It’s PERFECT: The Mindset that Fixes Everything

I had one week left to prepare for an important event where I would be presenting some critical information about a business deal to some very important people. A knot would tighten in my gut each time I thought about it, but I consciously did my best to breathe deeply and relax, knowing the best outcome would happen, if I could only stay in a peaceful mindset.

The night before the presentation I wasn’t quite prepared, and I knew it, not for lack of trying, but merely for lack of time. I stayed up most of the night putting together the last of my research, trying to line it up to be a cohesive, logical persuasion for those who would be making a decision the next day. How well I did at the meeting could mean the difference between thousands of dollars down the tubes, or putting us potentially more than $100,000 ahead within 2 more months.

Not long before I was to speak at the meeting, I was given some new information about others who would be in the room whom I had not expected, which added to my pressure. Besides allowing myself to become overly concerned with ‘what should I wear?!’ I also had to be concerned with whether or not my equipment would work properly, with no time to test it thoroughly first.

As the meeting began, I knew I had done all I could possibly do to prepare. I had to trust that my best would be good enough, and that my faith in God would help make up for my human deficiencies. It would have to; there was nothing more I could do.

While I intellectually relied on God to make it all ‘okay’, I couldn’t seem to quiet my stressed-out, frantic heart. I was flustered, lost my train of thought frequently, and basically ‘blew it’. The opportunity to secure $100,000 slipped through my fingers as I pushed myself to just get through the meeting and finish saying what I went there to say.

I felt sick inside. What more could I have done? I had given it everything I had. I knew the principles. I knew that ‘when something is really, really horrible, it is in actuality really, really phenomenal,’ but no matter how hard I tried to think right, I couldn’t seem to shake the feeling that it had been a disaster, and nothing more.

I tried to call my mentor to help me get my head back on straight, because I knew that was critical if I hoped to glean whatever benefit there was out of the situation. I HAD to think right, for I knew that my future circumstances depended on it. However, I couldn’t get through, and my messages were never returned.

Finally, I thought of an old friend of mine whom I knew would understand and could help. Why I didn’t think of her first, I’m not sure. I gave her a call, and she laughed with me as I told her how pathetic the meeting had been, and after I had let it all out, she told me one thing that made all the difference.

She said, ‘Leslie, the meeting was perfect. You did your best, and everything that needed to be said was said in just the right way. Those people heard just what they needed to hear, and anyway, who do you think YOU are to decide what should and shouldn’t have been said?’

I knew she was right. I had done my best to prepare, and I had turned it over to God. So who DID I think I was, to pass judgment on what God made of it? Suddenly, I began to consider that maybe my mistakes were exactly what God knew would happen, and what He allowed to happen because He had some higher good in mind for me and the others involved.

Who am I to say that the deal should have happened the way I had wanted it to happen, anyway? One thing for sure, is that when something doesn’t go the way I think it should have, it’s generally because God has something even better in mind, and He is working to knock off my rough edges to prepare me to receive the very best He has to offer.

I choose to believe that.

There are a lot of things I may never know about what ripple effects came out of that meeting. I have since been made aware of some very important ones that did. But if nothing more, it has given me a new tool for the times I am struggling to feel better about a bad situation. I tell myself now, ‘It’s perfect’ even when I don’t see how it possibly could be.

Even the most painful, difficult circumstances in our lives are ultimately for our good. They give us experience, they teach us right from wrong, they help us grow toward our greatest potential if we don’t fight it.

Okay, so I messed up a presentation. I don’t really have it all that bad, do I? Worse things have happened, and besides, in some way, I know that it was all for my good. I came away a little tougher, a little more compassionate, a little more trusting in God.

No matter how painful or embarrassing it was, it’s ultimately for your good and perfect for helping you reach your highest potential.

Whatever seems horrible in your life right now, you can choose to trust. Choose to believe that it’s the perfect thing for your personal development right now. As you calm down and believe this, you’ll find that doing so makes a huge difference in where your life goes from there.

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A little bruised, but grateful

Figuring out how Rare Faith works is not always a smooth process. But for those who are willing to keep trying, and who learn something from each of their toe-stubbing experiences, the process does get smoother. Our life experiences provide the education, but it’s still up to us to get smarter with each lesson.

The following share comes from Mindset Mastery Program participant Daniel Adams, who writes:

“Last November I left my job … I sculpted what I wanted my days to look like, and they have been that way, for almost a year now.

“…The Mindset Mastery Program showed up … and miracle after miracle kept lining up… money from places we had never expected, rich relationships, and transformational healing events with scholarships to them. SO MUCH to be grateful for!!

“So, in module 13 I was so pumped to make something really impactful. I’ve always wanted to run seminars and retreats, and now I had all the tools to do it. I went all in. I posted the goal statement all around my house about running a seminar. And I felt it, and I knew it was happening.

“I meditated and visualized and sensitized on the specifics: where it was, who was there, programming for guests, how they would feel, how I would feel, …content for the workshops, how much to charge… and asked everyday ‘what do I do next’?  I went WAY out of my comfort zone, making requests and inquiries and building relationships all over the community and the internet.

“The spa gave me a discount on space rental… Two powerful marketers showed up and offered free, detailed advice about how to fill the event. Various contacts invited me to come to their yoga studios and promote the event. And then people started showing interest!!

“And then the terror barrier showed up, as we used our savings month after month… and many of my music therapy clients moved on… and all of a sudden we needed this retreat to sell (can you feel the lack creeping in?). And I fought inside myself: can I really live this life? Who am I to make a difference and live my dreams? …one by one guests backed out, or postponed for one reason or another. Monday the resort asked for a final count, and I got to report ‘Zero, this time.’

“…The goal was that I would ‘Create & facilitate a powerful retreat for 12 women at such and such resort on Aug 8-11’ (‘Facilitate’ in Spanish means ‘to make easy’.)

“Ironically, the goal statement did get fulfilled—every word. …The spa general manager set a meeting for Aug 8. During the meeting, the resort said they were willing to partner on the event, and discount both my cost and guest’s costs even further, take on the marketing, and offer it multiple times a year. Pretty miraculous, and it happened ON the day for which I set the goal—Aug 8.

“There I was, at the resort ON Aug 8, ‘creating and facilitating a retreat for women’. …Rad. 😆 and frustrating 😠 because I put a lot of energy into getting that goal statement just right, but apparently December is when I’ll be paid for it. …

“All our learning always counts. Nothing is wasted. And now I get to set some different goals, with complete confidence that this process really works.

“SUPPORT has overflowed through this whole process. And even though this is the first month in 10 years of marriage we’ve needed to carry a balance on the credit card and borrow money from family for rent …there is a peace behind this…and a sense that our manifesting powers are extra heightened right now… In the last 3 weeks our grocery bill has been nil, because people keep taking us to dinner, and we’ve had a few family reunions. Synchronicity really is the new normal.

“Perhaps the largest shift is the one in myself. I’ve been so worried… about how to make money, that I forgot that when you provide more value than you consume, money is a natural flow.

“I’ve looked at the path, (and PB & J) so disdainfully since last November, and to be applying for part time jobs … is a pretty awesome slice of humble pie 🥧 because gratitude is needed in every leg of the journey. But I really can make impact on the path, or off it. And when you catch multiple rabbits, does it really matter how long it takes? Nope.

Randy Mollup’s line about being grateful for sandwiches and watching them get bigger and better brought tears to me, and I realized where I’ve been in conceited mis-alignment.

“And we’re still safe…a little bruised…and pride wounded. [But] I choose even that to be on the plus side of the stickman.

“…Grateful for your support, Leslie. Being connected to the laws through this process has preserved our sanity & hope & strengthened our faith. Hearing the context of what lead to the broom snapping incident (salty windows, your moves to Arizona where the market was wildly different) has been mirroring our own journey. To see you on the other side of that is so comforting. Gratefully, Daniel and Tina Adams”

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Emotional Prosperity

Following are some powerful thoughts from Mindset Mastery Program participant Annette Myers.

She writes:

I recently realized that one of the things I want most in life is emotional prosperity. Some people want financial prosperity, physical prosperity, or mental prosperity. I am, admittedly, an extremely emotional person. I feel the emotions of others. I feel my own emotions deeply, even though it’s not always apparent to others. I have felt very misunderstood for most of my life, because of the depth of emotions I experience. I often feel like people don’t know what to do with me because of the immensity of my emotion. 

Because emotions play such a huge role in my life, and influence so much of what I do and think, it’s not surprising that I almost always feel I lack emotional prosperity.

I stumbled across my desire for emotional prosperity quite by accident…

Click here to read the rest of this article on Annette’s blog

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When you’re in pain and someone asks how you’re doing

So you want to live by the Rare Faith principles, but doggone it, you’re having a bad day. How can you be real, and get the help you need, without ruining the process with negativity?

Actually, this is something we cover extensively in the Mindset Mastery program, but I’ll give you enough of a tip that you can use it right away. The following comes from a message I received from one of our program participants.

Kathryn writes:

I know the importance of positive thoughts in achieving my goals. I try to be positive, reading my affirmations and singing and doing many other things to keep my vibrations high. I’m wondering if you can give me some pointers on how to stay positive with health challenges. I don’t complain much except to my family (especially my husband) and myself. I frequently find myself saying (even in my head or to myself) things like, “I don’t feel good. I’m really off today. I’m in so much pain. I just can’t move. I’m so tired.” And so on.

I know this isn’t helping me, but I feel like I’m lying if I say otherwise when my husband asks how I am. How can I reframe these things to be positive? How can I answer him in a way that he knows he might need to cook dinner tonight (or help in other ways) without being negative or complaining?

My response:

Hi Kathryn, I’m sorry you’re going through this  that’s such a hard one. I watched my mother struggle with that for the last 30 years. Here’s an idea… Respond in the context of the law of relativity (with a worried smile, perhaps):

“It’s a down day, but I know it could always be worse, so I’m grateful this is only as bad as it is.”

Or in the context of the law of polarity, “It’s a bad day today, so I’m looking for the promised equal or greater benefit.”

Or in the context of the law if rhythm, “it’s a bad day, so I know a better one is coming.” And talk with him ahead of time to let him know that these responses are code for “I need your help today.”

For more on this topic, get started now in the Mindset Mastery program – I’d love to see you in there!

If that’s too big of a commitment for you at this time, start easy in the Fundamentals Ecourse. It’s powerful!

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