If you’ve been following my story since 2002 when I began my website, you know that life has been crazy-busy for me with the seven kids, moving to Arizona, launching my books and programs, trying my hand at homeschooling, learning how to cook better, and so forth… (forget about laundry, it still isn’t done).
You also know that every time I am expecting a baby I go through bouts of depression where it seems that no matter how hard I try, it is physiologically impossible to think positive… and maybe you’ve read about how I’ve discovered how to let “good” flow into my life in spite of me.
Well, in between the great strides I’ve enjoyed through my challenges, all these years I’ve also felt pretty buried, and heavy with all the responsibilities on my plate. Thank heavens I do get joy from sharing what I learn along the way, and I thank you for being interested in learning from MY mistakes and epiphanies. (Somehow it helps me feel like they aren’t pointless!)
My challenges are gifts that I am determined to conquer so that I can share what I learn and save you from unnecessary pain and heartache.
Amazingly enough, last week I discovered why there is no better place to be than “feeling buried” – and I share why, in the post about “falling to success“.
Another recent epiphany I’ve had is related to “being in resistance”. I recognize that because I’ve felt “buried” all these years, I have been in resistance to speaking at live events. I viewed them as inconvenient and time consuming, and with everything else on my plate, I could scarcely see fitting them in. It’s the reason I wrote Jackrabbit Factor… so that I wouldn’t feel guilty for not conducting my seminars!
However, I’ve learned that whatever you are in resistance to, will persist in your life. I have been in resistance to too many demands on my time, so as a result, the demands on my time have been huge. They’ve buried me. Now, I’ve stopped fighting it, and with the surrender has come new and unexpected growth. This process is described in detail in the story of the ambitious acorn… in essence, it’s my story.
If you are in resistance to lacking money, you will continue to lack money. If you are in resistance about bad relationships, you will continue to have bad relationships.
For me, I have learned that by being in resistance to additional demands on my time, my time seemed to evaporate all the quicker.
So, as an experiment, I consciously recognized my resistance, and consented in my heart to go with the flow. Richard Bach’s story clip in my Be in the Prosperity Flow post has had a massive influence on my decision.
What this means in my situation is this: since I want more time with my family, I must stop resisting time away from them. I have decided to come out of hiding and start speaking more willingly at live events.
Instead of avoiding events, I choose to welcome them. (Against my deeply rooted programs!)
This experiment is only a few months old, and already I have seen a major INCREASE in the amount of time I have enjoyed with my family. It is SO counter-intuitive… but whatever it is that you want to harvest, is exactly what you must plant.
If you want an abundant harvest of time, you must let go of a little more of your time. If you want an abundance of money, you must let go of a little more of your money. If you want respect, you must give more respect. If you want happiness, you must help others have more happiness. If you want loyalty, you must be more loyal.
Because of this decision to release the squeeze I’ve kept on my time, our business has taken new form. It has forced us to grow, and required that we delegate more.
Gratefully (and none too soon) I found an amazing assistant to help me handle all of my responsibilities (someone perfectly suited for the position – not just because of her professional qualifications, but because she understands what we do, inside and out, from her experience as an FTMF honors graduate and attendance at Mentor Training), and now we’ve finally got someone else handling order fulfillment, too.
I’ve actually started a garden with my kids! I’ve been to the Science Center twice in the last 2 weeks – something that used to happen with my kids only about once every 2 or 3 years. I’ve made some pretty darn good meals in the last month (relatively speaking, of course), and we just went to a big bounce house place as a family and created some fantastic memories (check out these video clips – okay maybe later when I figure out how to post them… I’m working on it).
Laundry still isn’t done, but hey. Maybe I will “surrender to laundry” and see what kind of growth or epiphany that initiates…
Joy comes from change, no matter how small it is. If you submit to growth in the right direction, you’ll enjoy the rewards.
I released my relentless grip on my time, and things have transformed to give me more time. It’s a miraculous principle, and I highly recommend that you consider: what are you resisting? Let go of your resistance to it, and you’ll find yourself eventually freer than you ever could have imagined. The current will pick you up and you’ll appear to others to fly.
(YES, there is anxiety that shows up when you get ready to make a change, but the Stickman Video will help you understand it, and know what to do with it. Updated video coming soon, so if you want to see the unprofessional version before it’s pulled down, you’d better do it quick!)
Now, more than ever, I am finding great joy in sharing the principles of success so that you can enjoy more time and money freedom with YOUR family.
I hope you’ll join me at one of our next events. I want to meet you! Join us live, and/or participate in a teleclass. Meet our official mentors as they begin to conduct events as well! They are AMAZING people and I can’t wait to begin introducing each one of them to you.