Do you ever feel overloaded with too many options, too much information, too many people telling you what to do to succeed?
You’re not alone. Here’s an email I received, and my reply on the matter.
I don’t know if you will actually answer this, but I am getting frustrated because I am getting INUNDATED with various “I have the secret YOU need to be successful in life” emails / offers / programs / gimmes!
I certainly can’t do them all simultaneously, and while they may all be worthwhile, it seems to me there is a lot of redundancy. I am STILL trying to work my way through your materials, and I don’t know that I need to get something ELSE while I still have not finished what I HAVE!
…I feel like I am spinning my wheels with a “Lo here” and a “Lo there” … like the poor guy trying to catch the rabbit in the same way the fox / wolf / whatever did! Any words of wisdom you could share would be appreciated. Thanks! Linda
My response to Linda (with a few more little notes):
Breathe, Linda, breathe. 🙂
There’s a lot of noise out there, and you can trust that the RIGHT next step will be there when you’re ready for IT. Just because it’s good, it doesn’t mean you have to jump on it immediately. It will be there again when you’re ready for it, if it really is the right thing for you to do.
I don’t open all my soliciting emails. I only open them if I’m currently seeking an answer to a burning question, and only if the email that shows up seems like it might have the answer to THAT question.
I get information overload if I look at all of them. Sometimes I have to prioritize and say, “I just don’t have the mental bandwidth to wrap my brain around ANYthing else right now” – and then I go forward – at peace taking things at my own pace, knowing that I do not have to run faster than I have mental, emotional, or physical strength.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears. If too many teachers appear, get clarity on your overall objective. Once that is back in focus, the right ones will be obvious – you’ll know it in your gut – and the wrong ones in that moment will no longer have a magnetic pull on you.
Don’t be overwhelmed by too much good information. Stay focused on your goal, and the information you really need will naturally show upwhenyou’re ready for it.
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My family spent a week pulling a trailer to various places between Mesa, Arizona and Salt Lake City, Utah for spring break when the kids were younger.
Oh, I could write volumes on the shenanigans we experienced, but for the sake of this post, I’ll try to keep it to one point.
We had just spent an entire day trying to get from Mesa, AZ to Goblin Valley, Utah, not really comprehending how unrealistic such a jaunt in one day really was. After missing our turnoff in Flagstaff (add 3 hours to the trip because of the unscheduled stop at the meteor crater on the way to Albuquerque), our hope was to reach Goblin Valley, Utah before the RV park closed at 10 pm.
On the map, there’s a nice little road from Mexican Hat, straight up to Hanksville, which is only a little ways away from Goblin Valley. By the time we reached Mexican Hat, it was clearly impossible to hope for a 10 pm arrival; we’d be lucky to get there before midnight. I just prayed that the gate would remain open for us by some fluke, so we pressed on. We had already paid for the first night, and I wanted to benefit from it.
(Do all you CAN do, and expect things to work out for you in the end, right?)
When we reached the turnoff outside of Mexican Hat, there was a large, obnoxious sign that said we’d be stupid to drive that road with an RV. It was small with switchbacks and although I was anxious to get to Hanksville, we decided it would be smartest to go an extra 40 miles out of our way through Bluff and Blanding instead.
Here’s a street-view Google image showing the sign, which we saw in the dark:
By 1:00 in the morning, we finally rolled into Hanksville, exhausted and grateful that we were there in one piece. It had been a lonely, dark, unpredictable and nerve-wracking road with our long and heavy trailer.
We slept at a gas station in Hanksville, and in the morning, headed down highway 24 towards Goblin Valley. Happy to be close to our destination and well rested, we excitedly told the kids we were almost there.
(To this point, the destination was still a secret.)
About 20 miles out of town, my son saw something sparkly spread across the hills on our left. I looked, and was amazed at its beauty – it looked like it was covered in hundreds of yards of gold. I knew it couldn’t possibly be, so I just assumed it had to be pyrite (fools gold).
Unexpectedly, the glitter ended with the next hill. “Shoot!” We thought, “we should have stopped to see what it was and take some home with us!” But our trailer was too large, and we were too long to turn around on the narrow 2-lane road, so we just pressed on.
Around the next corner, my husband thought he saw some more on the right side of the road and quickly pulled off to take the opportunity.
But it only took a moment to realize that the solid-looking shoulder was deep and soft from rain the day before. He gunned it to get back on the road, but it was too late. We were stuck. Stuck on a road that sees a traveler only once in a very long while.
Long story short, a group of college kids eventually saw us, turned around, and stopped to help in vain (to my oldest son’s amusement, one happened to be from the same high school as he attended, 550 miles away). Then a man in a truck stopped, and went into town to get a chain.
With everyone pushing, and the man with the truck pulling, we finally pulled out. My husband ran ahead to thank the man in the truck, who asked us where we were going. My husband responded, “Goblin Valley!” To which the man replied, “You’re going in the wrong direction! You need to take the 24 East, not West.”
Amazing. We were already 30 miles off course and would not have known it for a very long time had we not gotten stuck in the mud.
The college students asked, “Why did you pull off the road?”
We chuckled, “Because we saw something sparkly.”
They laughed at us.
You know, sometimes life is like this.
You’re traveling along in the wrong direction and don’t even know it. So God allows you to be enticed by a dream that gets your attention – maybe it’s financial freedom, maybe it’s a nice house or a car. So you divert your attention toward the goal and somewhere along the way, you end up getting stuck.
In an effort to get unstuck, you reach out for help, and ultimately learn something that puts you on course toward your ultimate goal, after having been off course without even knowing it.
People looking for more money or a better lifestyle often end up discovering the principles of prosperity and laws of success which apply to all areas of their life, all because they got stuck financially and searched for a way out.
The good news is, being stuck is one of the best things that can happen to you, because it often stops you from continuing in the wrong direction, and opens up an opportunity for you to not only get unstuck, but to get back on course when you didn’t even know you were going the wrong way.
I’m convinced that’s what the “glitter” of life is really for.
“Materialism”, being too consumed with material things, isn’t all bad, because if it gets your attention, and if your heart is in the right place, it can lead you to answers you don’t even know you need.
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PS. I’ve since determined that the mountain was probably covered with of Mica or Gypsum.
I remember when my husband and I were trying to live on about $1200/month. We were both working full time and fighting a losing battle to stay afloat.
We listened to motivational audios that urged us to believe in our dreams, and we knew that we could have any kind of life we really wanted, but when it came right down to it, it was always impossible to see where any extra money would ever come from.
I can see now that at the time, having faith in the face of scarcity was an impossible expectation. Here’s why:
The thing that made it so difficult is that we knew exactly how much money we were getting, and we also knew just how much our expenses exceeded that income.
If true financial success cannot be achieved without at least some degree of FAITH (believing in something without tangible evidence), how in the world is a person supposed to have that kind of faith when all evidence proves that it’s utterly impossible?
I learned that there are three things that, over the years, helped me build that necessary faith.
Continuing Education – learning new marketable skills and studying the laws of success
Work – investing time, money, and energy in other income streams outside of our regular jobs. (Even when they didn’t produce a profit – and they didn’t – for nearly 10 years!)
Choosing to Believe in God, and believing that He was interested in our success – and trusting that it was being orchestrated, if we’d just kept moving our feet.
For nearly a decade, we worked and studied, and worked some more. We believed the abundance would have to find us sometime, if we just kept trying.
It makes me think about the early settlers of my desert region:
There were a lot of ditches to dig and canals to build before they were prepared to utilize a flow of water. I’m sure it took many, many years to put those systems in place.
As you explore your talents and look for new ways to monetize them, just picture yourself digging ditches and building canals. It’s so easy to think that a massive, sudden flow of money would solve all of your problems, but in reality, that gush could be just as devastating as a flash flood in a valley where the settlers are trying to create a system for a steady, constant supply of water.
You don’t want the gush until your systems are in place!
It dawned on me that after my husband took the leap toward full-time self-employment (when we really couldn’t predict exactly where the money would come from like we could when we had a regular paycheck), the more trenches we dug, theeasierit was to have faith in God.
Isn’t that interesting?
Having put forth so much unrewarded effort for so long, in the face of scarcity, instead of saying, “I can’t think of a single place the money could come from,” we could more easily say, “The water could come from any one of the hundreds of trenches we dug all those years!”
Compared to our first few years together, how much easier it now was to finally believe! How much easier it was to have faith! And faith is the critical element. All the work in the world without faith can be just as useless as all the faith you can muster without work.
As they say, “Faith without works is dead.” Truly without some personal effort, faith is meaningless. Why? Because you demonstrate your faith BY working! You’re proving your belief in the abundant life by putting forth the effort to get those money-making systems in place.
And, when faith is low, work can help it grow, too. This is why the unexpected cure for doubt in my opinion is: Education, and WORK.
If you can’t think of where to get the money you need, shift your focus to increasing your knowledge, and get to work finding some kind of meaningful services you can perform for others.
God did not bring you this far to fail now… stay in forward motion. Your reward is waiting for you!
This clip from the Greatest Showman means a lot to me, because it shows the joy and wonder you can experience, no matter what your current reality may be. And as you take time to live “Your Greatest Show” on the screen of your mind, and as you feel it as though it has happening now, you set into motion unseen forces that begin to deliver everything you’ll ever need to accomplish that vision.
This has happened for me so many times in the last 18 years that I have been testing the principle, that there is no doubt in my mind that it is a true principle. You can depend on it. And the passion does not have to be constantly intense. It can be small, it can be brief. No, the key factor for all successful outcomes is not the intensity of the vision as much as it is having ZERO DOUBT.