When Someone Steps on Your Hair

“Leaning into” your problem is less painful than pretending it doesn’t exist.

One afternoon as I was playing with my kids, my sweet little two year-old stepped on my hair.

The instant I felt the pain, I pulled away to get out from under her little feet. It was my instantaneous reaction, albeit not very smart.

Lesson learned:

When someone steps on your hair, lean in, and gingerly remove them from off your hair before pulling away.

I know, I know… it’s not an experience that most of the people in the world will ever have, but it reminded me of a principle worth mentioning.

When you have pain in your life, financial or otherwise, just don’t panic. Panic leads to instinctive reaction, and instinctive reaction oftens result in more pain overall than is necessary.

Subconscious programs kick in when you’re in “fight or flight” (panic/survival) mode.

The key is to lean into the source of your pain, address it without panic or negative emotion, and handle it with a cool head. You’ll be able to solve your problem and avoid unnecessary suffering.

If the problem is that you’re short on money, don’t retreat from your problems, lean in. Go to the person you owe money to, and talk to them about it with a cool head and with the intention of finding a workable solution. Even if there seems to be no possible way to repay a debt, expressing your intentions and regret can leave you feeling more positive than if you pretend the problem isn’t there.

With a positive mindset, you’ll be more likely to eventually think of new solutions you haven’t yet considered.

So, any time you want to instinctively pull away from a problem (hoping it will go away if you just retreat fast enough), remember the lesson I learned from the two year-old who stepped on my hair.

“What if I can never repay my debts? What if I have to file bankruptcy?”

Keep browsing this blog. You’ll learn how to find your hidden resources, and also how to turn failures into successes.

You can also download my free ebook: Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters

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Meet Shantel McBride

Shantel McBride is one of our busiest Genius Bootcamp Facilitators. She loves Genius Bootcamp, and because of the quantum leaps it created in her life, she has been teaching what she’s learned ever since.

Outside of Genius Bootcamp, she also teaches other classes such as “Live Like You’re Dying”, “Ideal Life Vision”, “The Power of Words” and also offers personal mentoring.

At a time when I was running out of steam, Shantel showed up and became the wind beneath MY wings. She believed in my message, could personally vouch for its power, and has since been a strong driving force behind keeping the Genius Bootcamp project alive.

Shantel is a mover and a shaker. She hosts a show on K-Talk Radio called INSPIRED CONVERSATIONS, and is an in-demand coach and mentor.

Listen to her presentation at a TEDx event on the topic: “Live Like You’re Dying”. So powerful!

And of course, I should add, she continues to facilitate Genius Bootcamp trainings in Salt Lake City, Utah, and Mesa, Arizona.

Thanks for all you do, Shantel! You are certainly a force to be reckoned with!!

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The Tide Always Comes Back

Positive Thinking Tip: No matter how bad things appear to be now, nature guarantees a turn for the better. Look forward to it.

The Law of Vibration (you may have heard people call it the Law of Attraction) is a natural law of the Universe. In other words, so long as you live in harmony with the law, all you need in order to accomplish your goals can become available to you in a natural way.

But one less-discussed aspect of the law is how you need to maintain peace of mind during the process. You need to calm down and allow nature to run its course. Let me cite three examples in nature:

  1. You don’t rush a baby; whenever possible, you let it have 9 months to develop.
  2. You can’t rush a seedling; pulling on it to make it grow faster will cause it to die.
  3. You can’t rush the tide; it must go all the way out before it will begin to come all the way back in.

Life has its ups and downs… it is the natural rhythm of life. In order to succeed, we must learn to ride the tide instead of fighting it. How do we do that? How do we continue to hope for prosperity in the middle of a setback?

When you are on a “down,” know that the up is on its way, just as the tide comes in and goes out, predictably. When you worry that things are going badly and you can’t see the end of your misfortune, just remember nature simply doesn’t operate that way.

Don’t get trapped in a downward emotional spiral by thinking that things are bad and only going to get worse! That is just as absurd as watching the tide go out and thinking:

“Oh dear… there goes our shoreline forever! I suppose the whole ocean is going to disappear!”

Be patient. Look for evidence that the tide is returning. Look for evidence that things are turning around for YOU. Look for evidence of prosperity on your horizon. If you look hard enough, you’ll find it… and as you focus on an upturn of events, you will be preparing yourself to receive some great rewards; one being that you will figure out better, more efficient, more desirable ways to earn a living.

If the tide doesn’t seem to turn around as quickly as you hoped, think on this: you must plant your dream seeds properly (as outlined in The Jackrabbit Factor Ecourse), and then relax. You’ve got to simply go about your activities in a peaceful way, knowing that because you planted the seed, nature needs time to do her part, too.

(You need to be willing to let the tide retract completely before expecting it to return again.)

How can you apply these ideas?

Let’s switch back to the seed analogy. The minute you start to feel anxiety about your goal is the same minute you must remember the seedling. Just because you don’t see the fruit yet, know that it is coming. You might not even see the sprout, but you trust that something is happening beneath the soil.

That’s how I try to approach my goals. I plant them by doing what Richard did in The Jackrabbit Factor, and then I take the actions that come to mind in a calm, deliberate way. I might go a long time before I see any evidence that my efforts have made a difference. But I know they have, so I keep on keeping on, expecting that in time, I’ll see a sprout. Besides knowing this, I know that there is also some critical personal development going on at the same time.

Furthermore, when I see a little sprout pop through the surface of the ground, I don’t pull on it to try and make it bring fruit immediately. Patience and confidence are two of the most critical elements for enjoying prosperity.

Confidence is important because it is by your faith that the seed will continue to grow. Don’t forget how much influence your thoughts have over the circumstances you experience. If you lose confidence, then your doubtful thoughts can kill the fragile seedling.

Maintain faith. Believing is a choice… you can choose to believe in your ultimate success.

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The Zig Zag Principle for Success

Positive Thinking Tip: Pulling back or veering away from the goal is often a sign that you’re on the RIGHT track.

My NEWEST aha experience impacted me just about as much as each of the success principles I’ve been talking about now for the last ten years.

A friend of mine has built more than 12 companies: 1/3 were miserable failures, 1/3 did okay, and 1/3 were multi-million dollar successes – having started from nearly nothing.

Through those experiences, he has fine-tuned a process – identified a PRINCIPLE – that governs the success of businesses and business start ups.

I sat with him a couple weeks ago, having hit a brick wall in my own world and struggling to see what I was supposed to do next.  He knew just what the problem was – I had a blind spot – and he showed it to me.

The lights went on, and I have been awestruck by what I learned that day as I sat across the table from him. I had been feeling burned out, and viewed my desire to pull back from my goals as a sign of failure.  But he is a climber of Mt. Everest and explained that the climbers who charge for the top, taking the shortest route possible are often the ones who are found dead in the morning. He explained that the shortest route to success is NOT a straight line, and acclimation at each stage is critical for business longevity and overall profitability.

That’s when I realized that my gut instinct to pull back was good and right, and I was finally able to VIEW it in a positive light.  The glass which seemed half-empty (“I’m failing”) now seemed half-full (“I’m acclimating”), and the result was a new positive mindset. In my new mindset, I stopped feeling like I was doing something wrong, and once again felt qualified to receive  all I need for my greatest good.

This new point of view has given me permission to stop and take a breath as needed so that I can overcome adversity as it presents itself.

A book worth reading: The Zig Zag Principle

Because of how much the Zig Zag Principle has impacted my business, I want to make it easy for you to get your own copy.

Order his Zig Zag Principle book at:
http://zigzagprinciple.com

To your success!  Leslie

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Never say "Whoa!" in a mudhole

Positive Thinking Tip: never say “whoa!” in a mud hole

I’ve had a few challenges this week… character building experiences… and there is one phrase that, for a couple days, kept coming to mind at least once an hour. A good friend and mentor of mine named Ken Pierce gave me this advice many years ago. At times when I have been in a slump, discouraged by a perceived lack of progress, or when my objectives keep meeting with obstacles, the words “never say whoa in a mud hole” continue to return to my mind.

What does it mean? Well, if I am in a horse-drawn wagon and have to go through a mud hole, I’d be a fool to stop and wallow in it. The longer I stop, the deeper I could sink, and the harder it would be to get out of it.

Ken taught me that when you’re in a mud hole, you’ve got to accelerate instead! Get through it! Remember why you set out on the journey in the first place, and drive on, with more energy than ever!

Sometimes the mud hole is in reality a terror barrier. If you’ve got a dream for prosperity that you’ve been running toward, and suddenly everything appears to be falling apart, that’s when you have to spend more time picturing the results you want and less time emotionalizing over appearances.

Maybe you’ve heard it this way:

“Fear knocked on the door, Faith answered… and no one was there.”

Most of the time, the thing you fear is nothing more than an illusion in your own mind… it is imagining worst case scenarios that haven’t even happened yet, nor may they ever. It’s using the law of attraction against yourself.

Difficult things will happen to us on our life’s journey, that’s part of the experience. But we can choose to deal with them if and when they happen, rather than expending energy worrying about things that may never manifest. Why would we want to suffer through it more than once? Besides, as a wise teacher once said:

“You can’t worry enough about a problem to fix it.”

By the Law of Polarity you can be sure that when things look their worst, there is, in reality, the potential for an equal and opposite “good” to come out of it. For help with this principle, and to also discover what’s really going on around you when you switch your mindset, visit ProspertheFamily.com

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