When you’re in pain and someone asks how you’re doing

So you want to live by the Rare Faith principles, but doggone it, you’re having a bad day. How can you be real, and get the help you need, without ruining the process with negativity?

Actually, this is something we cover extensively in the Mindset Mastery program, but I’ll give you enough of a tip that you can use it right away. The following comes from a message I received from one of our program participants.

Kathryn writes:

I know the importance of positive thoughts in achieving my goals. I try to be positive, reading my affirmations and singing and doing many other things to keep my vibrations high. I’m wondering if you can give me some pointers on how to stay positive with health challenges. I don’t complain much except to my family (especially my husband) and myself. I frequently find myself saying (even in my head or to myself) things like, “I don’t feel good. I’m really off today. I’m in so much pain. I just can’t move. I’m so tired.” And so on.

I know this isn’t helping me, but I feel like I’m lying if I say otherwise when my husband asks how I am. How can I reframe these things to be positive? How can I answer him in a way that he knows he might need to cook dinner tonight (or help in other ways) without being negative or complaining?

My response:

Hi Kathryn, I’m sorry you’re going through this  that’s such a hard one. I watched my mother struggle with that for the last 30 years. Here’s an idea… Respond in the context of the law of relativity (with a worried smile, perhaps):

“It’s a down day, but I know it could always be worse, so I’m grateful this is only as bad as it is.”

Or in the context of the law of polarity, “It’s a bad day today, so I’m looking for the promised equal or greater benefit.”

Or in the context of the law if rhythm, “it’s a bad day, so I know a better one is coming.” And talk with him ahead of time to let him know that these responses are code for “I need your help today.”

For more on this topic, get started now in the Mindset Mastery program – I’d love to see you in there!

If that’s too big of a commitment for you at this time, start easy in the Fundamentals Ecourse. It’s powerful!

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When you feel numb or emotionally depleted

This was an important question about how to live the principles of Rare Faith when you’re absolutely depleted, emotionally or physically. This came in from one of our Mindset Mastery program participants, and I want to share my answer with you.

JB writes:

I got half way through the program then my daughter had a breakdown. She is physically and mentally ill and had to go into a treatment center for 9 months last July. Life kind of stopped. I cried for an entire year. She is home now and doing better mentally but physically she is not doing well. I am her full-time caregiver and I’m just tired.

I got a free coaching session with a well known network marketing training company and during the consultation the coach asked how I was “feeling physically” and I was literally numb physically. After some talking we discovered that I am totally numb emotionally due to years of living in a traumatic situation several years ago. The situation with my daughter also causes me to be emotionally numb because I have to get through the day. I cried most of the time for a year but I was still numb. I was in a fog, just going through the motions.

He explained that if my emotional vibrations are numb and I’m not feeling then I’m not attracting anything good. Something like that. So how do I fix that? He’s right. I’m emotionally locked up tight like a vault.

I did [some] emotional healing … and it helped a little. I’m starting over on week 1 but I think if I don’t get this emotional blockage fixed it’s not going to do me any good since I have been studying the principles for quite some time?

I apparently also have an expectation of failure and fear of success. Any suggestions? Thanks 🙂 – JB, MM participant

This was my response:

JB, There were a lot of years when I was trying to apply the principles, while also recovering from some trauma that I have not written about. I know what it’s like to be in survival mode – what it’s like to live numb, because the pain is too great to let yourself feel it. Or sometimes you’re just numb because you’ve already felt it all too intensely, and the numbness is all that’s left from burning your emotional senses clean out. Hard to find the right words to describe it.

But here’s one thing I learned… there is MERCY.

What your other coach said is only true if you believe it is true. Sometimes, all you can give is a feeble attempt at seeing it done, and a conscious choice (even if it’s without emotion) to believe it is all going to work out, and if that’s truly all you can give it, it IS ENOUGH.

Sometimes it’s not feeling it, but speaking it: “I choose to believe!”

It’s not about how intense your “vibrations” are on the objective, it’s only a matter of how careful you are in giving no place for the doubt. To me, this is the difference between “The Law of Attraction” and what I now call “Rare Faith”.

God knows what you’re capable of. And when your capacity is low for all the good feelings the “law” requires, you can still experience success with just a little bit of faith (like a mustard seed), as long as you make a choice to kick doubt to the curb whenever it tries to creep in.

With God ALL things are possible. He understands your pain. He asks so little. Bring whatever hope you can muster to Him, and ask for his help, believing he is merciful. Lean in to his strength. Whatever you lack, He fills in. You don’t have to be superhuman.

Here’s a podcast where I kind of talk about this principle: https://ararekindoffaith.com/16-how-to-surrender/

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Laura’s Graduation Spotlight

I’m pleased to present Laura da Silva as our newest Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate!

It’s been fun watching her go through the Mindset Mastery process, and to see how quickly she recognized the little clues that helped her fine tune her goal achievement skills.

Some background, and a glimpse inside her journey, in her own words:

(Comments below come from the Forum)

“I went to a workshop that Leslie was speaking at, and that is where I started learning about life outside the box. I went home and read the Jackrabbit Factor and it was life changing! … 4 years [later]… we [felt we were] in a rut and need[ed] this program to help us get back on track.”

The search is over – moving on to bigger and better things!

“Prior to [a certain week’s] assignment, I had practiced visualizing, and receiving, for quite some time (I even used it to get rid of hiccups 😉 ). For this assignment I chose to visualize the office manager I need for my business. I had an idea of what I wanted and I received several resumes, but nothing that ‘wow’d’ me. So I really focused on it at this time. That morning (approx. 4 hours after doing so), I received an amazing resume. In her resume was listed word for word what I had stated I wanted/needed! Super excited!”

Upwards and onwards:

“When I started this program I had in mind the end results that I wanted to see (to be a lot more financially stable). However, God had another plan for me :). Through this program I learned, and continue to learn, so much about myself and my mindset and how it hinders me from receiving the blessings that are waiting for me. They are at the half way mark and it turns out I have had to do some ‘house cleaning’ in my mind in order to get to the half way mark. It wasn’t an easy road, but a road I would take again! This program provided me with the tools to clean out my life and put my mind on a different track than it was on. Along the way I have learned to manifest blessings I was ready for. If I had received all I set out for immediately, I would not have learned what I have needed to learn nor would I have grown. Thank you Leslie for this program as it has helped me so much, I am definitely a different person that I was when I started this program! It’s incredible how many ‘aha’ moments I had along the way, and continue to have! My life will continue to flourish as I continue to use these skills!”

Phase 2 Goal – $10,000 in a month – Achieved.

“It took me a long time to realize that I did accomplish the goal, because I had expected it to be generated monthly. …It was later that I realized I had not stated ‘monthly’ but rather ‘in A month.'” (Lesson learned!)

Program feedback:

“I really enjoyed this course as I was able to learn so much about my subconscious and that there are terror barriers to break through to get to our goals instead of retreating. Learning about the laws was also very helpful in understanding obstacles Thank you!!!!”

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Congratulations, Laura!

Laura da Silva owns a mental health clinic in Riverton, Utah called Lighthouse Counseling Services. She is the author of 3 articles: “Parenting – A Sacrifice Well-worth It,” “Battling on the Frontlines of Life”, and “Keeping the Flame of Motivation Alive”. She is also the author of 3 children’s self-help books: “When I feel Sad,” “When I Feel Mad,” and “When I Feel Scared.” In her practice, the laws of the Universe are practiced and taught. She also runs a family therapy retreat, twice a year, in Heber, Utah for families who are struggling with communication and unity. You can learn more about her services at: www.LighthouseMHCounseling.com

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Your Mission Impossible – A Guide to Finding and Fulfilling Your Life Purpose

There is nothing that this world can offer that is more gratifying and more satisfying than you finding out what your “mission impossible” is on this planet. You have a divine mission and purpose to fulfill. This guide will help you have the courage to do the things that will help you step into your life’s mission and fulfill it. Remember that you have a life’s mission – you do!

Mission Blockers

What gets in the way?

There are two things that are going to get in the way of you discovering and fulfilling your life’s mission:

  • distractions, and
  • lack of resources.

Distractions come from a variety of different sources and are sometimes very convincing in their disguise and can try to tempt you off the path. These distractions can be anything we take for granted in our culture, like the media, technology, social media, video games, friends, even a pimple!

If there is one thing worth remembering, it is that your friends are the biggest influencers in your life. So as you’re choosing friends, pick those who are also searching for and committed to fulfilling a life’s mission.

Another distraction that you’ll face are feelings of inadequacy. These can be feelings like I’m not good enough, who am I, or who am I to make a difference. The world wants you to think you’re not good enough or you’re not smart enough and that’s a lie. I found out that everybody has inferiority issues. Everybody, at some time in their life, is going to feel like I’m not good enough because I have this problem, or I’m not good enough because that happened to me and I’m so different.

You don’t have to worry about that. All you need to do is what you feel like you’re inspired to do in that moment. You may not even realize your next action is inspired. Step by step, by just doing what you know is right, one day you will look back and say “Holy cow, look at what I’ve accomplished!” People will also look at you and be inspired by your example.

When I was 12, I realized that I do belong to some big divine family and I do have an important mission to fulfill. All of a sudden, all those distractions that were keeping me from being awake to it just diminished and banished.

Having a conversation with your Creator for 20 minutes is a powerful way to get rid of the distractions and to build self-worth because once you have felt God’s presence in your life, you will not feel unimportant. You will feel very important and you will know that nobody can say anything to you and have it affect or change who you really are.

So trust that there is an unseen power guiding and directing you to your life’s mission. You can get past the distractions and not worry about lack of resources. Just take a deep breath and be at peace. Remember that life always has a way of creating experiences for you that steer you in the right direction. You are already on that path to discovering and fulfilling your purpose and you don’t need to rush or panic to find it.

Make it your mission to find your “mission impossible” because at the end of your days, you’re going to remember the things that really mattered. That’s why it is so important to live and stay conscious of the things that really mean something in your life right now. When you look back on your life and what you’ve done, you’re going to want to say, “I was courageous, I did the scary thing.” It’s about having the courage to step into your life’s mission, to take that step and fulfill it.

Facing Change

You need to learn how to deal with change because that is the one constant you can depend on. Nothing in life is permanent but change. There are going to be times in your life where you’re going along and unexpected things are happening around you. Your friends are moving, leaving town, having a baby or your own family is changing in its own different way.

Maybe you’ve experienced times like this already, at home, in your workplace or relationships. Stuff changes and you’re like… well, this isn’t what I thought was supposed to happen! This isn’t what I had expected. I don’t know what to do with this, what do I do with this?

In uncertain situations, the wisest thing you can do is to stay relaxed. This will make you more inclined to know what to do. That inner voice that we all have is going to say it’s okay, this is part of the plan. There is a reason for this, and you’re going to look back on it as something that shaped you and prepared you for the leadership role you will take in life. The experiences you are given are there for a reason. They are there to shape you and to help you become all you can possibly be.

“Blessed are the flexible, for they shalt not be bent out of shape.” No matter what happens or turns up in your life, learn to stay flexible and fluid and be ready to adapt to whatever comes your way. Life’s test is about becoming flexible, finding and fulfilling your mission, and being prepared to respond to whatever life throws your way.

Open Mind

In times of change, the learners will inherit the Earth while the learned will find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists. So, if you’re trying to do the impossible in your world, to complete a mission that seems “impossible”, you’ve got to disregard the things that kind of put your mind into thinking structures that limit the possibilities.

When I studied math at college, what Non-Euclidean geometry did for me was it taught me problem solving. It taught me that I needed to have an objective, a purpose and to identify what I had going for me. I also needed to have gratitude for what I had, be able to brainstorm, learn from others, make an effort and keep moving. You’ve got to look to the horizon.

In order to find your life’s mission, there may be times when you have to think outside of the box. Whatever you are called upon to conquer, whatever you are facing now or will face in the future, there is one principle that you can depend on. That is, that no matter what you are called on to face, you already have all that you need to accomplish it, to fix it, to solve it. Sometimes, it is even possible for your biggest challenges to become the seeds for the greatest inspiration.

I, myself have had to learn that things don’t always go as I planned. Sometimes things don’t always go exactly how I think they should go, but every experience it has woken up something new inside of me that I did not know existed. So, if you feel like you lack something, count your lucky stars because it’s going to wake something up inside of you when you accept the mission that seems “impossible”.

Receiving Answers

The best way to get answers when you’re looking for direction, advice or counsel from within that will steer you in the right direction is to ask a question. For example, if your question is: what am I supposed to do today? Or it could be, should I call George today? There is a difference between the kind of answer you will get: one is specific, while the second one gives you agency.

So, if God is going to answer you with the first one, He would have to give you many, many words or impressions, maybe even a picture in your mind, to get the message across. Yet, with the second question, all you would need to get is a yes or no, and you have a very clear answer.

The way to finding and fulfilling your mission is easy, and it will take you the best places you could possibly go in life. When you let go of your fears and the need to fit in, you can let go and trust in the journey. When something in your heart says it’s time to take that leap, take that leap and trust that God will carry you.

You are a leader and a dreamer, and you don’t need to live on the bottom any longer. Of course, there will be times when you might be dashed against the rocks to test you, to see if you’ll cling to what is comfortable or to see if you will give up clinging altogether. Trust the flow of life to carry you and one day, people will look at you and say “Wow, a person like ourselves, look how they fly!

Related: Mission Impossible and Other Outrageous Lies (podcast)

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