Shoes, a ring, seashells, and $5000

Did you know?

The part of your brain that helps you achieve your goals, ISN’T the same part of your brain that sets the goals. I explain this in more detail in this video, where I talk about the subconscious mind and how it helps you (or keeps you from!) achieving your goals. But there is yet another part of your brain that has a different important role.

It’s called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), the entryway through which almost all data enters the brain, and which filters the information that comes in, having an effect on what gets your attention.

Think of it this way:

What if you need an opportunity—but you can’t see the one right in front of you? What if you need more customers—but you can’t think of that one incredibly effective thing you could do right now to reach them?

The answers we need are all around us.

The resources we lack aren’t as far away as we think. Everything we need is only an idea away; or in more scientific terms, your Reticular Activating System simply needs to be alerted to bring those ready-to-go ideas/resources/and people to your attention.

You’ve already experienced your RAS in action. Maybe you noticed that when you bought a car, suddenly that kind of car began showing up everywhere. Or, when you thought you invented a clever name for your child, pretty soon you started noticing other children all around you with the same name.

Sounds mysterious, doesn’t it? Well, it’s not as mysterious as you think.

While these kinds of experience may seem inexplicable, remember that the Universe operates very predictably based on a set of natural laws. The system was set up perfectly in the beginning, and it continues to run perfectly as planned. Almost like a computer program created to handle different scenarios in certain ways based upon the data input it receives. If X, then Y. If A, then B. Now that computers are such an integral part of our lives, we humans are beginning to understand how such a system could be structured and yet appear or feel so random.

You experience this every day.

The New York Times published the following story, which illustrates on the micro how simple a delivery-system like this can be, once it has been set up properly to begin with:

The shoes that Julie Matlin recently saw on Zappos.com were kind of cute, or so she thought. But Ms. Matlin wasn’t ready to buy and left the site.

Then the shoes started to follow her everywhere she went online. An ad for those very shoes showed up on the blog TechCrunch. It popped up again on several other blogs and on Twitpic. It was as if Zappos had unleashed a persistent salesman who wouldn’t take no for an answer.

“For days or weeks, every site I went to seemed to be showing me ads for those shoes,’ said Ms. Matlin, a mother of two from Montreal. ‘It is a pretty clever marketing tool. But it’s a little creepy, especially if you don’t know what’s going on.” Helft, M. and Vega, T. (2010, Aug 29). Retargeting Ads Follow Surfers to Other Sites.

As this story illustrates, what shows up can absolutely be a result of the attention you gave something. Click on shoes, and they come back to your computer screen time and again, no matter what site you’re visiting. (In fact, this is exactly what is happening with me and a beautiful baguette ring I clicked on at the JC Penney website a few months ago. I’m not bothered… I think it’s gorgeous. It kind of makes me happy every time I see it. But I would remove the outer stones and only keep the center 5, and I’d put it on yellow gold, and I’m a size 5. In case anyone is wondering.)

So based on what you click on, your computer screen can very naturally become it’s own kind of vision board. Be careful to only click on the kinds of things you want in your life!

Computer software that uses targeted ads is just an example of how life itself works.

Based on what you think, your life begins to take new shape according to the nature of your thoughts. So only think on the kinds of things you want in your life! Think less about the parts you hate. Think more about the parts you love, and think lots about the way you want it to be.

What shows up in your life is very much a function of the thoughts you choose. Corresponding opportunities, people, and resources are brought to your attention in response. Don’t worry too much about the unwanted thoughts that pop in, just replace them as quickly as you can when they show up. And think often and emotionally on your hopes and dreams, because by the same kind of system that marketers use to target audiences, life will bring you the ideas, resources, and people you need to help you achieve them. It’s automatic, like a computer program.

And then expect to find those things! The expectation is what activates your RAS, so you’ll notice them and have a chance to engage with them when they arrive. In many cases those things are already right there, but you just haven’t noticed.

Here’s an example from one of my students of how this works in real life.

She wrote the following to my husband:

So, your wife is a genius! The book was incredible…I have a great story… I could not put the book down, finished it in just a few hours one night. I was at the beach with my kids the next day after I was done, and decided to test the theory. We belong to a beach club defined by huge rock jetties and good shells are hard to come by. We’ve never ever found a decent shell. Anyway, I walked down to the water and realized this was a great place to test…after all, no better place for the universe to be able to provide than the ocean!! So I put my energy on finding those big white gorgeous shells – we’ve never seen them anywhere near our beach. I imagined us all picking them and carrying loads back to the house… I reached down into the water and immediately pulled out a sand dollar – hmmm…

We walked the length of the beach, no shells. I did not let go of my focus. At the end, we went through the lagoon, and my kids climbed up on the last jetty. For the first time, they wanted to keep walking onto the next beach. They wanted to climb down the other side of the jetty and keep walking. At first I said “no” the jetty isn’t really safe to climb over, we could get hurt….blah, blah, blah…

Out of no where my youngest finds a small path that leads right over the jetty. We have never, ever noticed it before. We are now on the next beach, I go down to the water, and start pulling these huge white shells out of the water – bigger that we have ever seen. My kids are picking them up off of the sand…it was so weird! We had armfuls! OH MY GOSH. The jackrabbits had literally turned into shells! It was wild. I sat down dizzy at the experience, and then realized the power. Now, I’m working on doing this with bags of money…I picture myself walking into my back yard pulling up bags of money instead of weeds…hey, you never know!

Shells, check. But what about money?

She wrote again 2 Months Later…

Ok – so you may remember my first experience …after reading the Jackrabbit factor…the shells at the beach. Well, at the end I think I mentioned that I would like to attract bags of money…I have, and I am blown away. In early September I put out …that I would like to have $5,000 within three months. I was willing to work for it (should an opportunity present itself), but really, I just wanted the money to appear…hey, what the heck, one can dream. Well, my parents took us out to dinner this past Saturday evening as a celebration as they have recently come into some money from my Grandmother’s estate (she died in March). At the beginning of dinner my parents handed my brother and I checks for $20,000. Oh my gosh! I now put it out there …when I need about anything …the concept of scarcity is gone from my life…there is an abundance. Once again, thank you for the Jackrabbit Factor!!”

So have you tested it for yourself? Share your story here.

If you haven’t tested it yet, what one problem (big or small) would you solve today?

For help on this topic, read the Jackrabbit Factor (free!)

If you’re ready to try a scientific experiment with these principles, join me now in the Mindset Mastery Program

Related: Reticular Activating System and a Tranquilizer Gun

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#23: Mysterious Connections, Uncanny Coincidences

Successful goal achievers learn to rely on unseen help, mysterious connections, and uncanny coincidences to help them accomplish their goals. How do these events come about?

How can you activate this help in your own life? How can you know that the help is there, and what can YOU do to participate in those kinds of miracles?

In this podcast (recorded in 2014), I explain why I didn’t like Vision Boards. My feelings have evolved about them over time (I use them now for longer-term goals), but the tool I describe on the podcast continues to be a powerful asset for effective short-and long-term goal achievement.

 

Resources mentioned on the podcast:

Jackrabbit Factor – free at www.jackrabbitfactor.com
Hidden Treasures – free at www.hiddentreasuresbook.com
Portal To Genius – free at www.portaltogenius.com
Leslie’s Home Study Program – www.prosperthefamily.com
Free Video: The Visual Aid that Changed Everything

Show Notes:

  • How Gary and Carolyn Norris met Leslie
  • Missionary Mommas story about the Mongolian Missionary
  • Chunky headboard story
  • Do all you can do, trust that things will work out, meet you half-way
  • You don’t have to have money to get started
  • Act as though
  • Free video: Visual Aid that Changed Everything
  • Hidden Treasures – when things go wrong – what’s the story you tell yourself about it?
  • Mysterious connections, uncanny occurrences or coincidences
  • Unseen help literally orchestrates all that we need
  • It’s always a bigger story than we can comprehend
  • Genius ideas, aka. inspiration
  • Portal to Genius and Jackrabbit Factor
  • Wished my bishop would call me in and say stop doing what you’re doing
  • Success because of intense, unwavering belief?
  • Best blog posts were the ones coaching myself through this storm – pioneer
  • Believe, strongly, passionately – NO.
  • How big does faith have to be? Mustard seed.
  • Did the Mongolian girl doubt? Pit bull tenacious, frustrated, upset… but it happened. No room for doubt.
  • It doesn’t have to be a declaration of I know this is going to happen. The key isn’t how big your belief is, it’s are you keeping doubt away.
  • When you feel doubt, “It may or may not, but I choose to believe.”
  • Belief is a choice.
  • Dream Big, Picture what you Want – FINE!
  • Resorting to an escapist mentality – thought I was doing something wrong
  • I have to pretend like it’s real or I can’t feel the feelings that it would cause
  • I planted a seed. There is a force, unseen help that literally orchestrates all the resources I need to accomplish my goals.
  • Did I doubt? Did I check in the next day and say, “I wonder if that worked…”?
  • I didn’t have anything TO DOUBT
  • Hidden Treasures Class
  • Portal to Genius Class
  • It’s not as much about whether you believe enough, it’s are you choosing to believe? Doesn’t have to be passionate. The passion piece is important at the visualization point. That’s where the emotion matters. That’s the catalyst.
  • Plant the seed and NOT DOUBT. Better way to say it: Choose to believe.
  • Laws in force all the time.
  • Sometimes we align without being conscious and we participate in those miracles. As we learn and practice, we can participate more.
  • What happens when you’re not aligned with the laws / principles?*
  • Seat belt story
  • Right place at the right time with the right people.
  • I love the thought that someone is watching out for me.
  • The goal is in stone but the plan is in sand.
  • If bad things are happening does that mean you’re not aligned? How you choose to think about what’s going on is more important than what’s going on.
  • What am I supposed to think about this??
  • How to think when you don’t know what to think. If you think right, everything else will work itself out.
  • *When you are not aligned, you are busy but not productive.”
  • What is one thing you can do, which after you do, it can ensure you will be productive: “I picture my goal again. Feel the emotion again.” Star student! Doing the Mindset Mastery program
  • Prayer – how to marry this principle with prayer. Picture it while you’re praying. Be thankful for it before it’s yours!
  • Pray with real intent – expectation
  • Picture it. See it done. Feel it as though. Ask! That’s a prayer.
  • I don’t know what I was doing before, I think it was just whining.
  • Gideon, Adam
  • Alignment with God’s laws.
  • We think we’re telling a lie, but we’re just telling the truth in advance.
  • Busy vs. Productive
  • 150 presentations
  • Money goals vs what the money is for
  • Why are you on this planet, what is your mission to fulfill, and what is keeping you from doing it?
  • Is it time consuming to do what I’m talking about – it’s exhausting!
  • Mindset Mastery feedback from audience member
  • What will it feel like?
  • Thinking is the hardest work in the world. Most people would rather die than think. Bertrand Russell?
  • People have agency and may encroach on yours. What is always your choice is how you will respond
  • Victor Frankl
  • Why your life needs a spec – a diagram, blueprint, details
  • Online version of the Mindset Mastery course
  • What do you want?
  • I don’t want to make a choice that isn’t good for me.
  • If you don’t have a spec, you get the default.
  • I saw it in my head, but when I tried to convey to the unseen help (in India)
  • Writing it down (What I wanted, how He helped)
  • At the time – “I don’t use a vision board”
  • Write it down just the way my heart wants to express it, even if it’s wrong.
  • My secret weapon for combating overwhelm
  • Perseverance
  • Box fan story – his solution was in that town all along. If you don’t have what you need, you go as far as you can go.
  • Never say Whoa in a mud hole!
  • Wanting Garrett to just take Jackrabbit Factor and have it, promote it. He said, no it needs a sequel.
  • You can’t finish the story because you haven’t lived it yet. Brace yourself.
  • Savings disappeared, credit maxed, $15K due in 2 weeks and no paycheck in sight.
  • What are we going to do if we run out of money? $200 in the bank, 7 kids at home…
  • Anniversary dinner – pretend that everything is ok
  • Figured out in 10 years? Zoom out, dream on that.
  • Live there, and everything you need will be there as you need it.
  • Living one step into the darkness and having exactly what we needed as we needed it. A different kind of faith than what I had learned with JF.
  • You can create anything, make all the money you want, but PTG brings in “what’s your purpose”? If you need 5 billion to fulfill your purpose. But if you don’t, then why set the goal for it? You will have sufficient. When you learn to live with sufficient, then abundance flows in a different way than before. That experience burned the fear out of us, we don’t fear like we used to. Lose almost everything to find out that you’re actually ok. It wasn’t fatal.
  • Acorn story
  • The solution to every problem is only an idea away.
  • Your next step (do/say) will be clear when your vision is clear.
  • Hidden Treasures – about the laws
  • Jackrabbit Factor – helps with vision
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Nathaniel’s Story

Nathaniel Drew joined us for a Genius Bootcamp in 2015 and later sent me this message:

“Hey, thank you for your genius Bootcamp. It was an amazing experience. …My life has changed quite a bit. A lot of positive manifestations that keep gaining momentum.” He added, “My wife saw a video of you …[and] approached me in tears because she related with your story so much. She read The Jackrabbit Factor and had me watch the video. In a month’s time we went from $19k/year expecting to be starving artists for the rest of our lives to over $70k/year and much more to come on the horizon. Thank you for sharing your world of abundance with us. It really means a lot to us. … Thanks again.”

I replied, “Great to hear, Nathaniel 🙂 I’d be happy to spotlight your story in an upcoming newsletter, if you would like to [send more details]. No hurry, just an open invitation.”

Well, turns out he has a fantastic story, and I’m thrilled he took the time to share it!

He related the events of the previous several years in his own words:

“I don’t want to be a starving artist anymore!” I said angrily standing outside my mobile home. I’m not sure if it was to my wife or myself or God or the Universe.

You see, when my dear Emily and I began talking about marriage during our courtship I told her “You know, if you marry me, you’ll be the wife of a starving artist for five or ten years.” Not only was she ok with that, but she was excited about it.

At the time.

As we lived the life of starving artists for 10 years we began to see others making a lot of money. Even artists doing exactly what I was doing making a lot more money than I was.

I had written music for musicals, commercials, short films, long films, and even some amazing feature films!

Nathaniel Drew’s Salt Lake Pops Orchestra on set for a music video

 

Nathaniel Drew’s Salt Lake Pops Orchestra performing with Alex Boye and Lindsey Stirling

So many times both she and I would get so mad. We knew how talented I was. We knew my compositions were technically amazing and I had won plenty of awards. We just had little money to show for it.

Nathaniel Drew conducting the Salt Lake Pops Orchestra

So it was, just after our tenth anniversary that I got mad for the last time. I cursed myself. I cursed the universe. I cursed my wife and my children and anything else I could blame. Anger and blame after all was better than the depression I had been through because I was now taking back my power.

One night I walked in the door from a torturous day at my studio and I closed the old heavy front door into our warm trailer. “Hey, did you get that video I emailed you?” she asked.

“Uh, yeah, the rabbit one?” I asked with smidgen of annoyance.

“Yeah, [about] The Jackrabbit Factor! It really has changed the way I look at things!” she said hopeful, but trying not to be too excited.

From here I must rewind to let you know some things about Emily to give you an appreciation of the place that she’s in at this moment that she’s offered this video to me. From the time we married it took seven years and many fertility treatments until we finally gave up on the idea of having our own children. Once we gave up our resistance we had our first child. Our son Liam. We then had our second son Peter 18 months after that.

She should have been the most elated mother in the history of the world, but she was depressed. In order to combat her depression she became determined and decided that she was going to run a triathlon. In order to run this triathlon she was going to train all summer for a specific triathlon at the end of the summer. She was so determined. She got up every day and went out to run. She scheduled other races that would lead up to the triathlon. She got her sisters and a niece involved who would run with her or watch the kids while I worked on my latest film score.

I had never seen her take such initiative. In the process she ran a half marathon! When she finished that triathlon I had never seen her more alive and happy. She even called it “easy” and “fun” and wanted to do more!

Many aspects of her life were changing. She stopped working so hard and started enjoying the kids more. It was this kick of empowerment that led her to Leslie Householder’s materials. “I haven’t looked at it yet, but I’ll watch it tomorrow if you want.” I responded.

“You should watch it right now!” Emily said excitedly.

I sat down with her and found the video [the one called Discovering Your Hidden Resources]. We watched together. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but after a while I began to feel excited. I wasn’t sure what to say. We talked for hours afterwards about the law of attraction and about emotions and about what we really wanted.

Those following weeks were full of emotion and change. I began to get up every morning at 5am and started a vlog called the 7 Day Journey. I began to clean and fix up my house and be proud of my appearance. I began looking at houses and different properties that brought me joy. I began to live my life in a way that my priority was to feel joy as much as I could.

Most of all we felt joy and love and peace surround our desires. Things began breaking loose in my life. I began to focus on the house that I wanted. I focused on creating and feeling good. Taking walks, getting enough sleep, getting exercise, meditating. Every moment of my life was a quest to find joy. I began to believe in myself again. To feel powerful and alive. To feel in control. I was finding my true self and my purpose.

The first two months I received more money than I had the whole previous year.

I remembered how well my brother-in-law was creating in his life and we began partnering up in business. We had a $50mil. development that funded that March. I created a high-class resort with a restaurant and spa. But the best is yet to come. The totality of my work right now is going places and doing things that bring me joy.

…I felt inspired to go to a certain University I graduated from. I sat in their brand new beautiful and open library all day. It was so fun watching students. It was as if they had idea bubbles coming out of their heads. So much energy and fun, and I just felt the energy flowing through me.

I then felt prompted to go and talk with the President of the college. I headed out to his office, when on the way I ran into some ladies from the music department from where I had graduated. They were talking about a new music building for which they were going to be getting funding. And it hit me why I was to meet with the President of the University.

I was in the office and scheduled an appointment that they normally don’t give, at a time that was perfect. I met with the President, Dean of the school of Arts, Dean of the school of Music and several others. I found them another $30mil for their arts building and created the first social media wing/program in the world for the arts.

They also wanted me to do their social media marketing (something I’m very very good at).

Everything just fell into place including talking with the former Mayor of the city who set up meetings for me to meet with state legislators for more funds and setting up meetings with Facebook. It was just an avalanche of momentum all at once.

It feels good to know my purpose and to listen to my inner being. It is so amazing when source energy is flowing through me and I am so excited to see this manifest in my life!

The funny thing is that it’s not even that much of a surprise. It just feels natural. I am a powerful creator and have always been. The only reason in my past that money has not flowed to me is that I haven’t allowed it to.

I’m not just a musician.

I have been expanding all of my life and I now recognize that. I have felt bad as a composer when I wasn’t willing to let myself expand. I will continue to find things that truly bring me joy, and I am so excited to allow more and more expansion within my life and allow myself joy and happiness and money and amazing relationships. Every moment of my life is my choice.

I choose happiness. I choose wealth. I choose love.

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Well done, Nathaniel! To learn more about what he’s up to now, watch his video below:

(…and find out How to get YOUR music on the Billboard Hot 100 chart)

If the video doesn’t open, CLICK HERE

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Click here to learn more about the Discovering Your Hidden Resources video and 3-part audio series

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The Path (and life’s detours)

“Happy talk, keep a-talkin’ happy talk;
Talk about things you like to do.
You gotta have a dream; if you don’t have a dream,
How you gonna have a dream come true?”

This cheerful song, published in 1949 by Rodgers and Hammerstein, is featured in the musical South Pacific. Its words, though simple, are inspiring and true.

So much is said about attitude and gratitude, and so much is said about transparency and authenticity. At times those two phrases may seem to be at odds with each other. If I’m truly authentic and transparent, shouldn’t all my flaws be obvious? Should I make apologies for what I am? For who I am? For how I look or act? Or is that just being authentic?

Again, am I stuck there, just because that’s my current status or situation? If I live in a house, does that mean I can’t move? If I’m unhappy with my job, does that mean I have to stay there? If I have made plans, does that mean they are set in stone and I MUST follow through?

Sometimes, but not always.

To believe we have no options is a lie.

The secret here is not “who I am,” but “who I am, and who I am capable of becoming.”

A company has been criticized for saying “Fake it ’til you make it.” I’d like to take another look at that phrase.

We are–literally AND figuratively–children of Heavenly Parents. We are capable of becoming as they are. So if we are content with our current status, situation, state of being, attitude, position, etc., are we being authentic or are we just deceiving ourselves?

Marvin J. Ashton said, “Set your goals. But don’t become frustrated because there are no obvious victories. Remind yourself that striving can be more important than arriving.”

My own experience has taught me that my best path forward is a path that allows for slight deviation, but continues in a certain direction. I can allow for delays, for discouragement, for detours, but if I can envision the direction I’m headed, I can strive for that eventual destination.

I have also learned that I can change my mind about the destination I seek, and how best to get there. Often as I pursue my path, I see a better destination. I can be grateful for the path that brought me to the point where I could see a new goal. And when I change my mind, it’s OK. I have the divine right to create and follow my journey as I grow and become.

No one else has that right for my journey. And no one else has the responsibility for walking my path but me.

One woman grew up thinking she would become an attorney, following in her father’s footsteps. She pursued this path through college, into law school, and three years of practicing law. At that point she realized she was miserable. Her whole life, as she saw it, consisted of looking on the dark side, finding faults, seeking out mistakes and errors and litigating them. Forgiveness and joy eluded her. Her path did not reflect who she was and who she wanted to become.

So she tried using her melodious voice on radio. She found joy in realizing that her positivity could make the day brighter for countless thousands of people. Her path led her to a new path; one of greater joy and satisfaction.

Were her thousands of hours spent as a lawyer wasted?

No, because they brought her to a place where she could become more of who she was, recognize she wanted a new endpoint, and fulfill her greater dream to bring joy to others. The challenge for her was in making that great shift, that great change in vocation. But the courage it took to allow the change is again sending her in the direction of her ultimate goals.

“Fake it ’til you make it.” It’s not a cliché telling us to be deceptive about who we are and where we are in relation to what we want to be. It’s just telling us to know who we are, know where we are going, and practice as we are getting there.

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I felt lost

Kristi is a wife and mother of two young children, who experienced some significant changes in her life during the Mindset Mastery Program. It’s been fun to track her progress:

After Phase 1, she wrote:

“I have to admit, I’ve been so excited about everything I’m learning it’s been hard for me to pace myself. But after reading lesson 13 I understand why I need to do just that. I’m super excited about reaching my goals! THANK YOU for sharing your knowledge and experience!! From the day I read The Jackrabbit Factor to today has been such an incredible journey. I LOVE where I’m going on this journey :)”

Read about the time I didn’t respond to her question.

After completing the course, she wrote:

[Before joining the Mindset Mastery Program] I signed up for Genius Bootcamp. I expected it to be in depth learning about universal laws. I was very pleasantly surprised by how much of a spiritual experience it was for me. I came with a very specific question of how to continue my business. I received a very clear answer to quit my direct sales business. That did not make any sense to me. I wrestled with it, but knew it was the right thing to do.

For a couple months I felt lost. I didn’t understand why I needed to let go of the success I had achieved. But I soon realized I need be working with youth. So many things from my past started to make sense to me. I signed up for the Mindset Mastery Program and dived right into it.

Read the rest of her comments here.

When she submitted her application for graduation, she said:

“I’m so excited to make this official! It’s been such a great experience. Thank you so much for doing what you do!”

I asked if she had a website she would like me to share, and she replied,

“This is a terror barrier for me. I’ve been preparing myself to ‘go public’ with my business. I have only shared with close friends and family up to this point. This [program] is giving me the confidence to now share with everyone I know. I definitely have some anxiety about it, but I know it’s time to take this leap and enjoy what’s on the other side of this wall :)”

Learn more about Kristi and her business at InfluentialListeners.com

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery Program and join me now at ProsperTheFamily.com!

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Brian’s Story

Nine years ago, a stay-at-home mom ordered the Mindset Mastery Program (back when it was still called the FTMF). Later that year we met at a conference, and we’ve been friends ever since, even though it’s been a few years since we’ve seen each other in person.

But last week I got a message from her husband Brian.

Let me tell you a little bit about Brian. This is the Brian I met nearly a decade ago:

And this is Brian after he applied some mindset mastery to finding a solution and achieving a pretty incredible health and fitness goal:

As if this isn’t inspiring enough, he continues to conquer his challenges:

What follows is a look inside the mind of someone who persists, even with the SAME insecurities that (at one time or another) plague us all:

Brian writes:

“Hi Leslie …As you may know, your husband and I share a love of cycling. Recently I have even taken up cross country mountain biking (MTB). Last night …I met up with some friends for a group MTB ride on a local trail. This trail is known for it’s very steep ascent and very technical downhill. At one point, the rider will come up on some big rocks (we call it simply The Rockface).

“For the most part, I generally walk this section as I feel too uncertain of my own skills to ride it. However, someone who I admire and have given sort of a mentor status to, who is also a friend, is insistent that I am ready to ride it.

“…my timidness is due in large part to my own lack of faith in my skills. …there’s that fear of failure. And in this case, failure can lead to very painful consequences.

“But my friend, who is the owner of a local bike shop and has years of mountain biking experience under his belt, insists that I can do this challenge. And he’s willing to coach me through it.

“So here’s my question: you have written in your books that “when the student is ready, the teacher will show up.” What if the student doesn’t know he’s ready? Does the teacher show up even at that time?

“…A week ago, when we met for this same ride, I became very stressed out about riding that Rockface. The challenge stands before me. It’s almost goading me. I can’t help but wonder why this is such a prominent issue in my life. Is there some kind of lesson God wants me to learn based on this rather [small] and seemingly unimportant issue in my life?”

My reply:

I can’t say whether or not you should do the Rockface, but yes, the right teacher CAN appear even if the student doesn’t feel ready. But the fact is, you were already ready for THIS teacher, which is why you already have him.

Whether or not a teacher shows up is a different issue than whether or not you’re ready for the Rockface.

You may find that another teacher (maybe not related to biking, but maybe a book or quote or something) may pop up to help you know what to do. That counts, too. So focus on who you want to be a year from now… feel yourself being HIM, live THAT in your mind for a little while, and then the right teacher/ book/ quote/ etc. will show up to help you get from here to there, and that may or may not include the Rockface. Sometimes uncertainty and indecision stems from not being clear on who you WANT to be or where you WANT to end up.

Hope this helps…

Leslie 🙂

His response:

“I appreciate your input very much. Thanks for the advice. Incidentally, I ended up riding the Rockface last night. It was only a little harrowing, but ultimately I think it’s a lesson for me. I’ve been talking to my wife about it, and wondering why it’s such a big deal in my life right now. Honestly, why would riding a rock on a bike be …such an important aspect of my life right now?

“I honestly think that the rock is merely a representation of something much deeper and more meaningful in my life.

“I had decided that it was okay for me to not want to ride it. That it was okay for me to not worry about getting over that particular challenge. I became comfortable in the idea that I didn’t have to ride the thing. And so I started not worrying about it.

“Then a couple of things happened:

“First, there was a photo posted from a friend that showed his own daughter actually crashing on the rock. …The actual post didn’t describe the crash, but the fact that his daughter finally conquered her own fear of riding down the rock.

“This got me thinking about it again. And just the idea of riding that rock started filling me with dread. I actually think I may have had a panic attack from it, but I don’t know. So I set the thought of it aside and went back to the comfortable idea that it was okay not to ride it.

“Shortly after that, another friend of mine …challenged me in a somewhat passive/aggressive way. He said he was going to tell the rest of the group that I was going to show off how I could ride the rock face on the night of our next ride. This started me thinking that it was time for me to go for it. But I started panicking again, and bowed out.

“And then the teacher showed up. I admit, when he showed up, I felt like I’d been caught in my underwear watching TV…totally unprepared for his arrival. Last week, after our ride, my friend told me that he knew I had the skills to tackle the rock. He said,

‘It’s like watching your kids. When you know they can do something, but they won’t do it. It’s that kind of frustrating.’

“I decided that if someone who had a stronger skill set in riding than I did had that much confidence in my abilities, maybe it was time I had that confidence, too. That night, I got (figuratively) dressed. I made the commitment to take on the rock. I’m glad I did.

“But I’m still pondering what the lesson here is. Right now, my mind is circling around the concept that God doesn’t want us to get to a point in our eternal progression where we say it’s okay to not move forward on something. And maybe this is just a mundane little challenge in life that won’t have any real impact on my life overall (or it could, who knows?), but maybe there’s something more basic at work here?

“Maybe the lesson is that we should embrace the challenges of our lives, no matter how [small]… or seemingly unimportant they are, because what it’s doing is helping us to grow an even more important skill; that of learning how to overcome fears and move beyond those things which scare us…

“Having that skill will be very necessary in our lives…

“[Anyway], thanks for all of your instructional work that you’ve done to help me understand how we can bring about our own success.”

Click here to learn more about Brian and get the rest of the story at his blog.

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Jan’s Story

Some time ago I held a special Mentor Training for those who graduate with Honors from the Mindset Mastery™ Program and want to learn how to effectively (and profitably) mentor others in the principles of “right thinking”. It was designed for those who were ready to take their skill and expertise to the next level.

(I held this course twice before taking time off to focus on my family. The last class was recorded and is available online so that Honors Graduates can enjoy the same powerful advanced training experience — complete with personal one-on-one coaching with me — all from the comfort of home. (Mindset Mastery Honors Graduates: click here to learn more.)

But now and then I hear from someone who went through the Mentor Training program to update me on what’s happened since. A couple weeks ago I heard from Jan Lambert, and her story was too inspirational to keep to myself. 🙂

First, a little back story…

Jan showed up at Mentor Training in an electric wheelchair and with a service dog. To attend, she drove over 1200 miles (each way), pulling over as needed to sleep in her van, despite the physical discomfort. In her words:

“I read Leslie’s book The Jackrabbit Factor. It awakened something in me that will not go back to sleep. I feel an energy that I have not felt in years, as if I am being driven toward a goal I did not know was there, until everything started to ‘work’ so I could come to Mentor Training.”

Here was a woman determined to make a change in her life, despite a past full of some extreme and traumatic hardships. She has given me permission to share a few of the many difficulties she experienced:

When she was a baby (13 months old, with medical records that prove it), she was sexually assaulted. Her childhood was un-loving. Nobody ever told her they loved her, in her entire childhood. Neither parent, no grandparent, friend — only men who wanted sexual favors. Her mother was violent. She was spanked every day for some offense or another, “walked on eggshells” and hid from her at every opportunity. Later in life she was married twice to cruel and abusive husbands. She says,

“It’s difficult to describe the feeling of going through life without a goal, other than ‘to survive.'”

In July of 2001, she was taken to the hospital with supra-ventricular tachycardia. The echogram showed damage consistent with Congestive Heart Failure. She was never able to do strenuous exercise, as she had Rheumatic Fever twice as a child. She ended up on Disability.

In 2003 a nurse determined that she was no longer able to take care of herself. She needed to either go to a nursing home, or have a daily caregiver. In her words:

“Over the years …I steadily gained weight. I knew it was ‘protection’ … My weight climbed to a height of 310 pounds. [After falling] I broke a rib once trying to climb up the furniture.”

“In October, 2008, I fell [again]. It didn’t seem like a bad fall, as I’d been having falls for about the past two years, but this time I couldn’t get up. It was the worst pain I can ever remember feeling since falling from a horse across a fence and breaking some ribs back in the ’60’s. Another run to the Emergency Room. X-rays revealed a fractured vertebrae. A subsequent MMRI revealed THREE MORE fractured vertebrae, all old, long healed. But the way they healed, they put on calcium on the inside, putting pressure on the spinal nerve.”

“So THAT’S WHY, all my life, I’ve been in great pain when I had to stand for any length of time, and when I had to walk. I’ve always avoided it. I’ve been called ‘lazy’ more than once because of it, but the pain can become incapacitating. It wasn’t the kind of pain I could just ignore!”

“Long ago, before I knew I had been a victim of child sexual abuse, I heard Spencer W. Kimball state in General Conference that the man who betrays a young girl’s trust is her destroyer, as surely as if he has put a gun to her head and pulled the trigger. Well, I guess that something inside me that remembered what happened… refused to be destroyed! I had always thought I was given the life I was given because I needed to learn to fight, but from this end of it, I realize I was given this life because I WAS ALWAYS A FIGHTER, and I had a chance to overcome it…”

Never giving up on the hope that she could find peace, and doing the best she could, step by step she held to the vision of a better life and worked for years to improve her condition – emotional and physical.

Long story short, she says,

“I’ve found healing. I had not realized the level of hatred and rage I had harbored toward all men, until it was gone. I feel a peace inside now that I’ve never had before. I feel safe.”

These were Jan’s remarkable words in 2010. So you can imagine how happy I was to hear from her again seven years later:

“[Your last podcast – ‘Happy Without It’] made me think of how my life has moved since Mentor Training. I had set my 5-year goal to have a ranch with my horses, dogs, cats, etc…

“About two years ago, I met a man I could not walk away from… he’s a Disabled Veteran who served as a Navy Seal for ten years. …We are now engaged to be married.

“And…he owns land in two other states, one unit is large enough to qualify as my ‘ranch’ and I can have all the horses, dogs, and cats I want there! Also most of the other things I dreamed up while I was writing (and drawing) the details… Including windmills and storage batteries for electricity independence, greenhouses for 12-month/year fresh food production, the barn of a size I want for the domestic livestock I need to supplement the greenhouse enterprise… it’s all there…

“His own dream of rehabilitating Felons will bring us the students I will need to teach the Program to while they make plans for their own futures, meanwhile learning skills with which to establish an independent business of their own instead of being reliant upon ‘finding a job’ which, if you don’t know this, is very difficult to do if you have ‘Felon’ on your record.

“My dream was to find people who needed to become independent business owners in order to earn a living, build a life, keep their family close by involving each family member in the business, keeping each one ‘needed’ and appreciated as they grow. I feel I was guided to appreciate the needs of felons for this purpose. Of course, anybody who wants to come and learn the Program will be welcome. 🙂

“My dream is coming true! And with a bonus I …had not even considered: my Sweetheart…

“I’m only 65. My life is far from over. …If my experiences can help another, they are not wasted. Not my fears, my tears, nor my triumphs.”

I love stories like this, which show that the principles aren’t just about money. As far as I’m concerned, they are even more about the kinds of things that money can’t buy.

If you want to feel renewed, encouraged, and inspired as well, read or re-read The Jackrabbit Factor now. (It’s free!)

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Rare Faith for Weight Loss

I know, I know. I tell people not to use the words “weight loss” because you don’t want your subconscious mind to go looking for the heaviness again, but these are the words that people still use in search of help, so I went ahead and put it in the title.

It’s my blog and I can do what I want. 😉

Anyway, if you’ve ever wondered how to use the Rare Faith principles to improve your fitness, here’s a tip:

Manipulate your scale to show the weight you want to be, and each time you step on it, imagine how good it feels now that you are exactly that (as though you’re already there). That’s the short version. A deeper exploration of the principles is contained in my Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

Here’s one reader’s experience with this tip:

“For quite awhile I pondered Leslie’s words ‘manipulate the scale.’ I couldn’t figure out how…especially with a digital scale. Well I figured it out and I want to share it with you as it has been one of the secrets of my successful achievements of getting to my goal weight. Each week I put a paper with my goal weight for the week over the actual number on the scale. So each time I stepped on the scale throughout the week I would see my goal for the week rather than the actual number. At the end of the week I would remove the paper and always find that the number I’ve been celebrating all week was the actual number. And then I would put on another paper with the following week goal. And that is how I manipulated my scale. This has been a goal I have been trying to meet on and off throughout the years. I am so glad to finally have reached it!” Laura D.

So what do YOU want to achieve this year?

To learn more about the principles, read The Jackrabbit Factor (free!) or go deeper with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse (not free, but worth it!).

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When my efforts aren’t enough

Powerful insight I learned from my daughter Kayli – she is preparing to serve a mission for our church but has been spending the last year “kicking Hashimoto’s hypothyroidism in the pants”. One of her main concerns has been “How can I effectively help others when I myself struggle so much?” She writes:

I was reading in Matthew 14 when the following verses and thoughts stuck out to me:

The first thing was that Christ had just learned that John had been killed, yet in his time of grief, he had compassion on those who needed to feel his love and hear his teachings.

The next few verses say that after Christ taught the people for a time, his disciples asked him to send the multitude away so they could get food. But in verse 16 Jesus says, “They need not depart; give ye them to eat.” Notice how he gives his disciples an opportunity to feed his people?

Well, realizing they didn’t have enough for the multitude, in verse 17 they reply, “We have here but five loaves, and two fishes.”

This is where I really started thinking about how this applies to my life. Recently I have seen people who I love dearly struggling. I have wanted to erase their pain and lift their burdens, but at the same time I have been struggling myself. So then I beat myself up for not being enough—for only having five loaves and two fishes—when I know full well that there is yet a multitude to feed.

But in verses 18 and 19 it says, “[Christ] said, Bring them hither to me. And he commanded the multitude to sit down on the grass, and took the five loaves, and the two fishes, and looking up to heaven, he blessed, and brake, and gave the loaves to his disciples, and the disciples to the multitude”.

When I read this next part, the realization came that I really don’t have sufficient strength to help anyone, including myself. But through my relationship with Christ, my small contribution can be turned into an abundance of “bread and fish”.

In verse 20 it says, “And they did all eat, and were filled: and they took up of the fragments that remained twelve baskets full.”

The disciples of Christ gave all they had over to the Savior, who then fed the multitude and they still had twelve full baskets.

I get it now. If I just focus on my relationship with my Savior, give him everything I’ve got, he will multiply it and make my efforts even more than sufficient. Not only will I be able to help those around me without draining myself, but when all is said and done, there will still be even more to spare: “twelve baskets full”.

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Talk about a miracle—not just for the disciples and the multitude, but for you and me, right here, right now. This is Rare Faith: believing that the impossible is possible and partnering with God to overcome every challenge. Thanks for letting me share this, Kayli. I love you!!

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$10,000 worth of home repairs – no charge

From a Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate and Genius Bootcamp Participant:

Super LONG and Super COOL Laws of Thought Story and Tender Mercies…

First Some Back Story… 

Prior to the taking and graduating with honors from Leslie’s Mindset Mastery course, I had been living in a scarcity & doubting mindset for well over 20 years. For the past year or two I’ve been focused on implementing all that I had been learning in the Mindset Mastery course to change the trajectory of my mediocre life. Among many other tools I’ve been using to support my mindset shift into abundance is a “Day Dreaming” Word Document that I look over every day to “visualize and feel” certain goals into my reality (kind of like a vision board on steroids). I keep things in this document that I want to attract within a year’s period of time and I started this at the beginning of 2017, so it contains all the goals and dreams I want to attract into my life this year. Anyway, a few of the items that made it into my “Day Dreaming” document for this year are :

  1. A new fence because our East fence is about to fall over, and our South fence has enough slats missing now that our neighbor’s dog can come over and poop in our yard whenever it feels like it.
  2. A new roof because we’ve sustained enough wind and hail damage over the years to warrant the use of several buckets in our attic to catch the main leaks.
  3. Fix a hole in the brickwork on our house to the side of our garage door (a car rolled into it a couple of years ago leaving a moderate sized eyesore).

Each of these items are towards the end of the list of items in my “Day Dreaming” document for the year because I figured that the roof would cost over $5,000; and the fence & brickwork… well, I had no idea how much those would cost, but I was pretty sure I wouldn’t be able to pull any of these off until after attracting substantial increases in our business income throughout the year.

Mid April… 

After mowing the lawn and seeing our back yard fence for the first time in a month or two, and realizing once again, just how bad our fence had deteriorated; A Thought crossed my mind to not let doubt continue to stand in my way from at least finding out how much it would cost to fix the fence… even though I was 99% sure we couldn’t act on it for a while because our income hadn’t improved yet this year. So I made a Facebook post to a community Facebook Group asking if anyone out there had recommendations for a reliable and reasonably priced fence repair person or company.

Within a week…

We had a guy come out and give us an estimate of about $2,000 for the two sections of fence we would need to replace.

Not more than an hour later our neighbor on the South of our house (who we’ve actually never spoken to before), knocked at our door to tell us she has someone coming over to repair the portion of fence we share so we could give him access to our back yard if he needed to come back there. I asked her how much he was charging & she told me it would cost only $50-$100 to do it. I told her he could definitely have access to our back yard, and that we’d split the cost. The Lord gives good gifts, and I was thinking that having the worst of it repaired for $25-$50 (our half of the cost) would get us by until later in the year when we could afford to put a brand new fence up… but that’s not the end of the story…

A few days later… 

Even though I was thinking that I’d wait on fixing the East section of our fence; right after finishing my morning exercise (when I was all sweaty and gross), I had a recurring thought to go talk to our neighbors on the east of us right then about my intention to fix the portion of our fence that we share. I went right away, and in doing so I learned that THEY were already making plans to fix it! We talked about sharing the cost, but I didn’t know how I could even come up with half right now. As we got talking my neighbor told me how their insurance claim worked when their house was damaged in the storms the previous month. I learned that their deductible was not required to be paid up front, but was deducted from the check the insurance company sent the them… and then they hired someone to do the work cheaper than what the insurance company had paid so they had money left over for other things. Dang! I had thought all of these years (without looking into it of course) that we’d have to come up with $1,000 deductible out of pocket, so I’ve never even given a second thought into filing an insurance claim to have our roof fixed. With this new found knowledge of how home owners insurance claims work… I immediately went home & filed a claim with our insurance company. Upon doing so, I discovered that our deductible is not $1,000… it’s only $500 (even better!).

One week later…

The insurance inspector came to our home to assess the damage. When he finished his work he said he has enough evidence to submit a recommendation for us to receive a new roof, and to replace the East fence. He said they would ALSO pay for the water damage repairs in our kids bathroom (which I had forgotten about until he asked me if there was any water damage inside the house)!!! Can you say TENDER MERCIES? Holy cow we are being so blessed!

As I was sharing this tender mercy with my daughter later that afternoon we got talking about feeling genuine gratitude for things we want to be blessed with… and feeling the actual feelings as if a goal had already been accomplished. I described to my daughter how challenging it’s been for me over the years to FEEL the feelings and gratitude ahead of time. I found myself telling her of one time that I actually felt some pre-created (is that a word?) gratitude. As I began describing the first time I ever really felt real genuine feelings of joy and gratitude for something as if it had already happened, the realization struck me forcibly that the scenario I was describing to my daughter was at the beginning of April and I was picturing and feeling joy and gratitude for our fixed fence and new roof! Wow!!! Heavenly Father gives REALLY good gifts when we follow the correct principles upon which those gifts (aka blessings) are predicated!!

Yesterday… 

I met with the project manager of the remodeling company that will be replacing our roof & repairing our bathroom from water damage. He reviewed all the insurance paperwork and then proceeded to discuss what he could offer…

  1. There is a coupon for $500 that will satisfy the deductible!
  2. He OFFERED to give us a $250 cash back credit if we allowed him to put a sign in our yard as advertising!
  3. He pointed out several items that really don’t need to be fixed by a professional that we could do ourselves & keep the money for doing so.

All in all, we will receive over $1,500 back to put towards:

  1. Our back fence repairs… that will only cost us $600 because: We are splitting the cost with our neighbor who we discovered is a Veteran and can get a VA discount on the fence materials at Lowe’s or Home Depot… AND we got the labor cost cut way down too by getting other bids – HOW COOL IS THAT?!!!),
  2. The brick repairs next to our garage door (that we discovered will only cost about $200

So basically, we are having over $10,000 worth of home repairs completed within the next two weeks… that we don’t have to pay for, and in fact we’ll be RECEIVING about $600 above and beyond all repairs that will help our cash flow!!!

To wrap up, I just want to point out that each of these tender mercies were a SINGLE IDEA AWAY all this time! All I really needed to do was to doubt not, but to be believing… having faith merely the size of a grain of mustard seed so that I could receive them!

Thank you so much Leslie for all of your AWESOME training materials, programs, and resources! ~ Mike Peters, independent wellness advocate

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Thanks, Mike, for taking the time to share such an awesome story!

Yes Ladies and Gentlemen, THAT’S how it’s done. 😉 To get started transforming your own life, get going with the same resources that Mike used:

Not ready to jump in full throttle? No problem. Get your feet wet today with the basic Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse (includes both books listed above)

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