How to Survive the Downs

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Life is like a roller coaster. When things go downhill, throw your hands in the air and smile!

Have you ever met someone whose life seems to be falling apart and they’re happy anyway? Have you ever thought, “Wait a minute, you’re supposed to be miserable and depressed!”

It’s true. There are some who are simply in denial, and who hope that the problems will go away if they just ignore them. However, there are others who feel happy even when things are going down because they know a secret.

These people can feel happy during a downturn because they know the ride never goes downhill forever. By law, it always turns upward again at the bottom – just like a roller coaster. They smile now because they’re focused on the longer term; and they’re already thinking about the joy and heights that life will take them to next.

Now, while we’re on this “roller coaster theme,” imagine you’ve saved for years to take your family to an exciting theme park on the other side of the country. You’ve pictured the laughter, the fun, the memories you plan to create: the joy of being together, the food, the free time; it’s all so very wonderful!

Now it’s finally time to take that trip. You enjoy a relaxing plane ride, settle in at the hotel, spend the night, and in the morning you have a full day to take in all of the theme park attractions. After entering the gate, you notice that just inside the entrance there are two roller coaster rides to choose from. The first one is called “Straight-Shot to Success” and goes like this:

“Straight Shot to Success”

You get on, and it pulls the line of cars all the way to the top of a twenty-story tower where ….

… it lets you off so you can climb down the stairs to do it again.

Look at the enthusiasm in this picture, just before unloading to climb down and repeat the experience all over again! (Wouldn’t it make for a pretty boring roller coaster ride? Yes. But isn’t that what we think we want out of life? A steady, predictable, safe and easy climb to success?) The thing is, if that’s what we got out of life, I think we’d feel pretty dissatisfied with the whole experience. Without the lows, the highs mean nothing.

So, let’s take a look at the second roller coaster ride called “Joy in the Journey,” which instead goes something like this:

“Joy in the Journey”

You get on, and it pulls you to the top of a big hill and then turns you loose into a series of ups and downs, loops and turns. Everyone is terrified and laughing, all at the same time.

Even when the people plummet at break-neck speeds straight toward the ground, they have a smile on their face.

Now, is that twisted, or what? Are they in denial?

No. They are genuinely enjoying themselves, because they know that the terror is temporary, that the danger is an illusion, and that it will come to an end. They know that they are in a controlled, safe environment that is simply giving them the appearance of danger. Deep down, they know everything is going to be okay in the long run.

Which rollercoaster ride do you think would have the longest waiting line? “Straight-Shot to Success,” or “Joy in the Journey?”

I choose the latter. Here’s what helps me endure the scary parts:

Believe it or not, like a roller coaster ride, Life itself is a safe environment, even with all its dangers.

Contrary to appearances, it truly is a safe place to be. From God’s vantage point, the things we fear are nothing to Him, including death itself.

Do you realize that the life you live is precisely the life you would have chosen all along? THIS is the life that brings you the greatest joy: the life with all the ups and aggravating downs. So be grateful for your downs, and as you allow your heart to swell with gratitude, you’re putting yourself into the right mindset to receive next the best “ups” that God has to offer.

The ups and downs we experience help us feel.

The change from up to down (or down to up) is precisely what makes it possible for us to recognize the difference from one emotion to the other. Like I said before, without the downs, the ups would be meaningless. The lows help us feel and appreciate the highs.

Bob Proctor says, “Most people tiptoe through life, trying to make it safely to death.” Do you see the irony in that? Instead, we should have courage and press on toward our dreams with full, fearless intention.

Fear not!

As Mark Twain said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

You have a choice of what to think about. So think on the expected highs that put a smile on your face, instead of worrying about the imagined train wreck at the bottom of the hill that hasn’t even happened yet.

It is only when your heart is at peace that it is truly prepared to receive inspired solutions to your problems.

So, if you’re headed in a downward direction, be at peace. The tracks are bent and will surely guide your roller coaster car up to the top again in time. It’s going to be thrilling! And in fact, according to the Law of Rhythm, you’re already on your way. Originally published Mar 12, 2008

Join me in the life-changing Mindset Mastery Program and I’ll help you find joy and success even in the downs.

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#2: How to RECEIVE

A few years ago I had a troubling experience with one of my readers. It was unbelievable – as you’ll soon find out. Through this experience, I learned a powerful lesson about “how to receive”.

Let’s talk about the piece that sometimes gets overlooked: your ability to receive what you’re asking for.

It takes a certain amount of faith to ‘receive’, and I’ll show you why.

The podcast above is an excerpt from my Mindset Mastery Program.

Listen to the podcast first ^^. When you’re done, I have the sample lesson in PDF format for you, as a thank you for all of the tremendous love and support I’ve felt from my readers since 2002. However, a few readers have been unable to “receive” this gift, because there is an “obstacle” that must first be “overcome.”

(Read through the reader’s comments section below to see what I mean.)

NOTE: You will be taken to a Shopping Cart page where the file will be listed as FREE. No need for credit card info, just tell me who you are and you’ll be sent the download.

There is a reason I am delivering it this way…  see how you do!

Listen to the podcast first, and then click here to request your FREE GIFT

Enjoy!

 

TRANSCRIPT:

Welcome to the Rare Faith Podcast where the solution to every problem is only an idea away, and where the same activity with just a little more awareness always yields better results. Award-winning best-selling author, Leslie Householder, brings some of her best information to this inspiring series of life-changing episodes that you won’t want to miss! Show notes for this episode can be found at ararekindoffaith.com

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I’d like to share with you part of a lesson from my Transformational Mindset Mastery Program. The segment that I’m going to share with you begins in the middle of the lesson so brace yourself; we’re just going to jump right in.

Here’s another one of those Felicity tantrums I used to have. I guess deep down I thought that if I was victim enough someone would rescue me, but what I was doing all those years was looking outside of myself for the solution. The solution was inside of me all along but I didn’t know it, or at the very least, I didn’t know how to access it. There is a good woman who came to my website quite a few years ago. She wrote me long, descriptive emails composing volumes on how desperate and hopeless she felt, and because I wanted her to feel the same kind of relief I had found, I offered to send her a downloadable copy of the Jackrabbit Factor at no charge. Because of her story, I knew it would help her.

This was long before we had created a way for the document to be downloaded at no charge to the general public. She graciously accepted, so I located the file and sent the email.

A few weeks later she wrote me again, expounding volumes on how horrible things have been since she wrote and asking, pleading for advice. I asked her if she’d read the book and she said she’d been too depressed to read it but, would I please give her advice on what she should do? I advised her to read the book, but if I could have effectively summed the message of the book up I would have just said, “believe, dream, create”, but in her condition it would have been of no use. She needed to experience the entire process. She said she would.

Months later she contacted me again at the end of her rope, and desperate for advice. “Did you read the book?”

“I lost it. Will you please send it again? I’m really ready for a change in my life. I want to read the book.”
I sent it to her again and then she replied that it wouldn’t open. She was using web TV and couldn’t view PDF documents.

I did some research and directed her to a resource and explained how to enable her system to read PDF documents. It required a hard drive, which she didn’t have so I sent it to her in regular Word format. That didn’t work for her either, so I copied and pasted the entire document right into the email itself.

Each time she thanked me graciously and promised she’d read it but when she wrote again begging me for advice just a few weeks later, admitting that she’d been too depressed to read the book, I simply had to say, “Do not contact me again until you have read the book”. For her own benefit and my own self-preservation, I had to do it even though I felt sad to be so blunt.

A year went by. Finally she wrote again, “Dear Leslie, I don’t know if you remember me. I have written to you about the hardships of my life and my depression and anxiety. You out of the goodness of your heart sent me the Jackrabbit Factor to read because I am on disability and don’t have the money. I’m hoping you can send it again. I’ve looked and looked for it and apparently, it got deleted because of some complications with my computer. Please can you be so kind to send it again because I need to read it so much? Please get back to me. With much gratitude, Penny” (name has been changed).

I responded, “If I recall, you were unable to read a PDF document on your web TV. Am I right? It seems like my last question to you was asking if your web TV had a hard drive and PDF reader. Are you able to read PDF documents now?”

She replied, “I think so. Someone sent me an article in PDF format and I could read it. I would appreciate it if you could try to send it so I can see if it can get through. Thanks a lot for remembering. In appreciation, Penny.”

On the same day I sent her the PDF document I didn’t hear from her for eight more months until this arrived; “I hope you’ll remember me. I had a very bad setback. I am financially and emotionally in trouble. I am back on my computer again after months of not being able to. I was wondering if you can send me the Jackrabbit factor again? I promise this will be the last time I ask. I really want to read it because something is very wrong that I keep falling over and over in my life. Now I am at a standstill and wiped out by my problems. How do you change your life? I don’t know. I try to think positive but it doesn’t work. Please I hope you remember me. Can I really change this life of mine from being depressed, having no money, no love, no job no friends? I am at the bottom and want to go up. Sincerely, Penny.”

Curbing my natural reaction to throw up my hands and hoping to avoid the PDF problem again, I went ahead and sent it as a Word document. “It’s attached in a Word document. Hope it helps. Leslie.”

Two days later she wrote, “Dear Leslie, I don’t know if you remember me. My name is Penny. You have sent me for free your manuscript of the Jackrabbit Factor. I never got a chance to read it. My life fell apart even more. I couldn’t get on the web to read my emails and I am in the dumps and can’t get out. Every morning I wake up depressed feeling this is not the life I wanted. I’m 51 years old, have never been married, don’t have children, and this brings me down. I always wanted to be married and have children. I feel like my life is over and this is all I get. I’m on disability and have no clothes, can barely eat at times. I never thought at this age this is where I would be. I’m lonely, depressed, and in a pattern of negativity that I can’t get out of. Negative people come into my life and drag me down. I have a dream to be a writer and have so many ideas but I’m weighed down by my terrible past and the depressing present that I’m living. Please help. I feel like my life is over. Can you please send me the manuscript again? I will definitely read it. I don’t see any changes in my life. What is wrong? Why do bad things keep happening and why is it I am living in poverty? Thank you, Penny.”

On that same day I replied and copied the entire text of the book directly into the email body.

Two days later I received this message, “Hi again, I sent an email to you Leslie and you never answered. Please when you get the chance, would you kindly answer? I so would appreciate it! I hope you can help me. I really do! Sincerely, Penny”

Maybe you’re wondering why I put up with this for so long. Partly because a piece of me still remembered how it felt to feel like her, and caring, I truly wanted to help. “Penny, I have now replied three times. I am sorry if you are not receiving my messages. Let me know if you get this one. This is my last attempt. Leslie”

Two days later, “Dear Leslie, I will try again to send you this email. I have sent you an email and you never answered. Please can you answer me when you get the chance? I was asking for your help and hope you will be able to do this. I don’t know how to get from my troubled life to a better life and it terrifies me. Life is going so fast and I don’t want to be in the same place next year. Oh God, there has to be a way. Sincerely, Penny”

Oh, I have no address, no phone number, no other way to contact her except to reply to her emails and when they do not reach her there is nothing more I can do except pray for her. I hadn’t heard from her for so long that for her to show up again out of the blue, while I was in the middle of creating this course, I had to stop and wonder why. Is there a lesson for me in this? There is wisdom to be gained in every experience and nothing happens by accident, so what positive could be derived from the seemingly impossible negative experience?

While I’d prefer that she be the one to gain the lesson, I had to look inward and ask myself what lesson was in the experience for me? What was God trying to teach me through it all?

You see, what she learns from our interaction is not within my control. All I could do is wonder what positive lesson I could personally derive from my interaction with her. Now, I realize there is a shallow lesson to be learned and that is this; I can’t spend my time trying to save everyone from his or her problems. Another lesson that sits on the surface of this experience is that a person has to want it bad enough before they will do what it takes to change. She was asking a question, in both cases making a request, but ending them with a period. It is almost as though she didn’t expect a response. Her plea was not direct but rhetorical.

But then I discovered a deeper, more meaningful lesson after our last run of disconnected correspondence. Penny is reaching out for help. She is asking for it. She’s persistent. I believe I have a few answers that could help her. I’m willing to help. I care about her and want her to feel some new hope and a sense of relief. So what’s missing?

The element that is missing is her ability to receive.

No matter how much I want to help her, whether or not she receives is up to her and only her. Knowing that I have responded in the past, she contacted me with hope and expectation that I would respond again. That is a critical mindset for success. However, when the help didn’t show up like expected, instead of looking inward to find other ways to receive what she sought, she automatically assumed I was ignoring her, and that once again in her mind, nobody cares.

Believing that nobody cares, she eventually stopped trying. Instead of doing more of the same, more emails with the same request over and over, and expecting different results, she might have tried a different approach.

If she could have continued to hope for a response and expect it to come and believe that I want to respond her next email might have looked something like this: “Dear Leslie, you’ve been very generous and patient with me in the past. I believe you want to help me but for some reason I haven’t heard from you. Is everything okay? If you are having trouble reaching me perhaps you could try my phone number or mailing address. I’ll include it here, or even better yet, I will not trouble you again until I obtain a copy of the book from the library and read it cover-to-cover.”

See that? The solution to every problem is only an idea away but when we are thinking only about appearances, our mind shuts down to the very ideas that have the power to liberate us.

I can’t judge Penny too harshly anyway because I remember going through a similar experience waiting for permission from a well-known poet to use her writings in one of my publications. I contacted her multiple times hoping for an answer which never came. Finally, I sent another request only to receive her response. It looked something like this: “Leslie, I don’t know why you aren’t receiving my responses, but yes, you may have permission to use my writing in your publication. I have responded three times now. I hope you get this because this is my last attempt.”

Sound familiar? I was surprised to find out that the problem was not with her. The problem was with me. I was not receiving the messages she attempted to deliver.

Both of these experiences caused me to reflect on the way I approach God with my requests. Sometimes I hope for the requested blessing and sometimes I even expect it, but my grandest requests have only been granted after I believed in my heart that God genuinely wanted to help.

When I pictured him delighting in my progress and feeling joy sending me the blessings I sought, it helped me more naturally do the things I needed to do to receive the very things I asked for, the things he wanted me to receive all along.

If it didn’t arrive as expected, I didn’t take it to mean that he didn’t want it for me. I took it as a hint that I may need to do something more, something perhaps a little different. I can look back and recognize now that there have been times when I have begged for help, asking for it the same way over and over again without doing my part to make it possible for me to receive.

Believe that God wants your family to thrive. He wants you to be able to provide abundantly for your children or whoever depends on you for support. If that’s what he wants, maybe he’s already trying to send it to you but you haven’t done your part to receive. That’s like praying for rain without bothering to till the soil and plant the seed. All the rain the world won’t help a crop that hasn’t been sown.

When you expect success and it doesn’t come, instead of automatically saying “I guess it wasn’t meant to be,” open your mind to the inspiration that will lead you toward your next step in the process. Be patient or even perhaps to consider an alternative idea that God knows will bring you even greater joy than you can imagine. The answers to your dilemmas are inside of you.

Even when I coach people, I am NOT there to provide answers. I am there to draw the answers out of the client. I ask questions back to challenge his or her thinking and allow the client to come to his or her own conclusions. I am NOT a paid consultant, an expert who has all the answers. I am a coach, someone who helps her clients to find their own answers.

Can you see why that’s important? Remember what happened to the guy who jumped and barked thinking it would produce a rabbit? You’ve got to get used to the idea of following your own gut feelings, and remember, gut feelings show up almost imperceptibly causing you to move toward your goal, sometimes unconsciously, after you’ve established a clear, firm, committed intention to accomplish something very specific.

To have that kind of commitment literally opens the channels for inspiration and divine guidance whether or not you realize you’re being guided. Even this course [Mindset Mastery] is not meant to be an encyclopedia of answers to every question. It isn’t organized like a reference book. It’s a tool to get you thinking. The progressive flow of ideas it leads you through, is intended to help you open, or strengthen the channels of communication between you and your very own personal inner source for answers. Call it intuition, inspiration, the inner voice, a gut feeling, whatever best fits your point of reference. There is a wealth of information here, but context, timing, and application of ideas will be unique to each reader.

Hi, this is Leslie Householder again. Thank you for taking the time to listen to this excerpt from the Mindset Mastery Program. At the conclusion of the entire lesson Mindset Mastery Program participants are asked to go to their workbook to complete the next assignment, an experiential designed to help them internalize the ideas and see real results. Remember, just like with Penny, all of the hoping, wishing, praying, visualizing, affirming, and asking for better conditions, will do nothing but leave you frustrated unless you do your part to receive.

I look forward to helping you figure this out and helping you discover and find the courage given the excitement to do it. There are so many more rewards waiting for you than you have the capacity to accept, so let’s remove those blocks that keep you from becoming your best self and accomplishing all you want to achieve. Begin your journey now by visiting prosperthefamily.com. I look forward to working with you!

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This concludes today’s episode of the Rare Faith Podcast. You’ve been listening to Leslie Householder, author of The Jackrabbit Factor, Portal to Genius, Hidden Treasures, Heavens Astonishing Help With Your Money Matters. All three books can be downloaded free at ararekindoffaith.com. So tell your friends and join Leslie again next time as she goes even deeper into the principles that will help you change your life.

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