I recently realized that one of the things I want most in life is emotional prosperity. Some people want financial prosperity, physical prosperity, or mental prosperity. I am, admittedly, an extremely emotional person. I feel the emotions of others. I feel my own emotions deeply, even though it’s not always apparent to others. I have felt very misunderstood for most of my life, because of the depth of emotions I experience. I often feel like people don’t know what to do with me because of the immensity of my emotion.
Because emotions play such a huge role in my life, and influence so much of what I do and think, it’s not surprising that I almost always feel I lack emotional prosperity.
I stumbled across my desire for emotional prosperity quite by accident…
So you want to live by the Rare Faith principles, but doggone it, you’re having a bad day. How can you be real, and get the help you need, without ruining the process with negativity?
Actually, this is something we cover extensively in the Mindset Mastery program, but I’ll give you enough of a tip that you can use it right away. The following comes from a message I received from one of our program participants.
I know the importance of positive thoughts in achieving my goals. I try to be positive, reading my affirmations and singing and doing many other things to keep my vibrations high. I’m wondering if you can give me some pointers on how to stay positive with health challenges. I don’t complain much except to my family (especially my husband) and myself. I frequently find myself saying (even in my head or to myself) things like, “I don’t feel good. I’m really off today. I’m in so much pain. I just can’t move. I’m so tired.” And so on.
I know this isn’t helping me, but I feel like I’m lying if I say otherwise when my husband asks how I am. How can I reframe these things to be positive? How can I answer him in a way that he knows he might need to cook dinner tonight (or help in other ways) without being negative or complaining?
Hi Kathryn, I’m sorry you’re going through thisthat’s such a hard one. I watched my mother struggle with that for the last 30 years. Here’s an idea… Respond in the context of the law of relativity (with a worried smile, perhaps):
“It’s a down day, but I know it could always be worse, so I’m grateful this is only as bad as it is.”
Or in the context of the law of polarity, “It’s a bad day today, so I’m looking for the promised equal or greater benefit.”
Or in the context of the law if rhythm, “it’s a bad day, so I know a better one is coming.” And talk with him ahead of time to let him know that these responses are code for “I need your help today.”
For years I heard about Dave Ramsey and I’m embarrassed to say that (without listening to him myself) I had him pegged as the guy who helps broke people manage their limited supply, while I elevated myself as the teacher who helps people expand their supply.
At first pass, this may appear to be the case. But I want to set the record straight.
Listening to Dave Ramsey’s podcast and daily radio show has become one of the most inspiring, motivating things I do for a number of reasons:
(Pay special attention to reason #2)
1) Dave’s advice is solid. Scripturally sound too, if that matters to you. I honestly wish we had been listening to him back when we first started making a lot of money. If we had, we wouldn’t have nearly lost it all in 2008.
2) The good news is that the principles I teach help you get what you want. The bad news is that the principles I teach help you get what you want. Did you catch that? They work even if you set stupid goals. Dave’s program helps you choose smart goals. REALLY SMART GOALS.
3) In the past, I’ve offered psychological strategies for getting out of debt. While they make sense according to the principles, human beings do a better job getting out of debt by following his advice than they do mine. In time, I hope to update some of my materials to reflect my evolved point of view. My tips may seem good and right as they are, but the fact is, he’s got a longer track record of helping MORE people actually achieve the debt-free goal, and I’m not ashamed to tell you that.
4) I thought Dave was only about managing a limited supply. The truth is, he has a LOT to say about how to expand your cash flow. I never realized that before! Combine his tips with the principles you’ve been learning from me, and holy moly, you’d be unstoppable.
5) I thought Dave’s audience was only low income wage earners, and that high earning entrepreneurs had nothing to learn from him. GASP! Those of you who are already fans of his know how wrong I was. He has SMART guidance for helping you increase your income through entrepreneurship, if that is one of your goals.
6) The principles I teach are a powerful and appropriate rescue when you’re in crisis. But once you get on your feet and start building for your future, his advice will keep you on a solid path. It will keep you out of debt. It will keep you prepared for emergencies, it will keep you on track toward building wealth, and prepare you to give like no one else. At any point along the way, if you face another crisis, apply what you’ve learned from me to exercise faith and get yourself back on track quickly. Use the principles to achieve his baby steps in record time!
7) His baby step goals do not have to replace the goals you already have… but I do encourage you to listen to his podcast for a couple weeks and consider following his advice on what would be the smartest ORDER for obtaining them.
8) He’s entertaining and seriously MOTIVATIONAL! There’s nothing more powerful than hearing people accomplish seemingly impossible things. Like paying off your house in your 20s, or paying off $500,000 in student loan debts in only three years, starting out making only $50K/year. We’ve already made more progress since listening to him than we were making before.
9) Dave loves to point out how most people who follow his baby steps usually end up getting raises, promotions, or increased business revenue in the process. He says that God tends to bless the person who is on the right path, and I believe that wholeheartedly.
10) Some people disagree with his investment recommendations. I’m not qualified to comment on those. But I do appreciate the education I’ve been receiving, so that I can at least make more informed choices than I’ve been able to make in the past.
Oh, there are plenty of other reasons I’m excited about Dave Ramsey and what I’ve been learning, but just so you know, getting paid to promote him is NOT one of them. He doesn’t know me from Adam – I’m just another one of his listeners.
I just know that if you are feeling a little uncertain about what goals you should choose next, or uncertain about how to get out of debt, or uncertain about how to do what needs to be done without going into more debt, or if you just want to know what it feels like to not HAVE any, then I wholeheartedly encourage you to listen to his daily radio show or podcast.
I have colleagues who do not agree with his philosophies. I have colleagues who don’t agree with me, either. I don’t always say the same thing as other mentors or gurus (here’s why). The fact is, different mentors’ messages have had particular application to our situation at different times along the way.
But these recent years have been the right time for us to learn from Dave.
At other times, other mentors have been right for us, even when they had different counsel for us than what Dave would have taught. It’s all good. It’s all about getting the right advice at the right time. Not always because it is necessarily the best, but because sometimes we need to learn something from the experience, which helps us become more effective teachers.
Nathaniel Drew joined us for a Genius Bootcamp in 2015 and later sent me this message:
“Hey, thank you for your genius Bootcamp. It was an amazing experience. …My life has changed quite a bit. A lot of positive manifestations that keep gaining momentum.” He added, “My wife saw a video of you …[and] approached me in tears because she related with your story so much. She read The Jackrabbit Factor and had me watch the video. In a month’s time we went from $19k/year expecting to be starving artists for the rest of our lives to over $70k/year and much more to come on the horizon. Thank you for sharing your world of abundance with us. It really means a lot to us. … Thanks again.”
I replied, “Great to hear, Nathaniel 🙂 I’d be happy to spotlight your story in an upcoming newsletter, if you would like to [send more details]. No hurry, just an open invitation.”
Well, turns out he has a fantastic story, and I’m thrilled he took the time to share it!
He related the events of the previous several years in his own words:
“I don’t want to be a starving artist anymore!” I said angrily standing outside my mobile home. I’m not sure if it was to my wife or myself or God or the Universe.
You see, when my dear Emily and I began talking about marriage during our courtship I told her “You know, if you marry me, you’ll be the wife of a starving artist for five or ten years.” Not only was she ok with that, but she was excited about it.
At the time.
As we lived the life of starving artists for 10 years we began to see others making a lot of money. Even artists doing exactly what I was doing making a lot more money than I was.
I had written music for musicals, commercials, short films, long films, and even some amazing feature films!
So many times both she and I would get so mad. We knew how talented I was. We knew my compositions were technically amazing and I had won plenty of awards. We just had little money to show for it.
So it was, just after our tenth anniversary that I got mad for the last time. I cursed myself. I cursed the universe. I cursed my wife and my children and anything else I could blame. Anger and blame after all was better than the depression I had been through because I was now taking back my power.
One night I walked in the door from a torturous day at my studio and I closed the old heavy front door into our warm trailer. “Hey, did you get that video I emailed you?” she asked.
“Uh, yeah, the rabbit one?” I asked with smidgen of annoyance.
“Yeah, [about] The Jackrabbit Factor! It really has changed the way I look at things!” she said hopeful, but trying not to be too excited.
From here I must rewind to let you know some things about Emily to give you an appreciation of the place that she’s in at this moment that she’s offered this video to me. From the time we married it took seven years and many fertility treatments until we finally gave up on the idea of having our own children. Once we gave up our resistance we had our first child. Our son Liam. We then had our second son Peter 18 months after that.
She should have been the most elated mother in the history of the world, but she was depressed. In order to combat her depression she became determined and decided that she was going to run a triathlon. In order to run this triathlon she was going to train all summer for a specific triathlon at the end of the summer. She was so determined. She got up every day and went out to run. She scheduled other races that would lead up to the triathlon. She got her sisters and a niece involved who would run with her or watch the kids while I worked on my latest film score.
I had never seen her take such initiative. In the process she ran a half marathon! When she finished that triathlon I had never seen her more alive and happy. She even called it “easy” and “fun” and wanted to do more!
Many aspects of her life were changing. She stopped working so hard and started enjoying the kids more. It was this kick of empowerment that led her to Leslie Householder’s materials. “I haven’t looked at it yet, but I’ll watch it tomorrow if you want.” I responded.
“You should watch it right now!” Emily said excitedly.
I sat down with her and found the video [the one called Discovering Your Hidden Resources]. We watched together. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but after a while I began to feel excited. I wasn’t sure what to say. We talked for hours afterwards about the law of attraction and about emotions and about what we really wanted.
Those following weeks were full of emotion and change. I began to get up every morning at 5am and started a vlog called the 7 Day Journey. I began to clean and fix up my house and be proud of my appearance. I began looking at houses and different properties that brought me joy. I began to live my life in a way that my priority was to feel joy as much as I could.
Most of all we felt joy and love and peace surround our desires. Things began breaking loose in my life. I began to focus on the house that I wanted. I focused on creating and feeling good. Taking walks, getting enough sleep, getting exercise, meditating. Every moment of my life was a quest to find joy. I began to believe in myself again. To feel powerful and alive. To feel in control. I was finding my true self and my purpose.
The first two months I received more money than I had the whole previous year.
I remembered how well my brother-in-law was creating in his life and we began partnering up in business. We had a $50mil. development that funded that March. I created a high-class resort with a restaurant and spa. But the best is yet to come. The totality of my work right now is going places and doing things that bring me joy.
…I felt inspired to go to a certain University I graduated from. I sat in their brand new beautiful and open library all day. It was so fun watching students. It was as if they had idea bubbles coming out of their heads. So much energy and fun, and I just felt the energy flowing through me.
I then felt prompted to go and talk with the President of the college. I headed out to his office, when on the way I ran into some ladies from the music department from where I had graduated. They were talking about a new music building for which they were going to be getting funding. And it hit me why I was to meet with the President of the University.
I was in the office and scheduled an appointment that they normally don’t give, at a time that was perfect. I met with the President, Dean of the school of Arts, Dean of the school of Music and several others. I found them another $30mil for their arts building and created the first social media wing/program in the world for the arts.
They also wanted me to do their social media marketing (something I’m very very good at).
Everything just fell into place including talking with the former Mayor of the city who set up meetings for me to meet with state legislators for more funds and setting up meetings with Facebook. It was just an avalanche of momentum all at once.
It feels good to know my purpose and to listen to my inner being. It is so amazing when source energy is flowing through me and I am so excited to see this manifest in my life!
The funny thing is that it’s not even that much of a surprise. It just feels natural. I am a powerful creator and have always been. The only reason in my past that money has not flowed to me is that I haven’t allowed it to.
I’m not just a musician.
I have been expanding all of my life and I now recognize that. I have felt bad as a composer when I wasn’t willing to let myself expand. I will continue to find things that truly bring me joy, and I am so excited to allow more and more expansion within my life and allow myself joy and happiness and money and amazing relationships. Every moment of my life is my choice.
I choose happiness. I choose wealth. I choose love.