can listen in on her interview with me, and learn more about:

  • How to get things done.
  • How to keep the important things important.
  • How to be your authentic self and just go for it!
  • How to keep yourself on track.
  • And more…

Show notes:

Rudy
Why I love my business: it lets me be mom at home
Mistakes women make in business

  • not being themselves (be a better version of yourself instead of someone entirely different)
  • stop trying to please everybody

When building a business, where do you spend most of your time? Can’t go wrong spending time daydreaming about the vision. You don’t have to go the distance, be smarter, faster, etc.
Rely on unseen help, partner with God
I can’t do it by my own strength
Visualizing doesn’t just keep you motivated, it causes lucky breaks and serendipitous experiences
Don’t become enslaved to your business
When lucky breaks become predictable instead of shocking

Productivity Waster: worrying
Feel stuck? serve someone
Even busy work is more productive than worrying
You can’t steer a parked car, and worrying parks your car
Serve someone without expecting a reward
Expand your knowledge or create something that expands someone else’s knowledge
Relationship Capital x Mental Capital = Financial Capital
If you’re worrying about something and then it happens, you’ve lived it twice
Don’t anticipate it

#1 Productivity Habit: visualizing the finished product
Clear vision ensures the greatest efficiency
Sometimes I can only see the next step so I go that far and trust that the step after that will be apparent when I get there
Husband wants to see the 10-20 year picture, but it overwhelms me (the what to do piece)
Favorite tool in my business:
Automation software

Strategies to stay on target:
Allow myself to get off target, seasons of imbalance
Sharon Lechter – standing over feet balance analogy
Be willing to swing
Airplane is off target most of the time, always course-correcting.

How do you fit personal development in?
Not the way we used to. A little bit of reading every day, and spending time with like-minded people who can help us remember who we are and where we’re trying to go.

Advice for someone just getting started: Believe in your dreams, they wouldn’t be there if they weren’t possible.
People will think you’re crazy.
Dog chasing rabbit analogy

When you see it, what to do next becomes instinctive.

What am I doing now that I’m passionate about?
I spent years teaching people how I built a six figure income giving my book away for free – so I’m passionate about giving away my free things 🙂

Free gift for listeners:

Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters – free download at http://www.hiddentreasuresbook.com

More about Carol Lamoreaux:

Need a new website?
Want your current website overhauled?
Need help managing your email autoresponder?
Doing a telesummit and need help managing the tech stuff?

Carol is here for you! ProMomSolutions specializes in building client-attracting and list-building websites and telesummit projects. I also help mompreneurs get rid of tech headaches, by taking it off your plate, so you can spend your valuable time on what you are good at.

Learn more about Carol at at https://promomsolutions.com/

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Finding Peace and Joy through the Storm

Serenity is life’s supreme accomplishment. It’s not about living life without storms, it’s about finding peace and joy in spite of them.

According to James Allen, serenity is the supreme accomplishment. In his classic essay, “As a Man Thinketh,” he describes how we shape our lives by our thoughts, and how we create a life of joy and bliss by thinking lawfully… or we create a life of misery through unlawful thoughts.

This means that true prosperity is built, not upon principles of competition and brute ambition, but upon principles of successful right-thinking.

Let’s take a look:

The Law of Polarity guarantees that contained in every adversity is the seed of equal or greater benefit, so by law, there is good to be found in all circumstances. That’s why joy and misery are simply NOT determined by what happens to you.

This is proven by the fact that there are rich people who are miserable, and poor people who are full of joy. By the same token, there are poor people who are miserable, and rich people who are full of joy.

In all areas of life, it comes down to this: “Unfortunate” people can be miserable, or they can be joyful, if for no other reason than because the law guarantees the potential exists for both poles in every circumstance.

(Clinical depression or other mental illness can make it nearly impossible for a person to find or access the seed of equal or greater benefit contained in their adversity. If you feel this way, watch this.)

Finding joy

Some of our greatest joys come from growing and becoming all we can be. Growth feels good. It’s what defines us as “living”. So, if the lack of money prevents us from doing that, then we should use the fundamental principles of prosperity to obtain plenty of money. If the lack of positive relationships prevents us from doing that, then we should use the principles to improve our relationships. We can even use the principles to improve our health: physical, mental, and spiritual.

How is this done?

We must first realize that our thoughts are the only domain over which we have ultimate control. We must also acknowledge the fact that all areas of our life are affected by our thoughts. Something happens, and so we respond to it. But how do we respond? It all goes back to how we thought about the situation, and the resultant actions spawned by those thoughts.

We cannot respond gracefully to setbacks if we do not first think graceful thoughts. We cannot turn a bad situation around unless we first think of ways to turn it around.

Success always begins in the mind. (And so does failure.)

That’s why I’m convinced that the most important thing we can do is learn to control our thoughts. True peace and tranquility can be obtained in no other way than through self-mastery:

SELF-mastery, not ENVIRONMENT-mastery.

So when we stop waiting for our circumstances to improve, and instead make peace with—in other words—find happiness with, the way things are NOW, then The Law of Cause and Effect kicks in, and the world begins to soften towards us.

Sometimes making peace with the mess we’re in now is the only way our circumstances will ever improve.

But it’s a scary thing, to make peace with disaster, to come to terms with ruin.

We’re so afraid to go there, because we think it means we’re giving up; and if we give up, then maybe it also means that all hope is completely lost.

But it’s just not true.

Remember, it’s how you THINK that determines what happens next. So if you THINK that making peace with disaster or coming to terms with ruin means irreversible failure, then you’ll never let yourself go there. And that’s what keeps a lot of people stuck.

But what if I were to tell you the truth: that happiness, progress, victory, and goal achievement are ALL waiting on the other side of your coming to terms with the mess you’re in, and finding happiness just the way things are? What if I told you that you should let go of the need for your environment, pocketbook, health, or relationships to change?

Do you dare go there?

What if nothing EVER changed? Can you imagine that? What if I were to tell you that the way things are, are exactly the way things will be for the rest of your life?

How much time would you spend grieving? How long would you let yourself be angry?

And then what?

After a period of grieving, you would be different. We are designed to recover. We were born with the capacity to adjust, and adapt to change. It’s a natural process, in fact. Once we let ourselves give up on waiting for things to change, we can fight it and prolong the pain, but ultimately our systems are physiologically programmed to cycle through all of the stages of grief until we come to acceptance.

The Stages of Grief:

  • shock or disbelief
  • denial
  • bargaining
  • guilt
  • anger
  • depression
  • acceptance/hope

And so we go there (if only just in our minds), and then here we are: having made peace with the way things are NOW.

This is where Nature, the world around us, notices we have changed, and because of the Law of Cause and Effect, it begins to soften towards us.

It’s about finding peace in the storm. Not peace without a storm, but peace in spite of the storm. Greater success then becomes a natural byproduct of our increased serenity.

Ironically, if your serenity is real, and you’ve genuinely given yourself to the process, then it won’t matter to you if you gain more success, because you’re already happy with or without it.

Besides, isn’t happiness the reason for our pursuit of success to begin with?

In conclusion, let me just say this:

We will continue to face challenges. It’s a necessary part of life, because without opposition we do not gain experience, strength, or wisdom. Adversity is a blessing, and when we begin to accept and embrace it for what it is, we begin to experience the peace and prosperity that is ours to enjoy. Life just gets better.

It reminds me of the story of the farmer who complained that everything was always bad. God thought, “You think you have it bad now? Hmmmm. I’ll show you! I’ll show you what bad really is!” and so things got worse for the farmer.

On the other hand, another farmer expressed gratitude for everything, even his hardships, even without understanding why the hardships were good. He prayed: “Thank you for the challenge, because it helps me grow.” God thought, “You think you have it good? Hmmmm. I’ll show you! I’ll show you what good really is!” and things only got better for the farmer.

So just remember:

The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom.”James Allen

For more on this topic, visit How to Surrender (and why you’d want to). Originally published July 29, 2006

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So… my husband lost his job

It’s been a very interesting New Year! As we said goodbye to 2016, there was a feeling in the air that change was coming.

So when my husband noticed an interesting position posted at (I’ll call it “Company B”, a vendor for his current employer), I told him: “You should look into it…”

Husband: “I was thinking about it…”

Me: “I’m wondering why you’re still standing there.”

Chuckling, he disappeared into his office. He messaged his friend (the man he knew from Company B), and based on their relationship, he fully expected an eager, enthusiastic response. But two weeks went by and there was no reply at all.

Oh well, we both thought. I guess it wasn’t meant to be.

Then on January 13th my husband came home early, at about 10:00 am. A forced smile held back a flood of emotions as he sat down and broke the news to me that he had just been let go.

I was surprised, but not really. We had been feeling change coming, but didn’t know this is what the change would be. Remembering the Law of Polarity, I said, “Okay. This is good!”

He took a deep breath and said, “I choose to believe this is going to turn into something amazing.”

I agreed.

Let me pause to provide a little bit of back story for context. Here’s the sum up:

  • 1991-1997 – Really hard financial struggles.
  • 2000 – Big breakthrough, tripled our income in 3 months, started teaching seminars on what we learned. I tell the story in this video.
  • 2004 – Moved to our dream home pictured here.
  • 2005 – Released my books The Jackrabbit Factor and Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters, international best-sellers (free downloads, by the way).
  • 2006 – Husband quit job to help me run the books/seminar business full time.
  • 2007 – Invested too much money in real estate at the TOP of the market.
  • 2008 – The real estate market tanked and we worked overtime trying to hold it all together.
  • 2009 – New breakthroughs – had our biggest month to that point: $43,000. Published the sequel, Portal to Genius to describe all I had learned since releasing The Jackrabbit Factor.
  • 2011 – Husband returned to the 9-5 workforce to heal our strained relationship and begin working a longer-term plan with a stronger foundation. I stepped back from doing the business full time to recover, heal, and focus m0re on the family (instead of speaking as much as I used to).
  • 2012 – Sold our dream home and started working the new plan.
  • 2015 – Finally dared to begin dreaming again.

So, for the last couple years we’ve just been plugging away at the long-term plan and have been feeling pretty great.

I tell you all THAT to tell you THIS:

2012 was probably one of the hardest years we’d ever had. Our finances were in the biggest mess they’d ever been in, and when the market plummeted, we couldn’t sell our investments, people who owed us money couldn’t pay, and because the ripple effect was devastating, we also became those people.

I watched my husband’s self esteem shrink to pretty much nothing and I was not able to encourage him. I myself was just as depleted, and instead of being his greatest support, I was openly critical. I was exhausted, embarrassed, disappointed, and angry that my business had gone from a hobby I loved (because of how it helped people), to something I hated (because it was now needed for paying gigantic real estate bills).

So I’ve seen him broken and depressed. I’ve seen him completely paralyzed and unable to think of solutions. I’ve seen him beat himself up because he knew better, but still couldn’t shake the darkness.

To illustrate where we were at and what we were feeling at the time, let me paint a picture. I wanted to approach our problems with the belief that anything was possible (I was still teaching it, after all), and that we could just apply the principles and turn things around. But I wanted him to solve it, because I was exhausted. However, while I knew he could apply Rare Faith to solve it, I struggled to believe that he would. I was too tired, and he was stuck in despair.

After years of running the business 12-16 hours/day while trying to homeschool 7 kids, I ran out of steam altogether. My husband was doing all he could to help build and support the systems that delivered our product, but didn’t have direct control over creating the paycheck like I did as the marketer. I berated him for letting me shoulder the burden of the bills, and he wondered why I kept jumping in all the time instead of trusting him t0 figure something out.

Ironically, I had encouraged him to quit his job five years earlier to help me with the business. But now I wanted nothing to do with it, and I wanted him to solve the problem—even though he no longer had his best source of income for solving it. Still, he kept telling me to slow down and let him handle it. I don’t know why it was so hard to let go.

(Actually, I do know why, but that’s a long story. Read The Hardest Thing I’ve Ever Tried to Write for more about that).

Regardless, it was time.

So the next big bill came along, and I let him own it, no matter the outcome. I wasn’t even tempted to step in. But he couldn’t think of a single thing he could do to generate the money. I was too fatigued to implement any of my ideas, and all he could think of was to ask our Bishop for help. I thought, If this is the only thing he can think of, and if I’m really committed to letting him solve this, I need to support him in however he chooses to solve it.

Yes, this meant me showing up at the Bishop’s storehouse for a food order. We had plenty of long term food storage, but needed help with the weekly fresh foods.

Yes, this also meant running into people who knew my books and probably wondered why the Jackrabbit Factor lady needed welfare. I remember standing outside thinking, If I’m too proud to go in there and accept some help while we put our life back together and re-establish how we want our relationship to work, then I’m in a worse condition than I thought. 

Trusting the experience would be good for my soul, I took a deep breath and walked through those doors.

After a couple visits, consciously swallowing my pride each time, I told my husband, “I think you should take a turn.” I knew his pride was already shot full of holes, but facing humiliation head on can sometimes really shift things, as I discovered. After all:

  • Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
  • Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
  • Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.

So yes. I told him, “I think you should take a turn.”

My sweet husband answered, “That’s the least I can do.”

In time, he swallowed his pride even more and took a 9-5 job at 2/3 his previous salary so we could rebuild with a little bit of stability and give me a break.

A paper sack on the path: something to be grateful for, even if it wasn’t the ultimate goal.

Fast forward to just a few weeks ago, when he lost that job of five years.

We very quickly learned how far we’ve come. It surprised us, how natural it felt to think optimistically, in spite of the blow. It shocked us that we were able to feel increasingly excited about all the possibilities—all the things we could do with our future.

His options were now completely wide open!

He allowed himself to feel relief that he didn’t have to be at that job anymore, and we looked for evidence that the Lord was not only aware, but probably orchestrating things to bring us to even greater opportunities and blessings.

Thus, we began talking about all the reasons this “setback” was good:

  1. With all the experience he had gained over the last 5-6 years, he was now more marketable than he had ever been before.
  2. He had been unhappy and thinking about leaving anyway, but didn’t feel like quitting was the responsible thing to do. In some ways, it makes it easier when they just decide for you that you’re done.
  3. Because they let him go, he received severance, which would not have been available to him if he had left on his own.
  4. We had been hoping for a chance to finish the online school we had been revamping, so that the online version of the Mindset Mastery™ program could finally re-open for students. We thought, maybe this will give us the opportunity to finish it! And, by offering a more affordable format to our readers, the potential revenue could be more than 4 times what he was making at the job.
  5. We’ve already been through MUCH WORSE, so we knew we were going to be okay, no matter how this was going to play out.
  6. We’ve been independent business owners before, and while we didn’t really want to depend on our business to pay the bills again, we knew it could if we needed it to. (The advantage and power of having previously taken action to build multiple streams of income).
  7. Our relationship has never been stronger, and we’ve never been so trusting of the principles at the same time (instead of one of us being up while the other is down, or vice versa). Not an easy thing to do! But now we know it’s possible. So facing this together was proving to be a deeply rewarding experience instead of the opposite, as we had experienced before.
  8. We had been listening to Dave Ramsey and trying to follow his advice for the last few years, so we had a decent emergency fund in place—not fully funded, but better than nothing. I have to say, it is SO TRUE—the promise that if ye are prepared, ye shall not fear.

The promise was never, “If ye are prepared, ye shall not suffer.” It was that “if ye are prepared, ye shall not FEAR.”

Because truly, fear is the real enemy. When you do not fear, you qualify for blessings that cannot be given if fear is present:

“Behold and lo, mine eyes are upon you, and the heavens and the earth are in mine hands, and the riches of eternity are mine to give. Ye endeavored to believe that ye should receive the blessing which was offered unto you; but behold, verily I say unto you there were fears in your hearts, and verily this is the reason that ye did not receive.” (Doctrine and Covenants 67:2-3)

Needless to say, it only took a few minutes and we were feeling pretty excited and grateful for the blessing of his unexpected termination. Not without a little bit of apprehension, of course, but every time the worry crept in, we consciously kicked it out and focused on all of the happy possibilities.

Within 30 minutes of his termination, and just as we were talking about the possibilities, he received a reply from Company B’s representative: “Yes! I would love to talk to you about the position – how about breakfast on Tuesday at 8 am?”

Isn’t that interesting.

We were reminded about our experience at the restaurant in 2009 when we were at the end of our money, had no credit, and needed to find $15,000 in just a couple weeks. We had decided to forget about our immediate problems long enough to allow ourselves to get excited about what we’d be doing in ten years, after we had figured it all out. That’s when the waiter announced the meal was on the house, and that’s the month we ended up making $43,000.

We’ve learned that as long as we focus on where we’re going, and the happy outcome we expect to enjoy as though it’s already been accomplished, things just work out.

I dare you to test it.

Together, we’ve been testing it regularly now for about five years. As we raise our large family with all the unexpected expenses and needs that come with that, we’ve often wondered where the needed resources would come from. But as we strive to keep an optimistic, faithful approach, our needs have been met unfailingly, and without compromising our values.

It continues to prove itself to be a true and DEPENDABLE principle.

This job loss experience (okay I’m going to say it: he was fired!), is proving to be no different.

However, even though we were choosing optimism, we still didn’t know if the new job was going to work out, or if it would be the right next step for him to take. But the one thing we knew for sure: things always go better when we are optimistic.

Especially when we choose optimism and let go of our concern about how things will turn out. It’s a type of surrendering.

Related: How to Surrender (and why you’d want to)

By evening when it was time to tell the children, we had worked ourselves up into such a feeling of excitement that we told them it was time for a celebration! We announced that we needed to celebrate because Dad was just let go!

As he explained what had happened, he paused and said, “Wait…this happened on Friday the 13th… Seriously??” Everyone was like, WHOA… but then he added, “I thought nothing good was supposed to happen on that day!”

🙂

Originally, they were shocked, but after rehearsing to them all the reasons we believed this was happening because the Lord needed Dad more somewhere else, they understood.

We told them, “We have no idea how this is going to play out, but we trust that He is leading us. We just wanted you to understand why we might be saying no to some things, or eating food storage for a while until we get it all figured out.”

They were humbled, and supportive.

So anyway, instead of lamenting his loss (been there, done that, far too often, and for far too long…) we spent most of the day imagining the possibilities.

The next morning (Saturday), he had an idea come to him like a flash of intelligence, accompanied by a flood of details. (The Portal to Genius is real! You should really come experience it at Genius Bootcamp!) He immediately went to the computer and posted the following on a neighborhood Facebook group:

Yesterday my employment was terminated unexpectedly, so I’m now freed up to help you out. (Yay!)

I’m not looking for pity – I want to teach my seven children the value of work. I’m not too good for ANY honest work.

I have a little savings, so I’m ok for a little while, and I thought it would be fun to try an experiment.

So, here’s the deal: I will bring my own tools, and you supply the materials. I do work for you, you pay me whatever you feel it was worth – no questions asked.

Yep, simple as that. I have faith in God and in the humanity of people, and want to show my four boys that they aren’t too good for any honest work, and that as they rely on God and go to work with the resources they have available to them, their needs will be met.

I believe in Win-Win. If you don’t win, neither will I!

Need something fixed or created? I can help!

  • Home repair
  • Sprinkler repair
  • Furniture repair
  • Welding
  • Metal Signs (cut on a CNC machine)

I LOVE to build, repair, and create things. I’ve rehabbed homes over the years (outside of my normal computer software job), and I’m good at it. I can do just about anything, but if what you need isn’t something I am good at, I’ll let you know.

Disclaimer: I am not a contractor and I don’t have a license. I don’t have a business entity for this, and I’m not bonded nor insured, so I can’t do the jobs that require such. Also, if I get more requests than I can handle, I’ll choose the projects that seem like the best fit for my skills.

(My wife doesn’t know I’m doing this – hope I won’t be sleeping in the doghouse for it, haha)

Let’s have some fun and see where this goes!

PM me with your needs and I’ll let you know if it’s something I could do a good job with. I’m available to start today!

Immediately requests began to come in. He was out working that very day, and every day thereafter while he waited to see what might come of the job opportunity with Company B. One of our teenage sons even went with him as an apprentice (never let a good opportunity be wasted, right?)

He laid carpet, built cabinetry, fixed sprinklers, hung shelves, and performed a myriad of miscellaneous handyman tasks. Gratefully, he brought home some pretty good money, which put us ahead.

Quite a contrast from the last time life needed him to get creative.

My husband felt happy and free, and was having more FUN than he’d had in a long time. Yes, the concern would creep in sometimes, but we just kept replacing it with action, and optimism.

More than once he told me that he felt like he wasn’t just finding his feet; he had been pushed out of the nest, and was finding his WINGS.

Can I just say? We LOVE the feeling that the Lord is actively involved in our life, and we LOVE the opportunity to show our kids a better way to respond to setbacks than what they saw last time.

What a wonderful opportunity it has been, to discover for sure that we ARE different than who we were, even just 5 years ago. There’s no way we could have known this about ourselves without the opportunity to face something “awful” like this.

So the Tuesday interview went well. As did the Thursday follow-up. He was offered a position on Friday, but felt like he should negotiate a better package. Calming our nerves all weekend, by the next Tuesday they had come to an agreeable offer. It provides a higher salary than his last job, a wider array of potential opportunities in the future, the opportunity to work from home 3 days a week, and a little bit of travel.

A few other interesting things that convince us there was a divine plan behind it:

  • The man whose position he’s filling resigned the same morning my husband was fired.
  • Because he found another job so quickly, the severance pay helps us very quickly achieve one of our goals that we thought would take much longer.
  • Through a conversation because of his job loss with another former employee, my husband learned about a job opportunity that was exactly what my daughter has been looking for. She was hired and started that job two days ago.
  • And a whole lot more that I’m not going to take the time or space to explain here.

I’m just here to say that as scary as change can be, there’s no question that the Lord is mindful of ALL of us, and orchestrates things for our good when we do our best to stay faithful. Believe in good things! Optimism opens doors to opportunities that may otherwise remain hidden.

So if you’re feeling worried or stuck now, just imagine what you’ll be doing (and especially how you’ll be feeling) after you’ve finally solved the problem. Live THERE for a while, refuse to worry, have Rare Faith, and watch your world shift to a better place.

In gratitude,

Leslie

PS. If you struggle to have faith in the middle of a crisis, read Hidden Treasures: Heavens Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters – (it’s FREE!)

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#16: How to Surrender (and why you’d want to)

With effective goal achievement, there comes a point where it’s time to “let go”, or “surrender”, because if you try to force it, your persistence can backfire. This podcast is an excerpt from a personal coaching call with me and my client, who graciously allowed this to be made public so that it can help others who have similar questions.

My client had seen God’s hand in her life before, and acknowledged that He has ensured her needs have been met many times. But she worried:

What if this is the first time it doesn’t work out?
What if I’ve used up all the grace tickets?
What if I just keep busting myself up against the laws?
What if everything that matters to me falls apart?

Discover the answer to these questions and many more in this episode of the Rare Faith Podcast.

Related: Human Empowerment in Perspective

Show Notes:

The misunderstood principle of letting go or surrendering
Giving up – not to the enemy but to God
Examples of a pattern: JS in the grove ready to abandon himself to destruction, Peter using Rare Faith to walk on water but still needing a rescue, Alma snatched from burning.
There is a time and a place for giving up.
Surrendering doesn’t mean do nothing, it’s letting go after you’ve tried everything and it didn’t work
I want to be led. I don’t want to impose my agenda. I want total faith.
Choosing rock bottom
Being clear on how you want to FEEL
What is your time frame to accomplish that? By NOW
Are you willing to RECEIVE? Snarky.
Beating myself up for my inability to receive
What if the thing you want is a few years down the road?
If I can be guaranteed that, then I can hang in there.
Labor – what kept me going was knowing that it WILL end. I can endure anything if I know it will end soon.
Get out of your own way. What does that even mean??
The struggles are not for nothing. It IS going to happen, no doubt
You and me hanging out in heaven saying, remember when? That was HARD! We will sit in a garden somewhere…
You found out it would take 15 years. How would you tackle today’s tasks?
With relief.
If you don’t want to think about heaven, think about 15 years from now, reminiscing back.
Goals written in present tense, vs. goals in past tense
Restaurant story
Get comfortable with a longer term plan, if for no other reason than to keep you out of anxiety. If that’s all it’s for, it’s enough of a reason.
Why I love Dave Ramsey
Yes you can triple income in a short time, but it’s important to also live by the law of the harvest and develop habits and accept the slower processes
Quick success? If they have not also established some long term habits, they will fall.
Hustle fatigue
Next goal: to know that you have sufficient
Time for your loved ones, time to serve.
When you feel anxiety:
1) remember, you’re on the X year plan
2) don’t be afraid to find out exactly where you’re at, listen to Dave and come up with a plan
Why I love KLove

 

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How many goals at a time?

One of my readers recently asked: “Can you have more than one goal at one time? Or is it too overwhelming for you and your mind?”

That’s a really good question.

The length of what follows reminds me of Blaise Pascal, who is known to have said (in French), “I have made this [long] …because I have not had time to make it shorter.” I understand, Blaise. I understand. Anyway, here we go:

You can have as many goals as you want, but there should be an ultimate overall goal that steers the ship and helps you determine all the other goals you should set along the way.

Before I talk about focusing on one versus juggling several, there are three things to consider:

  • What is my overall goal in life? How do I define success?
  • Do each of the smaller goals contribute to my overall goal?
  • Which goals must wait until the more urgent, priority goals are accomplished?

Other goals may help you reach the main goal, or if you’re not careful, they can distract you from it. Contradictory goals will cause you to spin your wheels.

Every one of your goals may be important and good, but timing is important. When I was first married, it was my goal to stay home from work when we began our family. So without knowing how we’d do it, and expecting a windfall miracle to make it financially possible, I quit work and stayed home with my baby for that first year.

A miracle showed up, but it wasn’t the one we were looking for. It showed up as hardships, debt, and my husband eventually losing his job. It would be another decade before I’d look back with gratitude for the struggles we endured. The “miracle” was that God believed we could, and would, handle our mess and that eventually we’d rise above it, solve the problem, and share what we had learned with others.

The goal to stay home with the children never changed. To me, that was one important representation of what success meant to me. But our order of priorities had to change for a while before we could earn the privilege of having a mother in the home.

My ultimate goal, though, had more to do with how I wanted my LIFE to turn out when all was said and done. Part of that vision included how I’d like my children to turn out. A family rich in relationships and fulfilment better defines success to me than a fat checkbook. But watch how this all fits together:

As I’d picture how I wanted my children to turn out, it made me want to be the one to have the most influence on them as they grew up, which (for me) translated into wanting to be home with them.

In order for me to be home with them (and not be thinking about money stresses all the time), I desperately wanted to develop a passive income, which would be there whether or not something happened to my husband, or if I became physically unable to work.

We set dates for our lifestyle goals based on what we wanted in place by the time they were teenagers. Instead of waiting until they were teenagers for me to make a contribution, I worked at odd hours with piles of laundry all around, learning real estate strategies, stock market strategies, book writing and site development skills, typing one-handed with a baby on my lap and preschoolers on the floor with cut-up paper and coloring books strewn around, so that I’d be free by the time they were adolescents to finally give them the kind of deep engagement and focus they’d need me to give — a different kind than what toddlers need.

Did I ever feel guilty about doing more than June Cleaver did? Yeah, sometimes. Until a certain Bible passage helped me feel a little better about it. It is the definition of a “virtuous woman” from Proverbs 31 and goes like this:

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She ariseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard… She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle… She maketh herself coverings of tapestry… She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant… She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her…”

A virtuous woman sounds busy doing many, many things, including working for financial gain. This verse helped me feel better about burning the midnight oil now and then to make my own contribution to our family.

Still, even now, every monetary goal I set is always for the primary purpose of being free to focus on raising my children the way I want, which is for the purpose of helping them enjoy fulfilling, happy lives as adults, which is for the purpose of me coming to the end of my life pleased with the contribution I made while I was here.

Every goal I set will fit into the big picture of life success as I see it, somehow. If it doesn’t, then I know that I will NOT be passionate enough about it to make it happen.

Setting a goal to own a Rolls Royce will have no power for me because it makes no contribution to the driving purpose for my life. Is a Rolls bad? No, it’s beautiful! But I know myself well enough to know that it isn’t something for which I’d go through the refiner’s fire.

Even if I pictured myself in a Rolls, feeling grateful and so forth, I’d never take the “action” I’d need to “receive” it. I just wouldn’t care enough to make the effort. And all the visualization and feeling in the world wouldn’t cause it to appear in my driveway without MY firm INTENTION to make it happen.

So, set as many goals as you’d like, and know that you will not focus on all of them at the same time, or with the same intensity. You must put them in priority order and tackle them with laser focus one at a time. You’ll create a goal statement for each one of them (as described in The Jackrabbit Factor). And then you’ll pick the one that is most important and urgent, and you’ll spend your energy (mental and otherwise) on making daily progress toward its accomplishment.

If your LONGEST term goal is clear, then you’ll INSTINCTIVELY know which one needs your attention first.

The other goals will be written and posted where you’ll see them now and again, but your main focus is on the ONE. Sometimes stuff shows up out of nowhere to take you closer to one of your non-priority goals, while you spend all your energy in another area. It’s really cool when that happens. You are rewarded for your determination one way or another.

To focus only on one goal is not to say that, in any given day, you will not work on more than one. But no matter which goal you’re working on, at that time be 100% focused on it, like a laserbeam.

A lightbulb will brighten a room, but a laserbeam will cut through steel like a hot knife in butter. Both are good, but only laser focus has the power to accomplish the tough stuff.

Personally, I’m not so good at keeping to routines where I give a certain part of my day to different goals like that. It’s hard for me to shift gears at the drop of a hat and switch my focus. For me, I trust that my “temporary seasons of imbalance” are just that: temporary.

If you have a lot of wonderful goals in mind but you are not truly focused on any one of them, you are like a gently shining lightbulb. Plants will grow, and you’ll keep people from stubbing their toe, but no steel will bend for you.

What if there are too many things that are urgent? What if your mind is in a fog because there are too many demands bombarding you?

That’s when you really need to put it all on paper to get it OUT of your head, so you can look at all of it objectively, without emotion. Relax, and you’ll instinctively know which one needs your attention first. Pay attention to your gut feeling, and go for it. Trust that things will all work out if you just keep doing your best. If something falls through the cracks, be at peace knowing you’re doing your best, and that it’s all perfect just as it is. There is good that will come from even the failings.

By putting your task list on paper, you’ll find that the “problem” and the “overload” is really just in your head. You’ll see that the list is just ink on paper. There really is no problem there. It’s just data. It is what it is, and no amount of worry or panic will make it any better. The solution will only be able to reach your consciousness when your mind is relaxed, at peace, hopeful and expectant about finding the solution.

Prosper on! Originally published on July 14, 2007

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Finding Hope In Spite of Appearances

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When you understand the laws of thought, it is possible to look at life’s problems and actually feel good about them. There are rewards for those who do this.

Hey there – this is going to be one of my deeper posts. I want to speak specifically to any of my readers who are dealing with something especially heavy.

Now, I’m about to throw some deep philosophical stuff at you. Heavy things merit a heavy discussion. So to begin with, read these next lines very carefully, one at a time. Consider each of them, and see if they ring true to you:

  • Courage does not eliminate fear, but knowledge does.
  • Awareness of truth is the power behind a rare kind of faith.
  • Lack of awareness is like darkness. But darkness is merely the absence of light. Since a dark room can be illuminated with just a tiny light, it doesn’t take much to make a big difference.
  • The right kind of knowledge has the same effect on a doubting or fearful heart or mind. It doesn’t take much to make a big difference.

So, if you feel smothered in the darkness of fear and uncertainty, it only takes a little bit of knowledge, and the fear shrinks away like darkness in an illuminated room.

As fear is replaced with faith, it very naturally changes the way you feel. And when your feelings change, the nature of your surroundings begin to shift ever so slightly as well.

With the right knowledge bringing you an increase of faith, people naturally and unconsciously begin to respond to you differently. Someone who has not had two words for you before may suddenly feel compelled to talk with you, and perhaps facilitate a connection that helps you reach your goal. Or, maybe your altered mood causes you to go somewhere you didn’t feel like going before, and that thing you need to be able to reach your next goal is found there.

How it all comes together will likely be a mystery until after it’s all said and done. But for now, you have control over how you feel about what’s going on. If you don’t think so, add some knowledge. Just remember: how you feel will cause you to make choices that either take you closer to the goal, or farther away from it.

Faith is feeling “hope” and “expectation”. Both are necessary for success.

I understand it is difficult to have faith when everything around you appears to be all wrong. That’s why I invite you to read Hidden Treasures.

Hidden Treasures gives you the knowledge I’m talking about. it answers the question: “How can I have faith and genuinely feel good about all the bad stuff I have to deal with?”

Read it FREE here.

Although my story in the book is presented through the lens of my own religious/spiritual background, it speaks to people of all faiths. It’s been gratifying over the last 10 years to receive positive feedback both from members of my faith, as well as other Christian, Jewish, Buddhist readers and more. Even my non-religious (but spiritually minded) readers tell me it has made a huge difference in helping them change their lives.

We all are trying to live according to truths and principles. Happiness depends on it, and so does prosperity.

Hidden Treasures gives you 7 powerful truths that help you live by faith more effectively. It provides the knowledge that eradicates the darkness of fear and uncertainty, and it shows you exactly why you can be grateful and excited about your hardships, right now.

Skeptical? I challenge you to read it without feeling better. See if you can read it without feeling more faith. See if you can read it without experiencing real change in your life.

Read the book, and then just go about your life as normal. You’ll discover that the same activity with higher awareness always yields better results.

Get your FREE downloadable copy here.

If you’ve already read it, please consider sharing this article and invitation with someone you know who could really use a dose of hope. Originally published Jul 14, 2007

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