Unseen Help at Your Service

Positive Thinking Tip: You have unseen help working on your goals with you. When your goal is detailed and clear, the help stays on task with maximum efficiency.

You may not know this, but our online School of Life Mastery was originally expected to open a LONG time before it actually did.

Here’s why:

After I created the curriculum and loaded the content, my husband (who, in his previous life worked in the IT department for Universal Studios) headed up the site structure and development.

Many times, during the first half of the year, the developers asked how certain pieces should be handled; and not only did I answer with vague generalities; but (to everyone’s dismay), I also quite often changed my mind.

Even worse, sometimes my answer was, “Oh, whatever you think is best.”

Well, months later – having also spent tens of thousands of dollars more than expected – we looked back on the project, and ultimately realized that it still wasn’t ready to open because basically, our developers were required to work on a moving target.

Putting the original date to the goal was ineffective, because the target had not been clearly and perfectly identified.

During those months after the target date, the site became intricately developed; but every time we thought it was nearly done, we’d see that it wasn’t quite right and needed to be reworked.

My problem was that I didn’t know well enough – right from the beginning – what I wanted.  I didn’t know how it SHOULD be.

All I had was a general idea; and I guess I just took it for granted that the developers would just figure it all out for me.

(I guess I assumed they could just read my mind and see the vision I had without my spelling it out in detail.)

Ultimately, after going in circles one too many times, the developers finally INSISTED we give them a fully-developed ‘spec’.

A ‘spec’ is a document that specifies in absolute detail, every single aspect of what the site needs to be able to do, and precisely how it’s supposed to look and behave under every possible user action.

It’s the blueprint for the website.

After spending more than a year creating the curriculum, I was frustrated that I’d have to help create a ‘spec’.

I wanted to say, “I already did MY part; can’t you all just figure it out?”

But with only vague directions, and different perceptions and approaches between the developers, problems kept cropping up.

Beta testers were losing data, new registrants were finding themselves trapped in frustrating loops, and then worst of all, we finally realized that the whole system had been built in the wrong environment, causing problems that weren’t going to go away unless we essentially started all over.

So here’s the point of my confession.  I’ve been teaching people for years the importance of putting goals in writing, with detail.

And to be honest, I have successfully achieved many goals without going to the trouble.  It’s tedious work to put it in writing, and I don’t enjoy taking the time.  But this experience taught me how much more quickly, and more smoothly (and less expensively) goals can be achieved if you do take the time to create a ‘spec’.

The school finally opened much later than we wanted, but it’s changing lives now, and I hope you’ll join me there: School of Life Mastery.

I learned that goals can be achieved if you just muscle it through, one way or another; but you’ll be more efficient, and your “developers” will be better utilized if you don’t leave so many variables up to chance.

So what about you and your goals?

  • Are you vague, or are you perfectly clear about what you’re pursuing right now?
  • Do you change your mind often?
  • Do you sit back undecided and say, “Oh, whatever is best“?

The truth is, what’s best is that you choose excellence.  Excellence doesn’t happen TO YOU.  You’ve got to step forward and initiate the change you keep wishing for.  Life provides hardships and challenges so that you’ll wake up and start doing the uncomfortable things that help you become your best self.  That’s why the hardships are a gift.  The painful site delays and setbacks have been a gift, to teach us this important lesson.

So, if you care about the outcome of your goal, and if you care about how quickly and inexpensively it is realized, then take  responsibility for your life and write a ‘spec’.  Write your goals in detail, as though you were describing exactly how the finished project (your life) will look when it’s done.

Imagine that you really do have a ‘developer’ somewhere busily working for you, arranging the right people and opportunities for every one of your objectives.

But every time you change your mind, he has to drop everything and start all over.  If you’re unclear, then even if you don’t change your mind, it’s almost guaranteed that what shows up will be different than what you really meant.

I can say that from personal experience!

(By the way, I never physically met the developers we were working with; so in many ways, they are like the ‘unseen help’ that comes to your aid when you set a goal.)

So, create that well-documented ‘spec’.  Or if you’re not a techie, maybe it’s easier to imagine that you have some kind of an angelic ‘foreman’ waiting for your blueprint.

Sure, you could probably still achieve almost any goal without a blueprint or a ‘spec’; but the time, energy, and money lost from meandering and course-correcting can easily set you back so far that you may run out of steam entirely before the dream is realized. 

That’s the risk you take when you do not put in writing the things you need and want with detail.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that God and the Universe will ‘figure it all out’ for you.  In that case, you may end up meandering and course-correcting a lot more than necessary, because you’ve been given free agency to choose the good causes in which you choose to be anxiously engaged.  Heavenly ‘help’ is available to you as soon as you’re ready to enlist it.  But it won’t impose upon you.

Decide what you want, and then ask clearly and in faith for the assistance you need.

Don’t be paralyzed by waiting to know exactly what your goals ‘should’ be.  If you think about what you want, and make a decision firmly and resolutely to go for it without hesitation, then if for some reason it’s wrong, you’ll find out soon enough and have sufficient momentum to make the proper course correction in time.

I hope you’ll join me in the FTMF home study program (either through the physical version that gets delivered to your door, or through the online version in the School of Life Mastery), where I help you create a powerful goal statement and show you step-by-step how to make sure the ‘unseen help’ is activated on your behalf.  When this edition runs out (soon!), the new edition probably will NOT include my personal assistance at the mid-term ($199 value, included free).  So if you want my personal attention on YOUR goal, be sure to get one of the versions we currently have in stock before they’re all gone!

Choose either the online version or the physically delivered version, or get more information at: www.prosperthefamily.com

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Leslie is the award-winning, best selling author of The Jackrabbit Factor: Why You Can, Hidden Treasures: Heaven's Astonishing Help With Your Money Matters, and Portal to Genius (all FREE downloads!). She aims to help you crush every challenge, achieve every goal, and vanquish every monster under your bed. Above all, Leslie is a dedicated wife and mother of seven children.
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8 responses to “Unseen Help at Your Service

  1. These comments are so true! For years I was trying to put the laws of success together in my life with only a minimal amount of goal setting. Naturally, my goals, those that I even bothered to write down, were very difficult to reach, if they were reached at all. Only recently, have I taken the goal writing and reading process seriously and besides discovering that I enjoyed the process more than I thought I would, I can now feel a major difference in my life direction and the effectiveness in applying the laws of success. So I would add my voice to yours, don’t fail to take the time to plan, or you are planning to fail.

  2. Hi Leslie,

    I hope its ok I make a second comment here. It was still on my mind this morning after making my comment last night.
    I was reading my scriptures this morning in Moroni 7. (The Book of Mormon) It talks about miracles and getting the help of angels (Unseen Hands). As I was reading I was imagining living my mission. I’m trying to figure out how to put into words what I saw and how it connects to this blog… In my vision of how my mission will be put together, it is something bigger than me; something I cannot do by myself. I imagine that as we are united in a common vision that each person will learn their mission and step forward to put their piece into the puzzle. I think that’s what you were feeling when you wanted others to “just figure it out”. If they buy into the vision that is right for us all (God’s Vision), and as they ask God their part in that vision, then they will be able to figure it out. God is the one orchestrating all that is happening on the earth in these last days, and if we look to Him as our Chorister, we will be able to play the symphony that will bring unity.

    What I’m saying is that I understand your desire for “others to figure it out”. If we live our true mission, that is part of God’s vision for us all, then we each will figure out our part to play. This is where the Unseen Hands comes in. That as we seek our true mission, He will be there waiting to build and orchestrate what we desire in His light. As we each come to figure out our mission, we will play in God’s symphony.

    This is just what I see happening in the music of the world all around me. I curious to know if others also see this happening…?

    Thanks for playing your part! God bless,
    p.s. Leslie- What do you think about starting a thread on the forum for a blog discussion area?

  3. I really like the power of believing that there are Unseen hands working to make my thoughts become reality. Seeing your story really helps me realize the power of this process because of the actions and the results you had. I know that my results are a direct result of my actions. This reminds me of the Law of the Harvest: that what I get out will be in porportion to what I put in. I think as I read what I have written every day from my vision and work to feel it, that little by little it becomes more vivid. Really I just try to keep notes as He plays the song.
    I like to use special dates like today (11-11-11) to commit to something. I have been searching for what it is all day, and now I have it. I am committing that I will read and define my vision more often. I will get better and better at focusing on exactly what I do want to make happen.
    Thanks Leslie. Knowing you is raising the level of my thoughts.
    All the Best,

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  6. I am a Learning Consultant and have been working with a software development team for about two years now. My focus has been in the area of Agile software development. Agile involves many different practices, but some of its key principles are regular communication (through daily “scrum” meetings) and flexibility. The development team plans its work for a discrete period of time, for example, two weeks. They can then adjust their development plan and approach as required for the following two-week period, or iteration. This approach leads to products that better meet the requirements of the end consumer as only the most critical and highest priority features are included in the product. I can’t help but think that an Agile approach would have helped your School of Mastery development. The principles advocated by Agile are also transferable to many life situations. I know that I sometimes get overwhelmed in my own life, and it’s certainly easier to manage a small subset of priority tasks rather than everything on my to-do list!

    Best wishes.

    • One downside with ‘agile’ development is that product management uses it as an excuse not to figure out the requirements in advance. Agile is great, no question, for being able to run prototypes past customers and get immediate feedback that can be used to improve it. But working on a small subset of priority tasks should still be done in the context of the ‘big picture’.

  7. Thanks this was a good read